if u were given da choice wud u rather be home with ur kids or pursue ur career?
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i would never marry a woman who would pursue her career rather than be with her kids at home.
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I think this topic is reincarnated every couple months. And it always comes to the conclusion that it's a personal choice and between the couple. As long as the kids are happy and healthy and mother is happy then everyone benefits.
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i'd rather be home
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Solar, do you mean you would have a home based business, work from home and stay with the kids? Or would you start working when they are in school?
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Two will work, two will not.
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a loving/caring wife + a responsible mother + an efficient professional( at job) = makes a perfect woman , there's no doubt about it , a qualified woman who have a supportive husband have every right to do whatsoever she feel like doing , and if a man doesn't want his wife to persue her career and stay home than he shouldn't marry a highly qualified professional woman and ruin her career.
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If halaat allow me, inshallah I would prefer to be a stay at home mom/housewife.
I wouldnt want to work in the ideal world.
If financially I needed to work then I am confident I can get a good job to support and help my husband as I am qualified in an area where I hope I can always carry on professionally.
I really respect and admire women who have children and also have careers, it is not an easy thing to do. A man could rarely be stong enough to work all hours of the day and then mentally handle children at the same time.
Some people slag off women who work after marriage, and call them bad mothers. Why do we have to be so judgemental, do we know the reasons she needs to work? Does she have to justify herself to society?
I have studied all my life, strived to be good at school, college, uni, work, progression, experience, professional training whatever. There has always been a goal at all times in my life that i've needed to achieve. I have never just 'sat' there, it takes effort to work your way up in life on your own.
When I get married I don't want to think of 'career' as I know what I can achieve I don't need to prove myself to me anymore. I want to have a simple life, be a housewife, look after my husband and my kids:)
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I'd like to be at home until they were in school full time (and maybe longer, depending on how I feel). But if I felt like I was getting bored (which I doubt, because there'll be plenty to keep me busy I'm sure) I'd see if I could get parttime work from home.
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i would take my kids to work with me, duh
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the solution to all our problems is a guy that has loads of $$$
i dont ask for much i think even above $100,000 a year is a pretty good target for the man to be making.
so if u choose to be a stay at home mom you'll have a kick as$ life. the maid can take care of yucky chores like cleaning the bathroom and u can do the cute lil' stuff like go shopping for your baby for cute frilly clothes and organic baby food and take your beautiful kids out for a stroll in their carriage and enjoy all the attention "awww what a cute baby awww!". get two maids one for holding the baby when they are no longer cute (crying and pooping) and one to take care of cleaning and errands :)
VAH! Life ho tou aisi. mere sapno ke raja kahaan ho tumm?
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i'll be hiding my kids under the desk or whatever. If they wanna play they can draw on themselves with markers
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this topic has been beaten to death...
I'd like to pursue my career until i have children. After that I would like to stay at home with them. Once they are old enough to go to school full time I will continue my career.... perhaps working from home some days of the week. I dont think I would really be actively pursuing my career (meaning full time career woman) until they are self sufficent....at what age a parent considers their child to be self sufficient varies.
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Agree.
I’m planning on SAH but it is super tough to give up the mental stimulation of career and the whole “goal” of doing something…lets see what happens. i hope to at least do something outside of the house volunteer somewhere at least
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Career first... for now
I can't imagine myself not working.... its fun..
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Put it this way, a guy just works, spends an hour with his kids and is considered normal.
A working woman not only spends time at work but also takes out time to do housework, look after the kids, attend school meetings/functions, bake/make stuff for food fairs and socialize with other stupid moronic mothers just for the sake of it.
Who is the best :LB:
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Its all abt the understanding the couple have between them. Its not just a lot of asian men that would like their wives to be stay at home mums but white men as well. My hubby is a white convert and when i had my daughter he said it was up to me but he wud prefer it if i stayed at home and took care of the baby. But he did also say that if i wanted to go back to work i could and we could have a nanny for the baby. I had my daughter quite young so i know i can go back and pursue my career once the children start school. Plus im happy being a housewife for the time being. But it depends on a lot of things-a lot of couples cant afford to have a stay at home parent and need the money to keep things ticking over at home. There is no right or wrong answer to this. U have to do whats right for u.