im finding it sooo hard to do anything abt my life…i have lost all hope n motivation for life…im just dragging myself along n let things happen to me…i was passionate n i had plans…but looks like i have failed myself…i have come down to my lowest point n i dunt feel like starting it all over again…i have gained weight…my skin is messy…i cant think clearly…im numb all the time…indiffernt to wats hapeening arnd me or TO me..i have just graduated n i have a nice job…but im not happyyy…i have lost all my frnds…n im findin it hard to move on…
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are u a relative of dark angel???
what is it exactly ur finding hard to move on from?? and why have all ur friends ditched u? the first thing u need to do is stop comfort eating… food-is-NOT-your-friend!!! 
you shud keep reciting tht in ur head or try this one.. a moment on my lips.. a life time on my hips!!! u dont wna look like big mama now do u?!
peoples plans keep changing with the course tht life takes them on.. so what if u failed… get up, stop feeling sorry for urself and try again!
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Talk to your parents about what you want and what you need and what you had intended to do but it aint working ... they will be the best people to give you advice on what to do cos they are the two people who know you best and and any advice they give you will definatly be benificial ..
since they are you parents .. maybe they had a similar or near experince in life and tell you what they did to survive that phase ..
and secondly... start fasting .. even if it aint ramadhan ...you ll get sawaab for fasting nafli rozey and you ll lose weight ..and start praying namaz .. this way all your troubles will go away cos when a person forgets his Almighty .. troubles come to him/her... and end of the day its just natural that as a last resort humans tend to turn to their lord .. so its better that one does it before its alot worse and ask Allahs help..
with reading namaz and sending sallutations upon the prohet SAW .. alot of troubles go away including lonliness, sadness, depression .. feeling low ..and uncomfortable ....read the Quraan .. even if you dunt understand it ..you will still feel better cos its th word of Allah Almighty.
I hope i helped in what i say ..and do get back if you need to ask anything ..
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my frnds havent ditched me...i have started to avoid them...n i dnt see anything i have failed at...i got good grades..n i have a well paying job...but im not wat i wanted to be...im a totally different person all of a sudden...n its so dark...i have this acne for past one year now...n its effecting me greatly...i knw the cure of it...but im tooo impulsive to stick to one thing...i have tried praying n it indeed has given me the peace...bbut with the job i find it hard to pray and stay consistent..i feel like quitting this job...but then staying at home alll day n doing nothing is another problem...im soo lost...its like im running in circles for the last one year...im just toooo tired now..
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what about doing something self satisfying or fulfilling like charity work... maybe u'll feel better helping others.. Maybe u just need a change from ur current life style... try looking for change!
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You sound quite depressed if I'm honest, have you been to see your doctor? It may be that you have S.A.D?
The friends - sod them, if they've ditched you and ignore you then why would you even want to know them? Surely you deserve better than that?
The Acne - again visit your doctor and he/she will be able to give you different options on how this can be managed. If it's something that bothers you so much why are you putting off treatment?
The weight gain - start exercising. It doesn't have to be anything vigorous. A 15 minute run two/three times a week is adequate. Start eating healthily and drinking plenty of water/juice. This in turn may even help to clear up some of the acne.
You have a good job, you're intelligent and you have so much to look forward to in life. Try to see beyond what you are going through right now.
Here is a dua that is very helpful when you are feeling down - "O Allah, when I lose hope because my plans have come to nothing, then help me to remember that your love is always greater than my disappointments and your plans for my life are always better than my dreams.." (Ameen)
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i have thought abt change...but currently nothing is attracting me so much to give me satisfaction...i feel im tooo lonely...n i have lost my confidence n self esteem all at the same time..the reason for avoiding ppl...dunno where im heading to...i cant see any hope...
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thanks abt the dua....it almost made me cry...i really miss the connection i used to have with Allah...
my frnds havent ditched me...but somehow i have started to hatemyself...i feel so low...i cant even express how im feeling...i have been to derms...n i know the cure of my medication...but i just wnt follow anything for more than three days...i get too imapatient....i feel like im abusing myself..:S
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You're most welcome for the dua. I hope it gives you the comfort that you need when you feel alone. Remember that Allah is always there to hear what is on your mind and ease your burdens. He never puts us through anything that he does not think we can cope with.
