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^right advice on a forum?? seriously?? 
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Do you guys think your discussion here would help her in any way? It is only adding fuel to an already sensitive situation.
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^thats what life1 is about 
someone has tiny disagreement…the life1 population disects the situation…and then we all break the news to the OP that the relationship was wrong right from the beginning…and the only thing to do to save OP’s life is…break the relationship 
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^^ it might be funny for people who don't take relationships seriously and have nothing better to do then mock others on GS but it is certainly not funny for others. There is lot of good advice in this thread. Now it is up to the opener how she can make use of it.
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^agreed :)
anyone can easily tell which posts contained concerned good advice and which were just plain mockery.
People on a forum can just try and give advice. The rest God has given brains and only the one who is in that situation can best analyse the circumstances and apply what *best *suits him/her!
the rest we can only pray :)
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Not too long ago there was this view (in this forum) that the female posters here give advice because of their own insecurities. It's possible...but it's sad that this should be seen as the sole reason. If you have the sincere intention to help...you get sawab. Even if you have doubts that the OP is a troll..but you give the benefit of the doubt....and give advice.....you get sawab. So, it's a win-win situation. If you bash the OP for being a troll (when they might actually not be), or mock their situation, or kick them when they're already feeling down...and end up hurting the person...that counts against you. If you bash the people who are trying to help the person (be it with long posts or short ones)....that also counts against you (be it in the form of a gunnah or whatever). That's something to think about.
I don't think it's very often that people help others without being asked personally. I see this in the workplace...among relatives...other places in real life. People looking out for just themeselves. And it's sad when we bash someone for sincerely trying to help...or we accuse them of doing so because they're insecure. It just reduces the value of a good thing that we need in society.
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Moreover, I see people who mock the forum and the idea that it can be even remotely helpful to anyone.........yet they themsevles will sometimes participate in giving advice. LMAO...even the ones who r smacking down "likes" in support for this mockery will take the time to give advice. WHY? If you find the place and the efforts of other members to be THAT FUTILE....then why even bother yourself? If one thinks it is absurd to even expect a person to receive a beneficial or thought-provoking response here....then why even bother creating threads yourself (on various topics in even other forums) with that same expectation? Have the actions and the words match up.
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She's gotten enough advice here, some would work for her, some wont. Now people are just arguing over what should or shouldn't have happened. People are just discussing her situation when she's not even around. Let her have some peace.
Also, just because you have the intention to help, doesn't mean you actually ARE helping. After 10-pages of advice, I don't see why people won't stop giving advice. I especially don't get why people think their discussions of her situation would help her.
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Nobody is imposing their advice on her.
What is considered "enough advice" is subjective. No restrictions regarding the number of pages or responses. And what is considered to be "acutally helpful" or "unhelpful" for that matter is also subjective.
I don't think it's an exact science. Even for people that are really close to us...such as our parents, siblings, friends....their methods of helping are also like a trial and error. They might think something is helpful...but it may turn out to be otherwise. In their case....they can physically observe the person seeking the help and their difficult situation...and would have some sort of an idea as to the "helpfulness" of their strategy or words, etc. We don't have that here. It's something that is hard to determine. And the fear of it not working shouldn't be used as a reason to not try. In the end, it's up to the individual...they can take from it what they want or ignore it altogether. The issue was not the effectiveness of the "help"....rather the mockery of it.
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She's gotten enough advice here, some would work for her, some wont. Now people are just arguing over what should or shouldn't have happened. People are just discussing her situation when she's not even around. Let her have some peace.
Also, just because you have the intention to help, doesn't mean you actually ARE helping. After 10-pages of advice, I don't see why people won't stop giving advice. I especially don't get why people think their discussions of her situation would help her.
I really doesn't matter whether she takes my advice or not, but I do hope this threads and whatever written is here turns out to be some serious food for though for any young unmarried person reading. Yes it does matter what should or should not have happened, let someone learn a lesson from it. In British Pakistani community, cases like Nadz are so much more common than you think, she's just small demo of stories and issues I come across in real life. And I certainly have opinions and advice for them, whether one likes to take it or leave, its their choice.
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This mini discussion RIGHT HERE has not helped Nadz one, tiny bit. I am out.
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This mini discussion RIGHT HERE has not helped Nadz one, tiny bit. I am out.
And who are you to decide that? Are you Nadz?
...And NO that mini discussion was not meant to "help" her anyway, but thanks for telling me.
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woah
Nadz, divorce isn't an option here at this point. You've always been a bit of a drama queen, so I suspect the intensity of this story isn't as truly uplayed as it was. Having said that, no one has a right to hit you, and you explain that to him, and distance yourself from him for some time. Leave him to his own misery, and he will come around when he feels guilty about what he has done.
Will he ever admit he hit you? Will your MIL ever take your side? Um, probably not, but welcome to marrying into a retarded desi family, of which there is no shortages in Pakistan.
Just by statistical cause, many of us, not of our own volition, will end up marrying retards. There just aren't enough good guys to go around, and our own mothers have done a really bad job of making real men out of these people. We haven't taught our men good virtues, and the result is in front of you. On a global scale, a nation filled with corruption, disruption, and a reputation of a vile nation hiding terrorists and taking bribes from global criminal nations. On a domestic scale, households filled with men who don't respect their other halves...so how can the world respect them?
The best thing, Nadz, for you to do, is hold onto your patience, and do not teach your child the same nonsense your MIL taught your husband.
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One problem here is that the OP shows up very seldom and all others fight by themselves as if there is no tomorrow.
A lot of times this is irritating to see OP runs away after first post and pages of pages are written to advise OP thinking it is public service or sawab. 
Don’t we see trolls/evasive posters with fake problems get more replies and longer threads than others?
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^ I find myself agreeing with a lot of your posts lately.
A Ramadan Miracle!
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what took him so long?
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If that was directed to me then… I might have become a shareef bacha! 
Anyhow: …
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woah
Nadz, divorce isn't an option here at this point. You've always been a bit of a drama queen, so I suspect the intensity of this story isn't as truly uplayed as it was. Having said that, no one has a right to hit you, and you explain that to him, and distance yourself from him for some time. Leave him to his own misery, and he will come around when he feels guilty about what he has done.
Will he ever admit he hit you? Will your MIL ever take your side? Um, probably not, but welcome to marrying into a retarded desi family, of which there is no shortages in Pakistan.
J*ust by statistical cause, many of us, not of our own volition, will end up marrying retards. There just aren't enough good guys to go around, and our own mothers have done a really bad job of making real men out of these people. We haven't taught our men good virtues, and the result is in front of you. On a global scale, a nation filled with corruption, disruption, and a reputation of a vile nation hiding terrorists and taking bribes from global criminal nations. On a domestic scale, households filled with men who don't respect their other halves...so how can the world respect them?*
The best thing, Nadz, for you to do, is hold onto your patience, and do not teach your child the same nonsense your MIL taught your husband.
Should i reply to it or ignore it considering a comment by some arrogant and ignorant person???
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^I think you should ignore........
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**Nobody is imposing their advice on her.
What is considered "enough advice" is subjective**. No restrictions regarding the number of pages or responses. And what is considered to be "acutally helpful" or "unhelpful" for that matter is also subjective.
Ofcourse, ofcourse