What I don't get is why it's socially acceptable to wash men's boxers and jockeys, but a big taboo to wash a woman's "unmentionables"?
Dude, exactly what I was thinking.
If the the self-wash rule is enforced, it should be applied to everyone in the household. For all the talk of 'refinement,' 'culture,' and 'eastern/muslim societal norms,' it's strange that the female help feels insulted/shamed when she's given female undies, but is happy to handle Mr. Nadz' and FIL's underwear. Haww haiii. There's more to Ms. Kaamwali than meets the eye.
ps. lol @ calling you a sinner for not praying 5 times a day. The woman is bored and kicks you around because she can. One thing's for sure, when you move out she's going to miss you for all the wrong reasons. Who knows, it might even be mutual. Drama is a drug and you guys are addicts.
I think even if i said my mil tried to stab in the neck and pour acid all over me, just because i left my plate on the table and didnt wash it myself, id expect Muzna to respons as following:
If you know what you mil is like and she expects perfection and expects you to clean your plate or atleast take it to the sink, and you didnt. Are you saying that its beneath you to take your plate to the sink, you do not cook and clean anyway, so why couldnt you have just taken your plate to the sink. how hard is it to take the plate to sink. its only the sink, in the kitchen, not the sink , in Rome. Just take the plate to the sink. Even better, wash it too. Why nadz do you not understand, that if you dont take the plate to the sink, you should expect anyone to come after you with a buthcers knife and a gallon of acid. Do you need to be taught that this kind of not-taking-plate-to-sink behavious warrants a ton of acid on face. tsk tsk nadz, hello nadz reply...
nadz is dead. her mil shot her in the eyes. due to again, forgetting to take her spoon, knife and fork with the damn plate.
Nadz, what you should be happy about in this whole scenario is that husband sided with you. Your MIL caused a fuss and he saw it for what it was.
I know I'm going to get timatars pelted at me for saying this - but the next time your MIL does the same drama (and this is the one point I do have great sympathy for you - your MIL IS a drama-queen, just like you), you sit there and you cry right back with your husband as witness and you say how your back or foot or stomach or whatever is hurting or that you're suffering an anxiety attack and that you can't handle all this tension and conflict. What's that old saying, if you can't beat them, join 'em.
Do you come on Life1 to get advice? If so, you will get all sorts of advice from all sorts of people here. YOU will have to decide for yourself what advice you accept and implement. Nobody else can make that decision for you.
Or do you come on Life1 to find people who join you in virtual MIL bashing. That purpose has been partly served, but don't get offended if not everyone joins in.
Yes many stay at home moms do,
We Were 4 and my mom did all alone,
But everyone is different,Nadz is from Uk moved to Pakistan, life is not easy in Pakistan as compare to Uk n USA,
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Errr NO way! Another one of those huge silly miconceptions about Western women.
Unlike in Pakistan, we don't have maids in UK to run our kitchens and wash our laundary and sparkle clean our house. There are women with childern who** w****ork*, *pick and drop their kids, do grocery shopping, come home and clean, cook and 'run after their kids' at the same time. Life is just more systamatic in the West, its no way any easier than life of middle class in Pakistan.
Judging by Nadz's threads while she was in UK, its not like she had any discipline or routine in her life there.
Do you come on Life1 to get advice? If so, you will get all sorts of advice from all sorts of people here. YOU will have to decide for yourself what advice you accept and implement. Nobody else can make that decision for you.
Or do you come on Life1 to find people who join you in virtual MIL bashing. That purpose has been partly served, but don't get offended if not everyone joins in.
I think the answer is obvious.....otherwise why would she only see the comments in my post that are opposing her inclination to bash her MIL?
nadz.......I feel sorry for your situation.....not so much because you have a drama queen for a MIL (so many people do) but more so because you don't seem to want to help yourself. I have yet to read a post that says, "Yeah....maybe I should try this" or "Okay, I'll give it a shot this way cuz the other way didn't work".
Instead of talking "about Muzna" you could have easily addressed me directly. The correct/acceptable/appropriate method in your mind was to speak about me to others. This shows that you have little to no conflict resolution skills..... (perhaps this also explains why your approach with your MIL is such a major fail)...which is not so bad......we aren't born with them......but the truly sad part is that you don't even want to learn.
Wow, this was pretty mean-spirited. I'm sure one sneering MIL at home is enough.
Yes...it could be interpreted as mean-spirited.....however it wasn't designed that way. It was meant to be direct and to the point..... stating the obvious to show how ridiculous the matter is .....enough to make her think hard.
You would have understood that if you bothered to compare the spirit of the rest of the comments in the same post.
I don't get it, what's so wrong with having underwear washed? Doesn't it go in the washer and isn't handled personally? I mean you just dump all the clothes, not individually piece by piece....or is it being washed by hand and thus the "controversy" over it?
I don't get it, what's so wrong with having underwear washed? Doesn't it go in the washer and isn't handled personally? I mean you just dump all the clothes, not individually piece by piece....or is it being washed by hand and thus the "controversy" over it?
The issue isn't the underwear.......or so you will have read.
The issue is how the MIL acts.....reacts.....or whatever.
yeah but people are bringing up how washing another person's underwaer is gross. and I was addressing that particular point.
and MIL reaction....thats' the backbone of every nadz' threads, but other things come up too. think of it as cheesecake. there's the cheesecake and then there's all the toppings that make each slice unique. :D
sara, it really depends on what kind of washing machine they have, mostly some sort of hand washing is donee even when using the washing machine.
yeah but people are bringing up how washing another person's underwaer is gross. and I was addressing that particular point.
and MIL reaction....thats' the backbone of every nadz' threads, but other things come up too. think of it as cheesecake. there's the cheesecake and then there's all the toppings that make each slice unique. :D
The issue isn't the underwear.......or so you will have read.
The issue is how the MIL acts.....reacts.....or whatever.
I totally agree with Muzna here. If the Kaamwali was complaining against MIL's own daughter, it was Kaamwali who would be listening to galiyaan from MIL. MIL cares less about undies, she just wanted to use the incident to insult nadz
good one Nadz…