Re: So how do u know…he really is da one??
It would be interesting to see if the OP even responds to her thread considering the focus is more on her writing than the issue she’s seeking advice on. She probably feels embarrassed enough. :no:
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OP please come back. PCG won't bite.
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Ok, after getting through your post (and yes, jokes aside, it was difficult…seriously, you sound like a lovely and intelligent person, please don’t let your writing show otherwise) there are two things that stand out to me:
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.he seems like a very responsible person…has strong family morals…but nt too serious..u know.. a casual guy who is also funny…which is really imp…he is nt too rigid in thinking…seems flexible on issues…open-minded…really honest……he has a quite decent job at dis multinational co…
now i have come to da conclusion that the guy himself is a really decent genuine person…good jolly character…some1 wid whom you can feel comfortable enuff 2 spend da rest of ur life wid.
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These are all very positive. By your own words, he seems like a great guy and it sounds like you have a good chemistry with him…
But then:
How are these negatives? 1) you say you’re not status concious, yet you are judging him on that the fact that his family does not own their home outright…why is that a bad thing? Maybe they are more financially secure then your family, but choose to invest their money somewhere else…or maybe they did own at one time but circumstances changed…you never know…the point is, this criteria makes you sound a little snobby 2) he already has a good, secure job which you have said yourself…is a Masters Degree so important? He has said he has no plans to pursue higher studies right now, but who knows, he may change his mind down the line..or he may not…are you equating his earning potential with the amount of degrees he has? If so, again, given all this other strong points and pros, it sounds a little unfair
The only real valid concern IMO, seems to be the distance. Yes, it will be tough for you initially to be without a support system in a new country, but if you are a sensible and mature person, you’ll adust and make friends and create new life for yourself with your husband’s support. I don’t know much about KSA, as I’ve never been there, but I do have plenty of extended family and friends who have relocated their from Pakistan, and they all seem to be adjusting fine.
And about the height thing, how tall are you?
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Wtf!
Before you marry him I suggest you go back to school.
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Yeah how tall are you? 5'8 is average and perfectly fine.
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His financial situation will get better with time and experience so don’t worry about that.
Personally, I’m way too independent to move to Saudi Arabia. I can’t imagine not being able to drive and having a mahram accompany me everywhere 
I’m too rebellious to be treated like that…I’ll end up in jail, or with chronic hypertension, or separated. 
I have relatives in Saudi…an aunt got into trouble with the police who showed up at her apartment to warn her not to hang laundry on the clothesline in the balcony unless she has an abaya on. She lived on like the 9th floor 
It’s a huge adjustment, but if you think you can manage to live submissively like that, then go ahead.
Depends on what’s important to you and what you can compromise on. No one’s perfect, and you’ll always have to compromise on SOMETHING. So, you just choose your battles.
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Nida ki bachi, daal daal kachi
-,-
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Daal main masalah, Nida ka mu kala 
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lmao. Poor nida ki bachi. Kidr se usko pagal takarh gaye :-/
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On topic: I see OP has removed the first post.
I hope it wasn’t because of the too many jokes on the typing style.
(If so,then sorry for my contribution in it 
, the bomb thing. )
Hopefully you can take a good decision and In sha ALLAH everything will be fine.
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so important question : how did they see her without the abaya all the way on the 9th floor? 
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I had a feeling that she wouldn’t respond in her thread, but she went beyond that and deleted her post as well. Like I said earlier, full words can sometimes do more damage than abbreviated ones. Idiocy can also be seen in grammatically correct senteces. (Don’t count myself as an exception).
Hope things turn out well for you, Fzas.
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I really use to enjoy gs site as it provided an open platform to share personal problems/issues/doubts which could not shared so openly otherwise. Members contributed different views and solutions to the problem which helped the person in comprehending their situation in a better way.
I have been a silent member of the forum for a while now. Just recently, when i faced some confusion regarding a personal matter, i turned to gs for advice. I expected some discussion on the topic, some advice, some experiences, lessons shared and some constructive critique too. No harm in getting critique/criticism as long as it is constructive and positive. One can really improve when these critiques are taken with a positive mindset.
