finally!!! finally!!! someone understands me and sees me for who I am.
Thank you thank you thank you.
PS: can you please tell PCG that you are right and she was always wring and us men infact are not pigs. Thanks
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It seems like women are never happy. If man cheats he's horrible (which he is btw), but even if he doesn't cheat, you still have a problem over his reason for NOT cheating? What now? Marriage isn't a bollywood movie. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. (oh no i did NOT just quote maroon5). It's real life--and sometimes u will feel so tired out from life that the last thing u think of is romance and sex. This goes for both genders. It's not being jaded/pessimistic but realistic. Be thankful that a man is so devoted to his family that he works so hard for his family taht he doesnt have time to cheat!
if this is a blatant generalization against the men…then might i remind you to atleast think about the men in your life…like…your father…brother…husband…are they too the same as you have so elegantly written in your post? i understand some men are total jerks, some are little and many are not at all like that. but you have no right to paint all men in the same color. show some discrimination.
if you think you are right then for a start…begin with all the men in your family and work your way towards outsiders.
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billi ko cheechroun ke khwaab 
if u were a real stud…u wouldnt need advice from the ghareeb fellows on GS on how to manage more than 1 woman.
u just aint da real deal!
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oh wait …i have another one…
counting your CHICKS before they hatch! 
!!!
I am going to hope that a married man's decision to overcome temptation and continue to stay FAITHFUL **to his wife has **something (even a little bit) to do with love/care for his wife. The fear of losing the kids and the wife taking the car, the house, and other material things might have something to do with it as well. But I'm still going to have hope that he has at least an iota of love/affection for his wife....to not put her through such pain.
red - the wife gave me/ is giving me the best years of her life. She gave me the most precious gift not once, twice but thrice (my angels), even though initially i thought that it's going to mess up my ten year plan and destroy my professional ambitions. She is helping me through my un-ending 'Growing up' period. She takes care of my house. My friends/family think that she is a better person than me and would rather spend time with her. She is there to spice things up when life seems like a repetitive nightmare (yes the s-x does get better with time). On and On and on.
The question was that how to you stay 'faithful' to the same woman and my response was based on my reality. 'Love' is just a buzz word and i would think that some of the points I mentioned above can be classified as 'Love'.
Having said all that, I am a red-blooded man and the reality is that sometimes I have this extremely strong urge to get down and dirty with other women. To counter that i have come up with my own set of "How tos". When women are cheated on, they blame themselves for not being up to par physically. I am saying that you can be the hottest thing on the planet and your man will still have nasty thoughts about other women from time to time. It's up to the man to come up with the reasons he will remain faithful. Those reasons might not exactly be romantic - deal with it. I want to stay faithful to my wife and I have my reasons and i call it 'Love'.
One more thing - 'a few minutes with the wife to release that tension' does not mean that you are thinking about someone else when you are with her. It simply means that the erotic thoughts you were having for someone else before you were with your wife would not be so intense after you've been with her. Fine line here but a very important point to be made.
Hope my posts help some confused anti-marriage folks out there.
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and what are those How-tos? 
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Okay Stork, I feel much better now, thanks for coming back to explain further. :)
It is the bitter truth we all learn to swallow.
And yes it is true. Men are not monogomous creatures.
No offence, but are you a man? How do you know they cannot be monogamous?
STORK, I must say…
I do admire your honesty and your realistic view on things. :k:
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^ Me too.
red - the wife gave me/ is giving me the best years of her life. She gave me the most precious gift not once, twice but thrice (my angels), even though initially i thought that it's going to mess up my ten year plan and destroy my professional ambitions. She is helping me through my un-ending 'Growing up' period. She takes care of my house. My friends/family think that she is a better person than me and would rather spend time with her. She is there to spice things up when life seems like a repetitive nightmare (yes the s-x does get better with time). On and On and on.
The question was that how to you stay 'faithful' to the same woman and my response was based on my reality. 'Love' is just a buzz word and i would think that some of the points I mentioned above can be classified as 'Love'.
Having said all that, I am a red-blooded man and the reality is that sometimes I have this extremely strong urge to get down and dirty with other women. To counter that i have come up with my own set of "How tos". When women are cheated on, they blame themselves for not being up to par physically. I am saying that you can be the hottest thing on the planet and your man will still have nasty thoughts about other women from time to time. It's up to the man to come up with the reasons he will remain faithful. Those reasons might not exactly be romantic - deal with it. I want to stay faithful to my wife and I have my reasons and i call it 'Love'.
One more thing - 'a few minutes with the wife to release that tension' does not mean that you are thinking about someone else when you are with her. It simply means that the erotic thoughts you were having for someone else before you were with your wife would not be so intense after you've been with her. Fine line here but a very important point to be made.
Hope my posts help some confused anti-marriage folks out there.
janay do mr-phunnay khan...
kahawat hai....haathi ke daant khanay ke aur...dikhanay ke aur.
janay do mr-phunnay khan...
kahawat hai....haathi ke daant khanay ke aur...dikhanay ke aur.
chui saab - kahaan ka haanthi - aub tu sirf haath hi mera saathi.
chui saab - kahaan ka haanthi - aub tu sirf haath hi mera saathi.
teesmar-marka-agar-batti-khan....like i said....haathi ke dant dikhanay ke aur khanay ke aur...aur zahir hai haathi ka saathi koun ho ga? haathi hi hoga. chui to ho nahe sakti.
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i just joined so cannot read all previous posts but my believe is Nikkah is a sacred step n if u do it with heart Allah creates love b/w u n ur spouse n this was in a Hadiith too.So if u r too messed up do Istikhaar and ask Allahs help for true guidance and a well suited partner.
When i was young i used to think same thing abt husbands that how can i lead my whole life with same person(sex was nowhere in my mind though).but the day i got married somehow i don't care for even the handsome person.I might admire them but won't leave my husband for any of them just coz they r gudlooking.
Also if u ask ur married friends or couples married for long u'll see most don't hav sex everyday or even every week.they both go thru certain changes n grow together as ppl n as partners.However u sometimes do hav to make efforts to keep the spark going.So marriage is a relationsip that unlike friendship or blood relation needs lot of effort,sacrifice n commitment.
Also think it this way if u don't get married wat r u gonna do specially when sex is so imp to u..Either go the unislamic way of satisfying urself (even that will bore u in long run)or b miserable n turn into a cranky,grumpy old guy whose married friends won't invite him over as hes the bachelor n family will detest as a burden"her roze chala ata hai,koi kaam dhand hai nahin"(imagine ur bhabis saying that at ur back)