Ok. Lets admit women. There is this desire deep inside us that our husband would be our deewana, forgets the whole world after marriage, does not give importance to his family and friends over his wife etc.
Lets discuss all the possible strategies to control the husband (positive as well as negative). This thread does not intend to spread evil but we should know how far women can go to control their husbands and ‘snatch’ and hide them from the whole world
I know one woman who used to constantly insist to her husband that she was the most sincere person to him on earth and all his family did not care about him, did not love him as much as they did other brothers and did not respect him because he was less educated than other brothers and did not earn as much as them. The guy ultimately started thinking bad about his family and left them to be with his wife and children only.
I also heard another woman’s story whose husband was not that happy with the marriage but she cared for her husband literally like a slave and the guy finally accepted his wife and became her deewana.
May be what I heard was one sided stories. But who cares. These are good strategy for all the women out there
Any other strategies and ideas???
Remember, the strategies should lead to this outcome: The husbands fully dedicating themselves to their wives, forgetting their families of around 30 years and always say haan jee haan jee to their wives
lol. Thats what I want to know. Aurton ki soch kitni ghatya ho sakti hai?
What I want to establish is that women do not always have to use politics and negative strategies in their married life and can try to manage things with their good nature and character. Thats why I presented two cases. But I do not see that a lot in the society and for that matter of fact on GS.
A woman can be dedicated to her husband as well as the in-laws and the husband can genuinely love her and respect for all her character and nature.
And if anyone noticed, I am being sarcastic in the original post inspired from all the recent threads.
Well if you want to Qaboofy your husband then you shouldn't even get married to start with. Marriages should be about love and respect for each rather then a race to see who controls whom
Well if you want to Qaboofy your husband then you shouldn't even get married to start with. Marriages should be about love and respect for each rather then a race to see who controls whom
Very true and I fully agree with this. Majority of the girls start their married life with this positive thinking. However, soon their behaviour start reflecting the ideas mentioned in my original post. Why would girls start comparing the relationships with their husbands with that of the relationships their husband have with their moms and sisters? Why do women think that they have left their homes and family for the husband and now he should be leaving his family for her? I have heard such comments from newly married girls which led me to think this. Is it some kind of tit-for-tat behaviour?
^I guess it's more of their own insecurity then any other thing but that's how girls are raised in our culture. We have been taught from the start that getting married and having an obedient husband is the ultimate goal of our life so our thinking resolves around that hemisphere. If we have more confidence in ourselves the situation might be different
^I guess it's more of their own insecurity then any other thing but that's how girls are raised in our culture. We have been taught from the start that getting married and having an obedient husband is the ultimate goal of our life so our thinking resolves around that hemisphere. If we have more confidence in ourselves the situation might be different
You hit the nail on the head. And there is no problem in admitting that this problem exists in our society. Its just that its not talked over that openly but we do hear alot about women "k us ne apne mian ko qaboo main ker lia hai".
i dun understand y is everyone taking it so negative...there can also be positive strategies to qaboofy a husband like giving him alot of love,showing more care,respecting his family bla bla...guys come up with positive points plz :)
i dun understand y is everyone taking it so negative...there can also be positive strategies to qaboofy a husband like giving him alot of love,showing more care,respecting his family bla bla...guys come up with positive points plz :)
There is no harm in qaboofying the husband if the intention is to save the marriage. As I mentioned in the original post, I had seen one forced marriage and the guy was not happy with the marriage as he wanted to marry somewhere else. The wife tried her best with her good nature and behaviour with the husband as well as the in-laws that the husband finally accepted her as wife.
Besdies, recently I heard my friend's husband getting involved in his colleague and started an affair (with an illegitimate physical relationship) that my friend had to file for the Khula. She could have saved the marriage if she worked to "qaboofy" her husband immediately when she started witnessing the changes in her husbands behaviour. This could have been through giving more time, attention and love to the husband.
Why are we so qualified in taking things negatively?
No children untill he is firmly under the thumb, they will distract you from your ultimate goal.
But beta, to ensure that you husband will listen to your advice and gets seedha, you have to produce an offspring of his. Otherwise he will never grow up
LOL! I have heard a lot of aunties say this one. They think once you pop out his kid, he can’t/won’t leave you and then you can pull him away from his parents
Oh, and for laughs. One of the sides of my extended family swear by this *surma/kaajal. *They say if the bride puts it in her eyes on her wedding day and when her husband sees her for the first time in the mirror during the aarsi-muusaf, the surma has so much jaadoo, that the husband, upon first glancing at his wife in the mirror will become lattoo right away. Talk about ways qaaboofy to your husband
inspired from all the recent threads.
