Should I feel insecure?

[BusyBee]

@Paheli00

@BusyBee

Lastly, I can’t work. They don’t let me. I have two professional degrees in the healthcare field. But NO, I’m not allowed to go outside the house w/o my MIL anywhere. Even going to a friends house where only I am invited, she has to come along and I can’t say no or h*ll will break loose!

Can’t work? Now “allowed” to go outside the house? Forgive me but I don’t have much sympathy or respect for this type of thinking. You’re a 29-year old woman with 2 professional degrees living in the U.S. The only person who can prevent you from working or going outside the house is YOU. After all, they’re not literaly locking you up inside the house or threatening you with physical harm/murder are they?

@BusyBee

And when I say I’m with him because of my parents it’s just so they don’t get hurt bcoz my whole family knows I “fought” to get married to him and divorce after 6 years without a kid, is just terrible in the desi community, let alone family

Hmm…so is it better to get divorced WITH a kid? I ask b/c your husband did tell you that he is willing to leave you for his parents right? Given the way you’re treated in the house, do you think it’s fair to bring a child into this enviornment? What if your husband and in-laws treat your child the way they treat you? You allow your in-laws to treat you like a maid b/c emotionally you can’t handle it when “all hel* breaks loose”. If you can’t stand up and demand respect/love for yourself…what makes you think you’ll be strong enough to stand up for your child if he/she is beign mistreated?

They’re not locking me but they create so much drama with me and hubby that he backfires at me. I really can’t handle the stress anymore, really! So I just avoid the situations that lead to the drama.
And no, divorce with a kid will be terrible!! Sometimes I feel it’ll get better with a kid? I don’t know I’m just lost seriously. Yesterday I cried to mom, I never told her about hubby’s attitude but only in-laws’ and she goes “I told you this family won’t treat you right, you have to adjust now”. I mean mom has never said this before but yesterday I lost all the hope of having a “backup”. I don’t have a good relation with my dad since I got married. Even before the wedding, our relationship was estranged coz he’s a loner by nature, like that with everyone. So I have just totally lost it now. Mom loves me no doubt but she can’t do anything bcoz of my family and the community…and that too after 6 yrs!