I know a girl who was engaged and her wedding date was set and all and she had this fling with this other guy b4 her wedding. Right b4 her wedding (like a day b4) she found out she was pregnant…and us close friends know that it was not her husbands baby cuz she told us the day of the nikkah…
Since she was pregnant at that time it looks (to everyone else including her husband) that it is her husbands baby and she doesnt want to tell anyone. She is pretending it is her husbands baby.
The only ppl who know are 3 of us friends… and her sister who is also the other daughter in law of her house.
Should someone tell her husband? Doesnt he have the right to know?
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he does hava right to knw...
i guess it depend son her relationship with him...
i mean if we were super super close and i knew he'd be able to handle it i would tell him...
bu if i figured he coul;dnt i wouldnt and ....
i dnt knw i guess i have mix feelings over da issue ...
and i find it jus a bit hard to blieve she had a fling a day before her shadi
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Won't the husband find out anyway with the due date and all? She must have been at least a month pregnant at the time of her wedding, right?
Won't the husband find out anyway with the due date and all? She must have been at least a month pregnant at the time of her wedding, right?
early birthss
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dammm …
^^ @ angel .. i ll say a joke but not here lol
this is awful and this is definatly not right, not being biased but things like this .. Islam has to be brought in .cos if she admits to 3 friends and they are witness and her sister also knows which maked 4 then ..she shud be punished ..you al know the rulings
aur secondly … its the friends fault also for not letting someone elder know at the day or time of nikah to the new guy cos hes been blanked out ..
the husband has a right to know, because in islam the lineage is with the father and if however later on he finds out about this .. how will he feel .. and how will his lineage / his legacy continue when his so called son isnt even his real son ??
something to think about over a cuppa tea .. but this is defnatly an aplousabe deed 
lookin fwd to da joke 
khairr
yh i understand what u mean bu i still dnt get hu wud haf a
fling ryte ebfore gettin married ???
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I believe the 4 witnesses only work if they are all men. Correct me if I'm wrong. The husband does have a right to know. At the same time I don't think it's ur place to tell him or anyone else other than his wife.
Although the whole incident is disgraceful not only will her marriage be affected but so will her sisters. If you feel so badly about it u should speak to the wife and tell her to tell the truth otherwise leave it alone. It's a very complicated situation and if this info is given to the husband and his family finds out, depending on the type of family it is, even the younger sisters marriage could end up in a divorce. Therefore either leave it alone or speak only to the girl.
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i agree... its her hubby's rite to know. this is betrayal. and is she not scared the child will grow up not lookin like him? (maybe he ends up lookin like the father of the baby). eventually he will get to know... maybe some yrs from now but eventually. its better to tell him now and get a divorice
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he definately needs to know
wont he be attending her first visit to the doc? and from that he'll kno exaclty when the baby was conceived..
yikes... sad
I believe the 4 witnesses only work if they are all men. Correct me if I'm wrong.
It is a misconception, the witness can be any free adult with good reputation ( not having an image of liar or story-teller).
he definately needs to know
wont he be attending her first visit to the doc? and from that he'll kno exaclty when the baby was conceived..
yikes... sad
realli??
u can find out like dat ??
wow i nev knew
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This is horrible...
Husband needs to know the child isnt his and he will find out any way when they go to the doctor unless she had sex the day before her wedding and the night of her wedding. That kind of muddles things up doesnt it?
There is just too much wrong with this picture but the immediate things to address are:
Tell hubby and ONLY hubby for now. No one else.
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Now this is a situation...
Morally it may be wrong, but i guess she should continue with the course and don't tell anyone, as it can harm her other sister too.
Some things should be there and must never be told, it shall destroy many lives, the life of your friend, her husband, her sister as she is one who is going to be blamed for the misery of her husband...
She should turn to Allah and ask for his mercy, ask for forgiveness, never-ever go back and commit any sin of this nature.. do the right up-bringing of the off-spring. May Allah bless her with his mercy and kindness.
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you know what ..come to think of it and trying to work out all the scenarios in my head ..about one night before finding out , fling and 3 friends knowing about it ... sister also knowing about it ..and having the baby ..and everything ..husband left in the dark
conclusion: this sittuation i dunt thiink is even reall .. cos what tye of friends are these who know k shes done wrong yet told no one .. what sorta sister is she ..when she knows k her sisters son is not legit child ..
and what sorta wife ..irresponsible and disgraceful wife wud she be not telling the husband and still pretending its his son and knowing k hes not ...
and the friend who is so errm opend this thread knows of this situation .. are you insane ..your telling the whole world about this over the net .. then your asking should the husband know .. damm right he has the right to know ..
so this is a fake and am just gonna laugh over it .. sorry to be so blunt .. and no offence to annyone :)
It is a misconception, the witness can be any free adult with good reputation ( not having an image of liar or story-teller).
you need two witnesses for an event like this .. if men then two if women then four cos in islam .. two women are considered equal to one man in calibre..
:) so yeh
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Tough chit. What a B!
you know what ..come to think of it and trying to work out all the scenarios in my head ..about one night before finding out , fling and 3 friends knowing about it ... sister also knowing about it ..and having the baby ..and everything ..husband left in the dark
conclusion: this sittuation i dunt thiink is even reall .. cos what tye of friends are these who know k shes done wrong yet told no one .. what sorta sister is she ..when she knows k her sisters son is not legit child ..
and what sorta wife ..irresponsible and disgraceful wife wud she be not telling the husband and still pretending its his son and knowing k hes not ...
and the friend who is so errm opend this thread knows of this situation .. are you insane ..your telling the whole world about this over the net .. then your asking should the husband know .. damm right he has the right to know ..
so this is a fake and am just gonna laugh over it .. sorry to be so blunt .. and no offence to annyone :)
i agree with uu
i find dis problem to be a fake too
and too unrealistic ..
you need two witnesses for an event like this .. if men then two if women then four cos in islam .. two women are considered equal to one man in calibre..
:) so yeh
Two women only in situation where a contractual or money matter involves... not in the case of murder or Zina.
Non-Muslims has used this to show that how Islam consider women as a low specie.
If you want to go into details, have a topic in Religious affairs.
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so many lives will be destroyed because of this.If you as a friend wantd to spill the beans, you should have said something BEFORE the Nikkah.Now its too late.Talk to the Girl and her sister...see if she is really remorseful or not. Ageh Allah Taleh knows best.
Two women only in situation where a contractual or money matter involves... not in the case of murder or Zina.
Non-Muslims has used this to show that how Islam consider women as a low specie.
If you want to go into details, have a topic in Religious affairs.
ok thanx for the update ..most appreciated :)
but even still this is terrible and these four ppl ..are also accountable in some way