*How good do you expect him to be? I think that would require almost prophetic level of goodness. *
This is a sad situation indeed. Since she is in early stages of pregnancy, I believe another option could be to abort the baby. Abortion should never be an option, but within the first six weeks of pregnancy the fetus isn't exactly alive. So she could be saving herself and her family from a lot of trouble by doing just that. She MUST repent as well, and stay faithful to her husband.
Some men would forgive, tiny minority tho. A man might love his wife unconditionally + stand by her tho these cases are usually when the couple have been married for many years.
Some men would forgive, tiny minority tho. A man might love his wife unconditionally + stand by her tho these cases are usually when the couple have been married for many years.
If she slept with someone day before wedding and the man forgives her, he's an idiot. Not a nice guy - a loser. ...and unconditional love doesn't mean tolerate infidelity.
If she slept with someone day before wedding and the man forgives her, he's an idiot.Not a nice guy - a loser. ...and unconditional love doesn't mean tolerate infidelity.
I agree, but some men (and women) would forgive. Yes, they're idiots. No-one should let their partner treat them that way, what's to stop them doing it again if they've 'gotten away with it' once....
If she slept with someone day before wedding and the man forgives her, he's an idiot. Not a nice guy - a loser. ...and unconditional love doesn't mean tolerate infidelity.
This woman had some heart , to ignore her family's izzat, her future husband's honour... and also decided to keep the baby without thinking of the consequences ........
She comitted a sin and her sister and friends are also partners in crime .. they must own upto their sins ... the husband needs to know ... when her child grows up one day , he needs to know the truth , the childs biological father needs to know ....
right now , covering up and remaining mum... is the easiest escape route... but will she be able to live a happy life knowing all of the above? will she be able to deeply love her husband at anytime in her marriage? there will always be this hidden guilt in her subconcious that will stop her being a good wife and a good mother ....
plus the fact that her husband WILL find out one day .... and the more the time passes ... she is just digging the grave deeper .... what happens when later in life both sisters end up fighting and the sister gives away the secret ?
this woman will lose everything from respect to life .... in her husband's and her child's eyes ...
she has to be brave and own up her mistake ... she must talk to the husband or her own parents and convince them that yes , she comitted a sin for which she is feeling extreme remorse .. and seek their forgiveness .. and Allah's forgiveness ...
If the husband takes her back , trust me she will be a much better wife .. and a much better mother ....
It may be a tough pill to swallow right now .. but its better to take it for a better future ...
even if this has an affect on her sisters marriage ... it doesnt mean , both these sisters can take advantage of the man's innocense. They must own up to the sin they comitted ....
yh and i also think that if she does tell her hubby and her bubby forgives herr!!!!
she'll still do it anywaysss
gurls like dat need to be bought to dere senses !!!
and da saddest thing ryte noww isss
i keep thinkin abt da gurls hubby he's probably soo happy that he's aBT TO BE A FATHER :ASA:
muje ghusa chara hai
See that is the reason that I feel she should be made to accept her sins and seek forgiveness .. otherwise if she feels that such a big sin can be kept under the carpet so easily ... continue doing it .. who cares !
plus it will be an example for the other sister and her four friends .... that no matter what happens in life .. if you really care for someone , you need to take the decisions that are in their best interest..... not just become a partner in crime ...
See that is the reason that I feel she should be made to accept her sins and seek forgiveness .. otherwise if she feels that such a big sin can be kept under the carpet so easily ... continue doing it .. who cares !
plus it will be an example for the other sister and her four friends .... that no matter what happens in life .. if you really care for someone , you need to take the decisions that are in their best interest..... not just become a partner in crime .../quote]
you know i was just going through some of the previous messges ... and i felt awkward as a woman ...
if a man hides something from his wife , the lady manages to create havoc ...
and now this woman is hiding such a huge thing from her family and husband .. and i cant even believe the fact that some of us think she is right in hiding it ..........
under NO circumstances .... is she right ... if she wants to repent, she has to come out openly with it to her husband .... otherwise there isnt an excuse in the world for her behaviour..... if there is .. then i would say her husband should also sleep with other women and not tell her .
you know i was just going through some of the previous messges ... and i felt awkward as a woman ...
if a man hides something from his wife , the lady manages to create havoc ...
and now this woman is hiding such a huge thing from her family and husband .. and i cant even believe the fact that some of us think she is right in hiding it ..........
under NO circumstances .... is she right ... if she wants to repent, she has to come out openly with it to her husband .... otherwise there isnt an excuse in the world for her behaviour..... if there is .. then i would say her husband should also sleep with other women and not tell her .
hmmm
u knw ...
ure very right...
wen us women
are very protective and wont tolerate even a single bit from men then why shud tghey tolearate it from us ??
also i was jus thinkin a few mins ago that if i was in his position....and i cared abt my spouse I WOULD WANA KNW !!!! its a seperate issue afterwards whether i forgive or not but da hubby defo has a right to knw!!!
..i admit at first i was a bit confused abt whther she shud tell him or not but honestly even if she found ouT a day ebfore her shadi that she was pregnant with sumone elses child she shudve found a way to tell him ...
atleast she wouldnt live her ife in guilt and fear of what could happen :S ...
alsoo....
liek you said earliar rosa it was a shyt move earliar to tell anyone she was pregnant at any point in her life if she decides to hide it can it be blown up in her face!!!
I feel so bad for this girl's family, husband and inlaws...imagine everything their looking forward to?
Some girls just ruin everything with their own hands and thats what she did.
Very True ...
at the end of the day we are all human ... some of us do things that we shouldnt .... but then what makes the difference is:
if one has created a sin , they should own up to it and face the consequences and repent... and trust me Allah will forgive her on the day of judgement for just that one thing inshallah ...
but if she doesnt own it up today ... not only will she be living a miserable life but on the day of judgement she will face the harshest of punishments from Allah....
If she can do it right before her marriage, It is almost 100% guaranteed that she will do it again and this time may be within husband's family... The husband is effd up no matter what. Husband should divorce her ASAP
If she can do it right before her marriage, It is almost 100% guaranteed that she will do it again and this time may be within husband's family... The husband is effd up no matter what. Husband should divorce her ASAP
...just as another take on this subject...have any of you read "A Thousand Splendid Suns"? It concerns a gal in this very same situation. A tragic tale for sure, and very captivating in that she had very little choice in the matter.
you know i was just going through some of the previous messges ... and i felt awkward as a woman ...
if a man hides something from his wife , the lady manages to create havoc ...
and now this woman is hiding such a huge thing from her family and husband .. and i cant even believe the fact that some of us think she is right in hiding it ..........
under NO circumstances .... is she right ... if she wants to repent, she has to come out openly with it to her husband .... otherwise there isnt an excuse in the world for her behaviour..... if there is .. then i would say her husband should also sleep with other women and not tell her .
i dont think shes right. and many people arent sayign the wife should stay quiet but instead are saying that this friend should stay quiet atleast im saying that. because i dont think its her place to tell the husband about this. i think she should only speak to the pregnant girl and try to convince her to speak to her husband but in no way do i think this friend should tell the husband about this situation even though he has a right to know about it. he should be hearing it from his wife only.