Honestly, I did not expected this kind of response. I did not expected to be judged, joked, ridiculed like this. I did not know proper non- abbreviated correct English was a criteria for this forum. I did not know some one needed to have a masters in English to post a query here. Yes, i wrote in slang, abbreviated English - my bad - i assumed this was a casual 'gupshup' talk with my fellow members so i can afford to be a bit frank in my post. Like i am telling my problem to a friend. But, at the same time, i do accept my post caused some comprehension difficulties - my apologies for that.
It shocked me to realize how judgmental & superiority-complex-ed some people really are. One person started and the everyone followed the trend. Some of you managed to judge my whole personality based on the way i wrote the post. Bravo to u!. I felt so stupid to ask these kind of people for advice & insight into their own experiences. How could you have helped me when clearly some of you need help yourself. Thus, i removed my post because i do not think i need advice from any such people. I will just trust my own intuition and take that leap of faith myself.
Thank you - disney princess, reha, sweetmoi, sweetlady, khattichic & nidakibachi - for taking out time to write a few positive replies. Truly appreciate it after this experience.
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Well…if you’ve been silently browsing this forum for so long, didn’t you realize that people would find issue with the way you wrote? 
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Anyways what's more offensive and bothersome to me wasn't/isn't the langauge itself but the way you think you and your family are superior to this guy cz they rent and you own. Grow up.
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I really use to enjoy gs site as it provided an open platform to share personal problems/issues/doubts which could not shared so openly otherwise. Members contributed different views and solutions to the problem which helped the person in comprehending their situation in a better way. I have been a silent member of the forum for a while now. Just recently, when i faced some confusion regarding a personal matter, i turned to gs for advice. I expected some discussion on the topic, some advice, some experiences, lessons shared and some constructive critique too. No harm in getting critique/criticism as long as it is constructive and positive. One can really improve when these critiques are taken with a positive mindset. Honestly, I did not expected this kind of response. I did not expected to be judged, joked, ridiculed like this. I did not know proper non- abbreviated correct English was a criteria for this forum. I did not know some one needed to have a masters in English to post a query here. Yes, i wrote in slang, abbreviated English - my bad - i assumed this was a casual 'gupshup' talk with my fellow members so i can afford to be a bit frank in my post. Like i am telling my problem to a friend. But, at the same time, i do accept my post caused some comprehension difficulties - my apologies for that. It shocked me to realize how judgmental & superiority-complex-ed some people really are. One person started and the everyone followed the trend. Some of you managed to judge my whole personality based on the way i wrote the post. Bravo to u!. I felt so stupid to ask these kind of people for advice & insight into their own experiences. How could you have helped me when clearly some of you need help yourself. Thus, i removed my post because i do not think i need advice from any such people. I will just trust my own intuition and take that leap of faith myself. Thank you - disney princess, reha, sweetmoi, sweetlady, khattichic & nidakibachi - for taking out time to write a few positive replies. Truly appreciate it after this experience.
fzas,
I really am sorry that an innocent, tongue and cheek joke I made started this whole sh!t storm. I didn't mean any harm, and I do aplogize if my original post hurt your feelings. Like I said in my post #23, you sound like a lovely, intelligent girl and you have every right to come to this forum and expect sincere advice.
Please don't let the other comments steer you away from Gupshup, or keep you from posting in the future.
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fzas…sometimes we Life1’ers have a bit too much personality. But take it as that…we may be blunt we will never steer you wrong! Case in point…I don’t believe in separating my sentences…have a habit of doing… … … …instead and just rambling People may not like it. It happens. You’ve been initiated, welcome! 
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While I understand the frustration with "leet" speak I would point out all 14 to 18 years in the US do it. Its common sms speak to use the jargon and more so its one of the reasons most kids these days can not spell properly. If you seek to blame children please realize it is a problem across nationalities. More so its pretty judgmental to be blaming Pakistanis. Has nobody seen I believe it was the Verizon commercial a few years back?
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While presumptuous, it's probably an accurate guess. I have cousins in Pakistan who are well educated but refuse to type properly. Apparently it's "cool" there. This kind of butchering goes beyond Grammar Nazi quibbles. "Texting" on a full keyboard, typing "da" instead of "the", when the time savings are non existent, is pure idiocy.
i want to have ur views on guppy's putting their locations as amreeka, kanadaa, austrhliaa ... etc etc