Re: So much for bashing....
^ no doubt, fathers need to play an active role too in the child's upbringing and in an ideal world both will have the quality and quantity time to spend with the kids but unfortunately in the real world, compromises need to be reached and roles need to be appointed to run a home smoothly, if it becomes a battle of the egos than the kids suffer.
if the husband has taken up the role of the main breadwinner of the family and there are no financial constraints than its ideal for the wife to take up the vacuum left at home to be with the kids. a child only gets to spend what 3 or 4 yrs of his life at home, before schooling starts at which point the mother can go back to work full time. yes it does require a bigger sacrifice from the woman, but then thats the reason a mother's role is superceded by that of the father in most cultures and religions. is there denying the importance of the mother/child unique bond in the first few crucial developmental yrs of a child's life?