Should I go back to my husband?

Reha · July 10, 2011, 9:37pm

Re: Should I go back to my husband?

Based on info available, there are not so strong reasons so far that you deprive your kids from their father as male figure at home and you acknowledged that above that they need male figure.

**Where exactly do you see the OP saying she doesnt want the kids to be with their father? Her not being with him is not depriving her kids of a father - its actually restoring sanity in her life so she can be a focused parent rather than an aggravated wife. **

Which man you can absolutely trust to do that job?

You two brought kids in this world then be responsible and think of them.

**Again, I doubt responsibility is an issue for the OP. **

Your ego and your parents do not count here.

Meet with him separately if you have no strong reason to be separated and then clarify if he is willing to change.
The guy seems loser but still the father of your children. Him sponging off his parents is none of your business.

If my husband was sponging off his parents but wanted to stay married to him…that is my business. So now, she is supposed to support and raise 4 kids and an adult male? No thank you.

(What I meant above is that you took a bit long to separate)

Now,

**If there is something really terrible like he is abusive to kids or psycho then obviously you do not need to go back to him.

**By the way, kids are important in terms of their safety, but their wishes at this early age are not important as they cannot really tell who is right who is wrong.
Whoever is closer to them and feeds their thoughts, they will favor.

Eventually you are the one who knows best. People can only give you guidelines.

Last post here from me.

**Why do people think a man has to beat a woman for her to want to leave? So unless she is bruised up and down, none of her reasons are valid.

That is a bit backward - for my taste at least. Others may like this sort of thing but I find it really village-y. **