Should i wait for love or have an arranged marriage?

[Gr8Heera]

Re: Should i wait for love or have an arranged marriage?

@Iconoclast

Go for an arranged, you can always do a love marriage later

LOL You are right. But you have to have that much HIMMAT to do that.

@Sara516

First marriage should alwyas be an arranged.

Yeah baqi love marriages jitni chaho kar lo. First ko chor kay. Mazak lol.

@X2

maena

u have your requirements, now whether u meet that person on your own, or are introduced to him by a friend a some party, or by your parents at some community event, does it make a difference?

as far as your family goes, you should be open with them that just because someone meets all your prerequisites, does not mean u will find a connection, and on the other hand u actually may find a spark with someone who may not meet all of your prereqs.

i would suggest that if they ntroduce you to someone you are interested in, have some more meetings, get a chance to know the guy. I mean if u meet someone on your own u would need some time to get t know him anyways. dont go for something official until u have a good nuff feel.

its very simple actually.

Zabardast mashwara dia hai X2 nain aur main bhi yayhi kahnay ja raha tha.

Last para X2 ka zabardast mashwara hai.

@~*Shaz*~

You might consider trying out Shaadi.com too…maybe that might help ?

Just an idea

LOL I did. With my pictures now they bothers me keep sending me matching girls and I don’t want to say anything bad about that.

I wrote I want a mazhabi girl they send me girls with their open body and drinker and smoker. EWWWW. I asked parda nasheen they send me all baypardah khatoon about my age and older then me but all some looks more than 40.

I asked them not to send me any mail but they didn’t stop.

Oh yeah I get lots of mails. I family when my sister did video conferencing to see the girl the husband and wife (mother and father of girls are behaving like maniacs. Oh yeah the girl was very pretty. You know what that family said their girl is very religious and during video conferencing that girl was without duppatta or any scarf. They also send picture without duppata or scarf with tight dressing.

My sisters never ever walk around my father or brothers without dupatta.

Not a nice idea. I still have my picture at shadi.com lol

@Mamaof3

I agree with X2 here. I mean, if your parents are liberal then they will certainly understand your requirements, needs, wants. So its up to you to inform them of the type of man you’d be interested in. Its nice actually, if they go out and find a guy who fits your description!

As far as that “spark”…I think its important. To have a physical, emotional and intellectual attachment is just the best…sure true love will hopefully follow and once the initial flames die down a bit you’ll always have that super-special memory of those early-day flames in your relationship.

You work hard, you’ve acheived much, you expect much of yourself…so no need to expect less of a spouse yeah?

Sorry mama of three we Muslims neither other religions ppl are allowed to have a physical relationship without marriage.

We are allowed to see once to have a look but that one time looking can’t give us physical, emotional attachment. In my humble opinion

@sheyn

neither is a guarantee to eternal happiness …so why risk it !

Agree. It depends on both parties.

@candy_apple

It depends on how badly you want to get married. Do you feel as though you are ready and also WANT to get married RIGHT NOW? If so, the practical thing to do is meet guys through your parents - like people have said arranged is not what it used to be. What’s the harm in meeting guys to see if you “click”?

**I think everyone wants that “fairy tale” romance - they want to fall in love…**but you admitted that you have never been in love and unless there is a guy out there right now who is a potential “love interest” for you…you cannot just sit around hoping that someday you will meet someone. What if you NEVER fall in love on your own? Then what?

If you on the other hand are not in a hurry to get married then you can wait to see what happens…but one peice of advice I always give my single friends…you will NEVER find love if you go LOOKING for it…it always happens when you are least expecting it, because true love happens naturally.

You understood the main problem of maena and her sisters. They want a fairy tale romance and we all know true love happens naturally.

Sitting under the tree and waiting for a gr8 guy to come and make you fall in love. In reality it doesn’t happen. It only happens in fairy tales.

What if guy comes across by chance and she fall in love but that guy doesn’t fall in love and don’t like her then what? He also meets all the criteria of her.

@nadz123

remember both are a gamble, and nothing is gauranteed.

i opted for arrnaged, and to be honest i prefer it this way, you get more parental support and theres more of a backbone if you ever get into trouble within your mariage. love marriages i find are always riskier, from what i know.
remember you never know wht someone is like until you dont live with them and are not married, so love or arranged doesnt guarantee anything. sometimes you can know someone for 10 years, that doesnt guarantee anything…

so take a risk and believe in allah

Wow zabardast post.

Agree with the blue line.

Zabardast baat in purple line.

Subhan Allah for the red line.

@sheyn

Truth Hurts : Not the searching after but the running from…

Exactly.

@NightVision

The biggest difference.

In love marriage, if anything goes wrong anywhere, you are all alone, by yourself.
In arrange marriage, if anything goes wrong anywhere, you are not alone, everyone will be there right beside you.

Be wise…

In above posts it already been said " Love just happens, if it can happen before marriage, it can also happen after marriage too "

Zabardast post.

@Straight_up

Brain says arrange it.

Heart says dsfhsfhkdhfkshdfkhfksfhdkshf.

Totally agree.

I would say.

Dil dewana bin sajna kay maanay na
Yay pugla hai (dimagh kay) samjhanay say samjhay naa