I meant, you should have not discussed it here on the first place. Ye gawah paida karnay jaisa hay. What I pointed out earlier from the Islamic point of view is, its better not to discuss your sins, just ask for the forgiveness from Allah. The more you tell people, the more you are creating gawahs for you at the day of judgement.
Women who have had their fun often lament that men dont want to marry them because of their past. I was simply suggesting why dont such women marry guys who are so sexually experienced, secure and broad minded that they don't mind women having a past.
Your post implied that that is not easy.
How would you know that the guy would tell you the truth?? Some guys play saints too!! In that case, will the girl spend her entire life in guilt????
Why don't you slow down and think before posting?
How did you arrive at the conclusion that the OP does not "practice" what she advised her friend? If you are trying to point out that OP did not stay "quiet" about her friend's sin as she is advising her do.....then that question has already been answered in the thread.** The friend asked her to post the problem and told her what to write in the original post**. If the "keeping quiet" is referred to for the future....then hopefully OP will honor her friend's trust.
If that's the case, I take my words back, I missed the post where it was mentioned.
How would you know that the guy would tell you the truth?? Some guys play saints too!! In that case, will the girl spend her entire life in guilt????
Its simple. They should marry the SAME kind of men they had their fun with. And lets be honest, everyone knows which guys have a lot of experience. For instance in this case how did she knew the guy she made out with was a player?
^^sorry to say...but many players make sure they marry a naik Parveen . They often DON'T MARRY the girls they fool around with or the ones with loose character. this is the unfortunate truth .
She asked for *advice *folks, not judgements and torment.
It's said that a woman who goes out with perfume is an adultress. How many of women who do so want to be called thus? It's said the difference between a muslim and kafir is prayer. How many of us non-namazis want to be called thus?
The girl's actions were despicable, but I gotta hand it to her for laying out the sordid details of her plan and be open to advice; not everyone can do that. Those of us who have never gone near fornication and pride ourselves on the self-control should extend that control to our mouths and mind the manners that we have been brought up with and refrain from using derogatory words as though we are the victims of the girl's sin.
I'm sure many of us would ditch our friends if were to learn that they had been talking smack about us as it would be a direct breach of trust. And many of us are grateful that our friends are none the wiser about the sins we committed against them. The girl's fornication is not a violation of Icicle's trust or rights. So who are we to say that she should stop being friends with the girl? Good thing the post was removed as some of the comments here are just passionate, air-headed bakwaas. I can understand the view that associating with a friend of ill-repute can harm your own image, but I also believe that the same friends can help guide the one who is lost with their support in becoming better. Ostracizing can have more damaging effects on a person who desires to turn themselves around.
^^sorry to say...but many players make sure they marry a naik Parveen . They often DON'T MARRY the girls they fool around with or the ones with loose character. this is the unfortunate truth .
Maybe the girls they fool around with are not that attractive.
most of these studs dont tell the grls they're fooling around with "hey by the way, i'm only fooling around with you but i will marry someone i'm more attracted to and think is a better person than you are" anyway this thread is not for my views on players. i was only seeking some advice for a frnd that had confided in me. we can discuss your views on how men who cheat are still above women who cheat in another thread
The girl has cheated on her hubby, the least she can do now is keep her mouth shut and help him get to Amreeka. Once he gets his green cardt, she can tell him about her rendezvous and file for divorce. Then she be free to shag whoever she wants.
Seriously. This is one of the most bizarre and disgusting posts I've read on GS regarding a marriage. Shudder. How can she do that??? Uffff. I really feel bad for her unsuspecting husband.
This girl needs to repent to Allah SWT big time!!! TAUBA karo. Seriously. Zina is a HUGEEE sin. It's a big gunaah.
If she is realllyy very very very sure this will NEVER EVER happen again, I suggest her to move on and not tell her husband. If I were her (ALLAH NA KARE) i wouldn't tell my husband. AND SHE SHOULD NEVER TELL HER STORY TO ANY ONE ELSE EVER AGAIN.
Telling her husband will most probably result in a divorce. And even if he doesn't divorce her, he wont ever be able to forget what his wife did. i think she should not torment him by telling him. sounds bad, but yeah.
Tell ur friend to really work on herself and cleanse her soul. STOP all unnecessary contact with men till her husband is in the US and able to fulfill her desires.
I do agree with some of the posters that if she has made up her mind to make this marriage work then she needs to keep her secret to herself and focus on her relationship.
I just hope and pray this is all...once people start to cheat its very hard for them to stop. Not because they're evil and want to hurt the people they love...but because its an addiction.
