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hmm, thats why i tihnk i dont like general actually i never liked it
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aahmed picking on young girls is beyond my understanding!
Laughable... if they're old enough to drop 25 grand on a watch, they're old enough to be criticized. You can't have it both ways.
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hareem01 its not about rich, infact i am not rich at all did i at any point say i was rich? no! i said i was ALHUMDULLILAH well off. i dont know but i think u do selective reading and then give comments in general. and hitchki its not about coming to the uk and flashing money, i have been to the uk many times and i know what goes about. btw which area do u live in?
London/midlands
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Please stick to the topic. The topic has to do with being treated differently based on appearances and not about her spending X amount of money on an item.
Aisha from your first post the way u described your appearance.. i pictured a homeless bum (broken eyeglasses? ) so i think its a bit too much to expect a salesperson at a high-end boutique to treat you nicely.
you have to give them a break here...they cater to a specific demographic and they dont want to waste their time (especially if they make commission) on people who they "think" are not likely to buy (or afford)
everyone makes judgements based on appearances.
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Peace Sister aishaindubai
The first advice (by your mother)
Wear expensive so sales persons don't think you've been wasting their time when you don't buy.
According to your story you didn't take this advice.
In fact you liked what you went in to see but you didn't buy it anyway until later. So the stigma in the salesperson's mind is probably crystalised.
In your rage you said:
'i was so angered and i forgot about my disguise and i said in my british accent
"u think i cannot afford this? i can afford many like this!!! NOW SHOW ME"'
This is not a nice thing to say to anyone is it? Even if that salesperson has judged you, when you were pretending in the first place, it seemed a bit senseless to get angry.
This behaviour crystalises the stigma that rich or well off people don't care for the feelings of people.
Now I don't believe that every rich person is cold-hearted and I don't believe you are either. At the same time I don't like to generalise about the sales staff also. There may be some sales people who don't look at what you're wearing and treat you like a genuine customer.
So here is my advice:
Even though you will get people falling into stereotypical moulds we should not judge people either way. Whether they are customers or sellers rich or poor, take each person with his/her own credit.
Another advice is ... I wouldn't let the opinion of people bother you as long as you are doing halal things, that means spending halal and treating people nicely then you are okay to do as you wish. Oh, and always seek protection from the envy of the envious one.
Personally I would have to disagree with the basis of the advice by your mother, whether a 'poor looking person' doesn't buy or a 'rich looking person' doesn't buy, the time for the salesperson has been equally a waste of time and sales persons will still get annoyed with any customers who don't buy, the only difference may be that they won't necessarily show it to 'richer looking people', generally speaking of course.
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thank u for ur nice adivice and saadia jee my dad says i cannot have a job outside the family business so i guess my dad's money is always gonna support me
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25000 dirhams is a lot of money, i wud never be comfortable buying such a watch even if i could afford it
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hmmm really well it was my grad gift
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hmmm really well it was my grad gift
Aisha one question with no offence....Why did you buy that watch?
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because i like it and its very very beautiful
and its an investment because it has 113 diamonds on it.
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whats a abaya? is it that notorious ninja suit aka burqa? then i dont understand, how would the salesperson know what you were wearing underneath?
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excuse me its a respectable piece of clothing not a notorious ninja suit ok :aq:
yes ur correct she wouldnt know thats why i wore my dirtiest abaya and sheila and btw burqa is not the same thing as an abaya a burqa is a face piece thing which covers the nose and the mouth but an abaya is a piece of clothing covering the body.
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I was a salesperson for a month. I treated every client the same, or so I believe. It didnt matter to me if the person looked rich or not. If neither client bought anything, it meant I didnt make a sale. I didnt feel better if the person was wealthy and didnt buy, as opposed to non-wealthy. It didnt make a difference to me in the least. No sale is no sale.
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nope thats a gals watch!!! and really well u might be different but in general i have noticed that appearances do matter
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oh okk wtch is nice bt nt dt nicee ... i feel dt it is aisha's money n she cn spend it wheres she likes .. however i dont feel appearances matter i dun wear swarovski crystals to show dt i am a potential customers or armani glasses however in d end i just buy d item dt i need .. dis concept may be in dubai however i havent even noticed it in pakistan .. i think u kinda lots d plot of ur own xperiment maybe as u by purpose dressed totally down n dey may hve thort u wear very poor hd u dressed normal n gone into d shop d treatment wudnt hve been so different from wen u went in wid ur crystals n armani .. also ppl dresses as u were wid dirty clothes n broken glasses wud nt go into chanel dt is y d salesperson mus hve been shocked ...
dis is my opinion n i dun mean ne offense to u aaisha
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no no thats fine but btw my regular everyday wearing eyeglasses is armani and they are not that expensive only 700 dirhams for the frames.
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yep i hve armani glasses for eyesight from pakistan bt deyre nt real dey cost me 4300 rupees so i doubt it haha i thort u mite hve d real xpensive ones u knw
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Aisha,
Think about it this way. And I am talking about your moms statement about wasting a persons time.
If you worked at a store and you had a poor looking customer come in and you thought to yourself, hmm, this person cant really afford things in this store, you wouldnt give them that much time. Because you feel they cant afford anything, so sure, you dont give them much of your time.
Now you see a wealthy person come in, so you think to yourself you can possibly make a sale on this person, so you lavish them with your time and attention. Now, considering all the hardwork you just put into that wealthy customer, versus the blaise attitude with the poor one which you pretty much assumed couldnt afford anything, which one will make you feel wasted more of your time when neither of them buy?
I think many people would say that if you put a lot of effort into something and got nothing out it, versus if you put little effort into something and got nothing out of it, the one where you put in lots of effort was more a waste of your time. I could be wrong here, but I think if people know aforetime that neither customer will buy, they wont put much effort into either of them.