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Honestly? You'll never know until you've taken the leap of faith.
Having said that, it would be foolish not to look at the pros and cons before entering anything - whether it's marriage or any other contract (escpecially that which is long-term). You should think about those pros and cons thoroughly to see whether you'll be able to compromise or not.
Do your research and ask around about this guy and his family (I'm assuming you don't know very much about the family?) I'm saying this because all too often what we see is not what we get. So it's always important to research thoroughly and that should put you at some ease.
And lastly - make sure you do Istakhara. And make sure you make lots of dua.
Good luck!
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Da one? Dis guy? Wid u?
As long as he's not a grammar nazi, you should be fine...give him a chance.
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I know right. Why do Pakistanis write like this? 
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Kasam se, I thought the exact same thing.
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wow, u r good in reading between the lines … seriously !!!
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I new he was da 1 wan he bot me a a pear of X-10 LooBtunes 
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If all the right things are there and just a couple of negatives...I'd go for it.
About his family renting and yours owning...I don't know why but these things never bother me. If he is not wealthy, its fine. He is educated, ambitious and will make his own path in life. You should want to build your wealth together.
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^ you mean the pear with the tunes to play in the loo? I heard its good for incontinence.
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For his good .. dont marry him :p
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so there are two issues here..
he is 5'8"
He doesnt own the house
nopse you dont want to marry him.. No one should ever marry a guy under 6 ft tall and someone who rents!What a disaster for marriage!
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When he is da bomb! Den he is da one.
Good luck :k:
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Whoops…I think you meant “Ven” and “iz”
pesky typos
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wow, u r good in reading between the lines ... seriously ?!?!?!?!
While presumptuous, it's probably an accurate guess. I have cousins in Pakistan who are well educated but refuse to type properly. Apparently it's "cool" there. This kind of butchering goes beyond Grammar Nazi quibbles. "Texting" on a full keyboard, typing "da" instead of "the", when the time savings are non existent, is pure idiocy.
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You Will never know unless you take the step. If the negatives are only the two you mentioned and everything else is fine then go for it. Its a gamble they say After all
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Do your research and ask around about this guy and his family (I'm assuming you don't know very much about the family?) I'm saying this because all too often what we see is not what we get. So it's always important to research thoroughly and that should put you at some ease.
This is soo important and i totally agree with DP... Nowadays it is really important to dig deep in the situation and get ur view clear about the boy and the fam.
I had a sort checklist in my mind of how my future partner should be like (personality wise) ... And to be honest i don't think u can say that he is the one or mr right immediatly. It takes time...
Ask him about his future persepctives..
What does he wants to achieve in life.... and where does he wants to be in life in 5 years from now and does this match with what u have in mind?... What r his hobbies? Do u think u guys are compatible? (no need to answer these online, but just check for urself :))
If u have a good feeling... And u can answer all the questions regarding him... Ur future and u both together... Just go for it...
About money and financial stuff.. Don't worry about that... Things might change after the wedding... If he can provide u with a rooth on ur head... Food clothes and love... Than ur basic things r coverd... After the wedding you both can work together for the future...
Another thing... Saudia aint that strickt for women... Yes they wear abaya's but did u ever checked the brand sunglasses, handbags or shoes?... There are a lot of companies who r appointing females (also oj management levels so ywah)
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To the O.P. I think the biggest hurdle you're facing in marriage is that you're a child.
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Language, when written incorrectly can be annoying and tedious to read. However, correctly written language, though it may not impede the reader's speed and comprehension, can still manage to offend/hurt. Sometimes full words and the tone they carry can do more damage than partial/abbreviated ones.
Fzas, when you are with this guy...does his height bother you or is it something you don't notice that much? Are you overall physically attracted to him? As for his family living in a rented home, could he not become financially secure to the point that he has his own home one day? Have you considered this possibility? I spent my childhood in Saudi, so I know how cooped up life can be over there because women are very restricted....and maybe this is something you need to talk to the guy about...as in how life will be managed there.
You have to decide for yourself which of your negative points are deal breakers and which you can move past. And that's an individual thing.
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While presumptuous, it's probably an accurate guess. I have cousins in Pakistan who are well educated but refuse to type properly. Apparently it's "cool" there. This kind of butchering goes beyond Grammar Nazi quibbles. "Texting" on a full keyboard, typing "da" instead of "the", when the time savings are non existent, is pure idiocy.
My cousin, who's Canadian-born, is getting ready to apply to med school and her FB wall is littered with th is kind of stuff. It really drives me up the wall sometimes. I always think I'm reading something a 10 year old wrote.
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Can someone summarize her key points? What did she just write, yaar?