Re: Durood
I know of people who came very, very, very close to getting married and they didn’t. A friend of mine was jilted on her wedding day. There are cases where the baraat has gone back. I know of people who faced sooo many obstacles but ended up marrying each other in spite of them. My cousin rejected a rishta. Three years later she received rishta from the same guy and married him after receiving a green signal from istikhara. It was a disaster; the guy had two previously failed marriages. Keeping these examples in mind, perhaps marriage is predetermined the same way as our rizq and time of birth and death has been predetermined. At least that’s what I’ve heard some folks say. In surah Ya Sin, Allah says that He has created all pairs from the earth, from ourselves, and from that which we do not know. So, does this imply that mates are predestined by Allah? What about the Muslim that marries a Hindu woman who takes no interest in converting and practicing Islam…would Allah destine a marriage that is essentially invalid? There are girls who try sooo hard to find rishta, but nothing happens. There are girls who put no effort and rishta comes and things happen. Even when one puts forth their best effort, the other person may reject you. Sometimes it happens that the the person you’re engaged to be married to has a change of heart and ends things. It’s said that Allah is muqallibul quloob or ‘controller of the hearts.’ How much of our actions and decisions are due to free-will and what percent is due to predestination…we will never know. I think that Qadar is a subject that even the muftis and ulema don’t have complete knowledge about because you can counter their argument with various examples. It’s said that Rasool SAWS told us not to think about destiny and the soul because complete knowledge of these two intricate things is only with Allah.