btw, some of teh day care centers or day care providers are trained in topics such as developmental activities, CPR, hygiene and health, and the ability of the child t interact with other kids in a learning atmosphere can be excellent. I dont think that an avg run of the mill BA (hons) pass imported wife from Pakistan who stays at home and takes care of the kids has the background, nor the training to do well in this area.
hubbies are not trained for massage, porfessional psychological advises to relief stress after hard day work
i think we ought to replace them with gigolo, psychologists, and professional massage guys in order to improve our lives
if you are missing the point on purpose then I cant argue further.
the point is simple, just because she stays at home, does not make a woman a good mother.
oh and by tat token, guys should be stay at home dads, why leave the child raising only to the women, why not play your part in the proper upbringing of your child? ;)
What a sexist thread. Why does everyone think that it is in the best interest of the child that the mother stays at home? Why not the freakin Dad?
And the idea of a ‘child care center’ is as old as humanity itself. Read some on Hunter Gatherers & early cave people living habits. Not to mention more than 50% of women in the world are poor and they work their butt off every day to put food on the dirt ground they eat off of.
i wouldn't mind being @ home with kids, at least one parent shud be home with the kids at all times until they r in school for 6-7 hours a day, cuz sum1 has to pay the bills. Make sense or no?
so a stay at home mom is only stay at home to give birth and breastfeed?
the question s not about expectant mother, but for someone who already has a kid. Does the need for a stay at home mom end when the kid is no longer being breastfed, or does the practice continue until kids leave home for college in some parts of society?
Why do we always have it like a 'competition'...??
I'm a SAHM....n would like to stay that way.....but that is because I know I can not manage things on both fronts. It really depends on individual capabilities. And I know there are mothers who are capable of doing all this.....including many in my family. Hats off to all those women. But the sad thing is how SAHMs are stereotyped.
As soon as I mention k I'm a housewife....People are \ready to assume k I spend my day glued to telly or gossipping on the phone.Khair....nevermind!
the question s not about expectant mother, but for someone who already has a kid. Does the need for a stay at home mom end when the kid is no longer being breastfed, or does the practice continue until kids leave home for college in some parts of society?
well, if bosses are ready to give as high position to a mother who has taken 5 years off in her career to give birth and breastfeed 2 / 3 kids, yeah sure i think it's nice to be working mom...
but i don't live in dreamland, women who take years off for kids are exploited by their bosses who will take ANY opportunities to bring them down and reproach them their lack of avaibility because kids are sick or whatever, and their lack of "youth", or their lack of experience.
edit: the day when women will get as much as men for the same job, sure i'll be favoring working moms, but as a feminist i can't promote exploitation of women by men, who would like us to work twice (job+kids+house) as much as them for 25% less!
Afia, what about working mothers who are stereotyped as bad mothers? go back and look in this thread.
my point from the onset has been that just because one is a stay at home mom or a working mom does not make her a good or bad mother automatically. Some people do not agree with it and have blanket statements about the choice that a working mother has to make and that she is a bad mother just on the basis of that choice.
Infact I believe that not a single person other than the parents themselves has ANY right to comment on it. No parent bring their child in the world with the intention of not caring for her/him.There are many many aspects needed to be considered while making the choice and these aspects are best known to the parents in question.
your stay at home mother was maybe a begum sahiba chilling out....
mine was not, sorry, she was working hard for our (me and my sister) success, making us read, do homework, and go to sport, music, etc...
and she was taking good care of house too, and all her friends, other stay at home moms were also busy and taking good care of everything, and their children had usually better result in school that those of busy working mothers who had no time to make their kids read and do calculus in evening
u think leaving ur kids at baby-sitters is much better than u being with them, yah a good mom would do that, wow, good logic.
what is wrong with you?? Nobody says that they are happy leaving their children....of course they love their kids but not every family can survive with just one income. Nowadays, it takes both parents' incomes to live comfortably.
I know several psych majors who are going on to being physical therapists, nurses, doctors/pediatricians etc.. English majors can go onto journalism, teaching and even law
And what about girls that get degrees in finance or medicine and their hubbies want them to NEVER work?
And like fraud says, it’s the quality not the quantity that counts. A stay at home mom who does nothing but watch TV and not help her kids wiht the homework coz she doesnt know englsih and never did anything higher than matric or BA , isnt erally benefiting her kids at least when it comes to their education. I know stay-at-home moms in Pak who, even though they haven’t gone higher than FA/BA, are deff into their kids education and read with them everyday, as well as doing other household stuff..
