So how many of you have really felt love, true love?

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AHH man, I see most of you can't really relate to what I'm saying. You've got too many in laws, and drama issues. Angelina Jolie, Cousins ?? WTF, that has nothing to do with what I am talking about.

As for the cousin thing, I know people do that in Pakistan, but i never saw my cousins as anything more than sisters. Thus, its always shocking to hear stuff like that. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

Also it was not infatuation, infatuation and true love is totally different. I can't really explain it, you have to feel it to understand.

It is like winning the lottery though, I don't think I'll ever have that kind of pure love ever again. It's probably a once in a life time thing. Cause there was no compulsion to love each other, nothing like that. No rishtas, no bs, no dramas, no in laws, no contracts, no dowries, just me and her. That's what made it so pure.

I still dwell on that from time to time and it makes me smile. I still dream about her. You never forget a thing like that, I know she will be somewhere in my mind till the day I die.

I just want to add that, even though it can be very very painful, I am still glad it happened. Because if something feels so bad it must have one time felt really good, you have to take the good and the bad. It makes you feel alive in a way that you never knew. Like they say, better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.

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so this love you are talking about is for your ex???? make up your mind man

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How wonderful! Is your 19-year-old pure, sheltered, "jewelled treasure" of a wife understanding of this too? What a lucky woman she is....to end up with a husband like you!

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Edal, did you ever go to rehab?

Is it not allowed to love cousins???

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Yeah she is lucky, she tells me that every day alhamdulliah. I am lucky too.

Why are people on this forum so judgemental in an almost nasty sort of way? I feel sad for people who are so bitter that they have nothing else to do but judge strangers on a forum.

It doesn't mean I don't love my wife also, but its just different. With my current wife everything was proper and arranged by her father, etc..that is nice too, but its different. Also we can't control our dreams or subconscious it is what it is.

I am happy to have had those experiences , it's made me understand life more, understand women, made me a better person. It builds character. I am thankful for all the good memories, the ups and the downs.

Did you ever watch that show wonder years? In the end, the main character marries another girl, but the girl who he first loved will always be there in his mind, and that's not a bad thing.

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Rehab for what? Im not an alcoholic dude.

As for the cousin thing, dude there is no point in arguing about that. That is just a cultural thing, you will never get me, I will never get you.

I know its allowed in Islam, and that is fine, but for people born and raised in the West its very hard to understand, for me my cousins will always be loved like a sister, nothing more or less.

In fact, in Texas its illegal to marry your first cousin.

I'm not saying, I am right or you are wrong, I'm just saying we have a big cultural difference here. In the U.S most Pakistani Americas (younger generation) prefer not to get involved with their cousin in any sort of way like that. Gross.

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Aaaaw. Would you find it just as magical and endearing if your current wife also had an ex…that she felt just as strongly for…and would reminisce about him every now and then? Oh wait…no…it’s the absence of a past (both physically and emotionally) that endears her to you so much.

Why don’t they have a gagging emoticon? :rolleyes:

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Nope, I wouldn’t find it magical or endearing. I wouldn’t like it or tolerate it at all. That’s why I didn’t marry a girl like that(did once , didn’t work) . Everyone has different tastes in what they like or don’t like. I told you for me a wife is a thing of purity like in surah rehman it says when describing the women of paradise “whom no man or jinn has touched before”. That’s what I wanted and alhamdulliah that’s what I got.

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i experience love from moment to moment, sometimes with humans and sometimes with other living things and sometimes with non-living things. its a great experience.

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Yes, we all have that with our parents, a pet cat, etc..but what I am talking about is something different. Its so rare.

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You’re TRULY blessed…that you got a wife who doesn’t believe that a husband should be a “thing of purity”. :k:

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r u sure that you loved your pakistani parents, who wouldn't had objected you marrying a Palestinian? :p

ps. people waste more time in finding the Love that they cant even define its existence in a mathematical equation. its better if people stress more in earning respect in the eyes of ALLAH SWT and do some good deeds with fellow human beings, instead of destroying every other girls heart in order to find a true love which is only exists for a moment.

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Edal, I would like to ask you a question. Does your virgin 19 year old Palestinian wife know that you have been sexually active before? or did you ever tell her that? Not with ex but with other women.

I remember, when I had first time sex around teenage the girl immediately said, this is your first time. Right? And I thought how did she know that.

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^LOLLLL. ok this is just wrong! can we stop referring to edal's wife as the "virgin 19 year old"..like come ON! its disrespectful...

on another note, yes i have felt real love. and it sucks that i felt it after things were over between us..kind of like the saying "you don't know what you have until it's gone".

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Oh she knew, marriage is not something which is built on lies, you have to be honest. She's not a total fob she came to America when she was 10, so she knows the culture here.

Women can tell these things easily.

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That's the beauty of love, you can't really define or explain it. There is no logic in it. You will definitely know when it happens! You can't really go looking for it and expect to find it, but sometimes you will get hit with it when you least expect.

You are right, earning the good pleasure of Allah is the most important thing , more important than anything else in the universe. I view true love between a man and a woman as a gift that Allah has given us out of his mercy.

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It pisses me off when on one hand you give references of Surah Rehman (pure wives) and on the other you mention Culture that allows men to have sex.....Isn't it a contradiction?

Please be faithful to your wife this time and do sincere TOBAH with Allah. I did the same.

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I am blessed but it really wasn’t that difficult. All my Muslim guy friends who are married to virgins from back home, had gf’s before. Girls tend to not make a big deal out of that, not as much as guys do. Men and women are different ok, leave it at that. Let’s not get into this discussion again.

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I am just mentioning the culture, I am not condoning anything. I am faithful to my wife, that is why I got married. To fulfill my desires in a halal way. Otherwise I am relatively young (just turned 25) to be married (and twice at that). I could have been like other people, who take their time after college, travel the world, but I knew I couldn't resist the beauty of the female body, so I got married.

In Islam the punishment for adultery is very very grave. I am well aware of that, trust me.

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Did you ever watch that show wonder years? In the end, the main character marries another girl, but the girl who he first loved will always be there in his mind, and that's not a bad thing.
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so u r following the show ...lmaooo