stay at home mom vs working mom

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^I’m one and I work very hard

[Afridi786]

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@Mallika

what is wrong with you?? Nobody says that they are happy leaving their children....of course they love their kids but not every family can survive with just one income. Nowadays, it takes both parents' incomes to live comfortably.

it those circumstances i dont mind, im talking about when u can live comfortably on one income, but still choose to work rather than be at home with the kids.

[SolarOceans]

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you know what, nevermind.

[Aish]

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@symbol

what about girls that get degrees in ridiculous fields like “psychology” or “english literature” and dont want to get off their butts and GET A JOB because once they get married, they are supposed to be treated like princesses and be showered in shopping money?

whatre u talking bout

[Impulse]

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im keeping my mind open at the moment about this. i dont want to think about it yet until the time comes :)

family would always come first. if i feel that after doing all the housework etc i still have a lot of time free which i waste.....id work to make use of it :)

[COCO]

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@hsap

a loving/caring wife + a responsible mother + an efficient professional( at job) = makes a perfect woman , there’s no doubt about it , a qualified woman who have a supportive husband have every right to do whatsoever she feel like doing , and if a man doesn’t want his wife to persue her career and stay home than he shouldn’t marry a highly qualified professional woman and ruin her career.

THANKYOU>>>WELL SAID>:D

[Mr_Fraudia]

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@parissenoor

your stay at home mother was maybe a begum sahiba chilling out…

mine was not, sorry, she was working hard for our (me and my sister) success, making us read, do homework, and go to sport, music, etc…
and she was taking good care of house too, and all her friends, other stay at home moms were also busy and taking good care of everything, and their children had usually better result in school that those of busy working mothers who had no time to make their kids read and do calculus in evening

please be a civilzed person and not make this into a thread about what type of mother my mum was.

Just for the record my mum spent time as a stay at home mom and as a working mom, and in both cases she ran an excellent household, with full support and help from my father and with full support and help from her kids.

Please be very very careful next time you decide to make a discussion personal and drag my family into it. Thanks

[naina_wali]

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I have a working mom. She was a working woman even before her marriage and my father never stopped her after they got married. She is still working. She worked when i was 1..she worked when i went to school..she also worked when i was in college.. she is still working when im in university and i feel very proud of it. Because she gave almost every free minute of hers to us. She never made us feel that we were missing her. She was always always present at my school functions..parent teacher meetings..farewells, she never made me feel that i have a working mother who couldnt take out time for me because she is at work.
On the other hand it was my father and still is who doesnt find much time to spend time with us after he comes back from work and he prefers to go to sleep. While mama has never made us siblings feel that she isnt at home for like 7 hours everyday. Even my father appreciates her alot for what she has done in helping him to run the house and in upbringing of us kids. She looks after the house, does the cooking, talks to us sisters, takes us out for shopping, makes our weekends the most wonderful ones and she does alot more mashAllah. I guess it depends on the individual ( the mother) of how she handles things and how she divides her time and makes sure she is giving time to both places, work and home.
The way i have seen my mom handling everything at home and at work, i will prefer to be a working mother and help my husband just like the way my mother did. :-)

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@naina wali

I guess it depends on the individual ( the mother)

it also depends on the child as well. My sister was working for a huge CPA firm which took up most of her time. Her 8 year old used to hate that she worked (he told ther that). She decided to put her career on hold for him....it made such a huge difference. He was doing better in school etc. She spent weekends with him and cooked and clean as well. It didnt matter to her son....he still wanted her home.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Impulse

im keeping my mind open at the moment about this. i dont want to think about it yet until the time comes :)

family would always come first. if i feel that after doing all the housework etc i still have a lot of time free which i waste.....id work to make use of it :)

good point...you cant really say til you are faced with a situation. Some people may feel one way now and may end up changing their views later.

btw...i dont think there is a such thing as free time for stay at home mom's :) at least not for the stay at home mom's ive come across.

[naina_wali]

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@AnGeL EyEs

it also depends on the child as well. My sister was working for a huge CPA firm which took up most of her time. Her 8 year old used to hate that she worked (he told ther that). She decided to put her career on hold for him....it made such a huge difference. He was doing better in school etc. She spent weekends with him and cooked and clean as well. It didnt matter to her son....he still wanted her home.

I havent thought like this, maybe because i've never felt this way, like ur nephew did. I was always happy my mother worked and I dunno why but i was proud of her and I still am.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@naina wali

I havent thought like this, maybe because i've never felt this way, like ur nephew did. I was always happy my mother worked and I dunno why but i was proud of her and I still am.

and u should be....from what u described your mom is like supermom :)
not to many moms like that out there.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@naina wali

I havent thought like this, maybe because i've never felt this way, like ur nephew did. I was always happy my mother worked and I dunno why but i was proud of her and I still am.

also this is why i was saying it depends on the child. if your child seems to be suffering despite all your efforts.....then its not worth working. If the household seems to be happy then kudos to the mom.

[naina_wali]

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^
She is even better than what i have described mashAllah. This is why I am saying I am proud of her. :-)

[Mamaof3]

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The thing to remember when making this most personal of choices is - what do YOU want, what are YOU capable of, what are YOUR finances? Those are the factors that should be considered when you make your decision for your family. Me personally, I know I'd run into trouble trying to do well in career while trying to raise my boys but am lucky enough to have a hubby who earns enough to get by without my having to work. I give much homage to those "super mom" types who run a perfect house, advance in their careers and raise the perfect kids....but me - I'm not up to it, I need to have one focus in life and its my kids and my house. Realizing your abilities and your limitations is part of being a grownup yeah? You have to really look at what you are, what you want and what youre able to do - not only for yourself but for your family.

[Femme_Fatale]

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@ahmadjee

What a sexist thread. Why does everyone think that it is in the best interest of the child that the mother stays at home? Why not the freakin Dad?

And the idea of a ‘child care center’ is as old as humanity itself. Read some on Hunter Gatherers & early cave people living habits. Not to mention more than 50% of women in the world are poor and they work their butt off every day to put food on the dirt ground they eat off of.

yes AJ we already know- all u want is to stay at home

[Mr_Fraudia]

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ahmedjee should change his nick to nikama hadharaam