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^ epic :-)
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ur really tooooo much hahahaha
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There is something quite wrong with u.
Yeah it probably runs in his family since his 'hijabi' mom likes to hold her husbands hand in front of other family members because they are 'not haji' . This guy is married has like two kids so his parents obviously are not young and they do all these religious gatherings like he said but they are old yet they havent gone to hajj yet .. LOL That's why they can still hold hands in front of others according to him. Of course there is something wrong with him look at this family. Can you say hypocrite ?
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Stop derailing the thread and arguing about each other passing sarcastic remarks! This is more of cultural differences between families than right or wrong issue. Its acceptable in some families and not acceptable in some. This is not so much of an issue to make fuss about. If the family is not comfortable with PDA a couple should avoid it, that's it. There isn't anything to argue about in this at all. For the sake of argument let's imagine a converse situation, if the family is ok with PDA and the couple (or one of the spouse) is not comfortable with it, is it wise of the family/parents to push the couple to display affection publicly?
And where most of you are arguing that whats wrong in showing affection to your husband in Islam, I'll paraphrase an incident for you:
Hazrat Umar (R.A.) once saw a man and woman talking in the streets of Madinah (as it was his practice to patrol the streets often). Hazrat Umar (R.A.) lashed out at the man and hit him physically and said to him why are you standing in public and talking to a lady. The man replied, O ameer ul momineen this is my wife. Even that did not reduce the anger of Hazrat Umar (R.A.) and he said even if she is your wife why dont you talk in the privacy of your home rather than talking in the streets. The man further explained that they had just moved to the city and were discussing about finding a place to reside. On which Hazrat Umar apologized to him and offered him the thing with which he had hit the man, so he would hit him back in return but the man forgave him.
1) The man was only talking. Not even holding hands.
2) The woman was his wife.
Yet Hazrat Umar disapproved so strongly!
I may as well explain here that inspite of this why did I earlier state that if the family/surroundings are comfortable why is it ok then. That is because it is not a hadith, and I have not known any hadith regarding this as YET! Secondly, Hazrat Umar was always considered to be a very strict leader. The Prophet S.A.W. many a times allowed matters even when Hazrat Umar opposed.
However, Hazrat Umar was a noticable sahabi, and his opinion counts much more than our opinion. Though it may not be sufficient for passing out a haram/halal fatwa for others, yet for me it is enough to consider the matter at the very least makruh (disliked) for myself. Also because we have been advised to stay away from doubtful matters as a precaution. So to each, his own. I may also not be so entitled to speak on this matter since I'm not married myself yet, who knows my opinion might change after I get married. (You never know)
I would like to add here that I am not judging anyone...I have just stated my knowledge and my opinion for the knowledge of other people. I respect the decisions and personal space of others, especially so in disputed and doubtful matters.
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Yeah it probably runs in his family since his 'hijabi' mom likes to hold her husbands hand in front of other family members because they are 'not haji' . This guy is married has like two kids so his parents obviously are not young and they do all these religious gatherings like he said but they are old yet they havent gone to hajj yet .. LOL That's why they can still hold hands in front of others according to him. Of course there is something wrong with him look at this family. Can you say hypocrite ?
Shows your mantality...
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And what is your mentality ?
How was this guy speaking to me and bringing up my posts from other threads into discussions and being so cheap. What about his mentality. I am just reciprocating back his medicine to him. Then you did not say anything. Because you are also of the shameless or you are scared of this guy because he tries to humiliate anyone with views opposing to his by bringing using their life information and constantly making cheap jokes.
You want to hold your man's hand in front of your parents ? Why stop there what kissing and keep going. Tomorrow you types will complain what is wrong in making babies in front of our families. It is sunah for husband and wife to show love to each other. Hai na ? You all want to applaude this shameless man because he puts on an act thinks he is all a modern superman who brings in fantasy creatures in his discussion and you all applaude him in fear. He can go to Pakistan with his pseudo muslim parents and put these antics in place and very soon he will be ousted out from our republic of pakistan. He can put as much of an act he wants but it will NEVER be ACCEPTED in our society and NO ONE WILL YIELD to behayai and besharmie no matter how much such hooligans want it .
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Shock, horror! in some random household PDA is not seen as a cute thing. My goodness, The world must be coming to an end.
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The lady requiring the bahu to visit her parents is over the top. But being awkward at hand holding is cultural. And also due to genratioon gap.
In arranged marriages, for the most part, husband/wife know the score. Conservative in laws, conservative culture etc. So nothing earth shattering about this. She is one among a few million MILs that have such rules in place.
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Saggirl is back with a vengeance 
Hai meray Allah! Itna ghussa?! Over holding hands? 
Challo, chor diya apka haat 
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This one time, at band camp, I held my husband’s hand and my MIL went “hawww!”
p.s. bravo X2 saab
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^ band camp or madrasah camp?! 
Awewww saggirl, itna ghussa? Maybe that bald dog husband of yours doesn't hold your hand and that's why you're so upset with the hand holding. Don't blame him, he doesn't have opposable thumbs... "woh kya hota hai?"... don't worry, it's an "evolvement" thing.
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And what is your problem with Madrasis?
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Awewww saggirl, itna ghussa? Maybe that bald dog husband of yours doesn't hold your hand and that's why you're so upset with the hand holding. Don't blame him, he doesn't have opposable thumbs... "woh kya hota hai?"... don't worry, it's an "evolvement" thing.
Thanks for the input Kojak. LOL
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no problem whatsoever…but given how people luuurrrve to confuse culture with religion, it was my lame attempt at a joke 