With regards to the friends, if you can't focus on that element of your life right now then you don't have to. Focus on your health first - make a plan and stick to it. Get a family member to nag you about taking your medication. Once you start seeing results you will be grateful for it and it might just be the kick up the bum that you need to keep taking your medication. If you don't take your medication than how can you expect to get yourself out of this feeling that you have?
I would seriously advise you to visit your doctor about possible depression. You sound very down and you don't have to be! We are our worst enemies sometimes - but just remember that you have so much to live for, don't put yourself through this for the rest of it.
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I understand how you feel...I've been going through the same.....Crying...arguing with husband...no self coinfidence.....no motivation at work....felt no happiness or peace in my new home.....didn't wanted to meet or speak to my friends.....I even didn' wanted to pray...
But I've started to read magazines about happiness...went to a psychologist....And you know what...I see things different now....I've started praying...fitness....I've quit my job....No I'm not looking for a new job....
The important thing to do now is to know yourself...who are you?? are you really that person that you think you are?? whats bothering you?? why is it bothering you? what could you do to help it? why do want to quit your job? Sitting home and doing nothing is really boring....but fill your time with yourself....think about yourself....
If you can't be happy when you are alone....then don't expect that there is someone who is gonna make you happy!!
This is really a serious problem...I felt like I was hanging somewhere...it was dark allover....24 hours 7 days a week....
But Alhmadoelillah I feel good now...I can talk "normal" to my husband now....otherwise I was always upset and angry...
Good luck!!
Amor Amor, thats a really nice Dua, will hep me too with my problems which are similar.
Iksa Ive been thinking about seeing a psychiatrist myself. But I feel they are very expensive and on top of that I need someone who is not gora. I need someone who understands our culture 100 %. Only then will they be able to help me. Im from the UK and in desperate need of help but dont know where to turn. Cant speak to family and friends dont understand. Just feel really lonely and confused and its in this state that I tend to make mistakes because I dont know where to get help from. I search on the net for stuff alot but it has so much info which just confuses me even more, stupid thing.
To tell you the truth, your not alone. I stopped contact with all my friends, they would call, email and text but i would avoid them. Because i was going through a divorce, so i hid myself, fearing all kinds of judgment.
Now im slowly starting to socialize with friends. Im also in the process of self discovery if you like. Its so important to know what is bugging you, and what is the cause of all the anxiety and unhappiness. Im still finding out.
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i always felt im the only one going through this...everyone around me seems to be sooo happy wen i have forgotten how it feels to be happy....im a pathatic mess rite now...n i hate my self so much for it...i was a warrior and willing to face hardshipis in life but i wonder wat made me sooooo weak...i cant bear a pinch now ..i have noooo idea where im heading to...without praying it all feels so empty but i cnt bring myself to it....my family has tried to help me but i cant tell them how it feels...they wnt understand...somedays are clear but mostly its dark n gloomy...
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i feel your pain. im sick. its impossible. nothing works. please do something that makes you happy. inner joy. i write and it comforts me. i paint a little. and watch movies. talk to friends, family. u sound a little down. and i am worried that you are okay. bc life can do things unimaginable. keep hope, and talk to friends family. read something enlightening that stirs the spirit. and dream a bit if possible. hope for your self again. its tough out there. but u'll be okay. u become stronger as life progresses. u'll be okay....
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Lost angel you are not alone believe me. So many ppl, usually the youth is going thru same phase. But i will say dont take tension, i know it hurts, its frustrating i have been there, but try to think about good stuff, think positively. Engage yourself in some activity like cooking, drawing, reading, even reading Quran with Translation, knitting, stitch some dresses and design them urself just for the sake of distraction of ur mind. The disappointment is only a phase and will last soon. May be you can start posting crazily on GS lol. All you want is distraction for the time being.
Best of luck :k:
Here is a dua that is very helpful when you are feeling down - "O Allah, when I lose hope because my plans have come to nothing, then help me to remember that your love is always greater than my disappointments and your plans for my life are always better than my dreams.." (Ameen)
Thanks AmorAmor , this dua made me feel better and I hope it will also help the poster too.
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How old are you?
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im 22 yrs old...n life hasnt been good for the past two years now...i want to come out of this self pity but i dun find a way out....n im eating like a cow now :(:( i hate it but i feel better after i hurt myself emotionally...its so hopeless..
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Let us help you without any judgements. What happened two years ago? Did you lose your love? Or a friend? or is it when your acne started?