I meet a girl online, we talk for hours online/offline … and get pretty much involved, pretty much same story for all the net finders. .i hope .. ..
Then after sometime we think about building a solid relationship… got involved the parents, they meet each other. Everything is going fine…
In the meantime we have our disagreements on issues, but pretty much never came between us.
But now by the time its getting insane, she can’t stick to a decision we made either its about small things or big. She will definitely start doing what she wanna do no matter how much we talk and i explain why she should not do it.
One issue was about her old net life, i said now please delete old id’s, we have family members on Facebook so it not looks good if you keep having the old nicknames and so on. She said oki, and in December she created a new id with real name and also added my family members & Dad too. Everything seems to going fine, then suddenly she delete her ID and reactivate old id. All the comments/discussion goes to nowhere. I ask her why she did it and her response was i can’t leave my friends and old net life. I said fine.. add your friends to new ID, but she don’t wanna. We have kind a fight on this issue, and i explain to her everything about family problems and relationship building if she keep behaving like that. She said oki, she was wrong and she will come back with old id. Its been a week, i ask her why you didn’t come yet, she said she don’t wanna, actually she wanna leave the net life, … i was like wtf?
Her attitude/thinking just make me sick, she is something in the morning ..and something else in the evening, can’t stick to decisions, don’t care about anything but herself in every way.
Now from last few days, i am thinking with open mind instead of emotional one and i see we have so many differences that just doing compromise all the time will make life hell.
Yes true it may make 'your life hell' but one has to compromise in any relationship.To be fair, the things you are arguing about seem rather immature and neither here nor there.
Yes true it may make 'your life hell' but one has to compromise in any relationship.To be fair, the things you are arguing about seem rather immature and neither here nor there.
Yes maybe so but in relation to the example you put forward, I would let that slide, it seems to be a non-issue.
You should sit down and talk face to face if you are having doubts. Weigh up the pros and cons of your relationship. Take time to reflect upon your relationship.
Maybe there is a reason why she is acting so indecisive. Communication is the key.
hmmmmm she is incredibly stupid!!!!! she has no idea for a fake life(E-life) she is willing to mess up whats real(u and her)
Now hopefully she will change once you get together in real life. But make sure before you get there You dont already have enough grudge to let her go.
hmmmmm
And some time stupidity don't dont stoop after marriage. Girls get divorce because the cant give up on guy thing.
0hh he is my friend
ohh he passed me this comment.
ohhh he looked at me.
When you stop them they called you oppressor. BUT when you divorce then and move on with your life.
You having a non-moronic wife she being single after 7-10 years + 2-3 failed relation + 2 broken nikahs.
THAT same girl will post poem for you on his face book telling
ohh i still love you.
ohh I still think about u.
Ohh we both made mistake.
U say NO ------ It was U!!!!!!
NOW READ THIS CAREFULLY UNLESS HER FAMILY IDENTIFY HER HABIT AS AN ISSUE. I SUGGEST YOU BACKOFF. CUZZ WHEN AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE YOU TRY TO MAKE HER ACT DECENT SHE ALONG WITH HER MOM IS GONNA DEAMONIZE U.
if mum is wise enough she will support you and tell her kid its time to stop.
hmmmmm she is incredibly stupid!!!!! she has no idea for a fake life(E-life) she is willing to mess up whats real(u and her)
Now hopefully she will change once you get together in real life. But make sure before you get there You dont already have enough grudge to let her go.
hmmmmm
And some time stupidity don't dont stoop after marriage. Girls get divorce because the cant give up on guy thing.
0hh he is my friend
ohh he passed me this comment.
ohhh he looked at me.
When you stop them they called you oppressor. BUT when you divorce then and move on with your life.
You having a non-moronic wife she being single after 7-10 years + 2-3 failed relation + 2 broken nikahs.
THAT same girl will post poem for you on his face book telling
ohh i still love you.
ohh I still think about u.
Ohh we both made mistake.
U say NO ------ It was U!!!!!!
NOW READ THIS CAREFULLY UNLESS HER FAMILY IDENTIFY HER HABIT AS AN ISSUE. I SUGGEST YOU BACKOFF. CUZZ WHEN AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE YOU TRY TO MAKE HER ACT DECENT SHE ALONG WITH HER MOM IS GONNA DEAMONIZE U.
if mum is wise enough she will support you and tell her kid its time to stop.
now Good luck!!!
Ditto. ..
I feel its a communication gap but we talk for hours. I don't know what's the problem, either i can't understand her or she can't me.
Her mother told me she has this problem of doing what she like, or stop talking for days or keep saying whatever she wanna say for hours... according to her mother they don't say anything to her and she is fine after few days... ..
I am hanging in the middle, .. if it's go along like this i can feel life will be hell...
But now by the time its getting insane, she can't stick to a decision we made either its about small things or big. She will definitely start doing what she wanna do no matter how much we talk and i explain why she should not do it.
women usually don't like being told what to do. Maybe it's hard to give up her old life
I would tread lightly.... if you want her to change behavior and she agrees and doesn't comply - you got an issue on your hand.
I feel its a communication gap but we talk for hours. I don't know what's the problem, either i can't understand her or she can't me.
Her mother told me she has this problem of doing what she like, or stop talking for days or keep saying whatever she wanna say for hours... according to her mother they don't say anything to her and she is fine after few days... ..
I am hanging in the middle, .. if it's go along like this i can feel life will be hell...
if mom supports you then I say its not too bad. Hang in there.
some time ppl are not too bad but they get involved in rather stupid stuff, that case shock treatment works fine.
women usually don't like being told what to do. *Maybe it's hard to give up her old life *
I did mine..
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I would tread lightly.... if you want her to change behavior and she agrees and doesn't comply - you got an issue on your hand.
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If she need time, i gave her too much already on every issue/problem, but this seems to be not working. Either she feel insecure or her brain mulling, i have no idea coz she never speak up about it.
I told her about changing id's to her real name because family members present, and she come back with the reply "i like my nick and i am gonna change it to my real name" ..
being a guy, when you keep getting responses like that, one feel like shyt and in the middle of the road* (fight with family over her - now feel like an idiot) *seriously !
Save yourself while you still have a chance...you are the lucky one that you are able to see all this before it's really too late.....
Move on, she sounds trouble, well all of them are, but most have a built-in ability to hide the evidence for a long time which doesn't seem to be the case with her.
Maturity comes with time. Neither she gona stay the same nor you. The things she won't understand, she will after some time. But the question is, Is it really love? If it is, stick together. If not, than just let her know and chill. Not worth trying.
Maturity comes with time. Neither she gona stay the same nor you. The things she won't understand, she will after some time. But the question is, Is it really love? If it is, stick together. If not, than just let her know and chill. Not worth trying.
Families involved already - i fight with everyone .. ahh it was crazy day/nights, i will become a laughing stock, but anyway i don't care about myself.
All i think about her, if any breakup happened being a girl her life will be ruined, .. i just can't imagine more!
Save yourself while you still have a chance...you are the lucky one that you are able to see all this before it's really too late.....
Move on, she sounds trouble, well all of them are, but most have a built-in ability to hide the evidence for a long time which doesn't seem to be the case with her.
;)
RC
Its not about me, maybe i am the problem and she will be the lucky one. I am just looking for the others opinion about the situation, after gathering i will make a decision on it.
Its not about me, maybe i am the problem and she will be the lucky one. I am just looking for the others opinion about the situation, after gathering i will make a decision on it.
Thanks !
How can you say that, you are a man yaar....how can you be wrong ....
Just kidding ;)
May be nothing is wrong, just you 2 are not meant to be life partners...
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.. when i was young.. :halo: