Shadi preps

Lifestyle Relationships
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its a trivial issue. ask her to show you the dress she likes before she buys it and if you dont like it just say so. or go with her and the guy and try it on or something. in this day and age she should not make a huge fuss over you not liking the dress she picked. your wedding is a special day and everygirl wants to look her best.

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Barfee, ouch!!!!

I like the idea of burning the outfit while ironing it :D. I already burnt one of my shalwars made of kataan and i even liked the dress :( That was one of my fav dresses too.

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now I dont know whoes more evil, the woman who buys the ugly dress or the woman who burns it :cb:

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actually barfee i disagree with you. if she is evil then most likely the dress situation is a "control" issue. (since MIL is pissed at not having any say in her son's life)....and it wont end with the dress...even if the girl succumbs to her in this case then the MIL will most likely trying to control other aspects of her life as well...
its good to have a positive outlook and try to better relationships with in-laws but it should be a mutual thing...i dont believe in the woman always making sacrifices of her happy moments....

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Thats the problem from the looks of it sweets, MIL wants it to be entirely her own choice with no second opinions.

Chameli have u tried talking to the lady?

My sisters valima lehnga wasn;t ugly or anything it was just not very weddingish. Wasn;t anything even close to the picture my sister had given as a sample. My sister had every intention of not wearing it but when the time came she wore it anyway. Her MIL is a total sweetheart and she got a not so heavy lehnga so that sis could wear it later on too. So my sister ended up wearing it to avoid a fuss and resentment but MIL did get the idea that sis wasn;t too crazy about it. She still looked pretty though.

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I just dont think dress is that big of a deal, see like femme said the dress wasn't even close to what her sister wanted she did look nice(cuz i am sure shes pretty) and she avoided all the fuss.

If she tries to control other aspects of her life than she can deal with that later. Why start new relationships so negatively?

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The one who buys it ofcourse :halo:

Love the idea :smiley:

Barfee the thing is that sisters MIL loves her very much and even though she didnt get what sis had requested, and could have been better, it wasn;t ugly, it was just plain. Chameli’s MIL is anti-chameli which can get problematic!

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i dont see how letting your MIL know your choice and getting to wear something you actually like on the biggest days of your life is reason enough to make a relationship negative. its the MIL who should understand...

yeah she can deal with it later but the notion that "if she wears the dress her marriage will be saved" is a bit naive if the MIL is doing it on purpose.

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And I dont think its such a big deal to make a big fuss about, there are more important issues that she needs to deal with. I just think that if she puts in a little effort(and why shouldn't she?) she can make her relationship with her MIL a lil better.

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I might get chittars and jootays for saying this but i am going to say it anyways. And before i proceed, i am not pointing any fingers at anyone whatsoever, esp at Chameli. I dont know her and I am not trying to make her sound like egocentric, mean etc etc.

1) To me, my big day is the baraat day. Ideally I would strive my best to wear my choice of outfit on that day. In reality I chose the dress, jewellery etc mostly of my mother's choice. I had to compromise and get something that made both of us happy.

2) The walima dress, in my opinion is a gift from my inlaws. Perhaps i dont have a right to say anything ehre since i was able to choose my walima dress myself. But its a gift nonetheless and i would personally not make a big deal of what someone else gives to me as a present. I would on the other hand send out plenty of signals on what i would like so they can get something similiar, if not an exact copy of what i want. :)

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ofcourse...provided that the MIL also wants to have good relations and is not "EVIL"

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^ we dont know that. Thats what Chameli thinks because of the vibes she got. As far as I remember i think in the beg she said that her family didnt treat the guys family right, so doesnt that explain the "evilness" ?

I agree with Ira. Do what you have to do in a civilized manner, dont be a egocentric *****.

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i would be a good bahu and wear the lehnga, but then thats me so to you i say good luck!

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now thats a tough question.. :cb:

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i know we dont know that. it was a general statement....i was saying IF your MIL is evil THEN etc etc....

its for chameli to decide...

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I burnt it by mistake, everybody was busy doing whatever they had to so i thought i might chip in by ironing all the dresses.
I'd never come across the material and the minute it felt the heat it started melting away like ice out in the sun.

Later on my ex MIL found the whole thing extremely funny. But then again she is a gem of a lady.

Sara n Femme thanks.
Ira hell Yes !! If its a hideous parrot green or shocking pink one then i guess there is no other choice

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shocking pink n parrot green r pwetty :clown:

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:chusni:

I have a shocking pink singlet that i wear when Im having a very good body day.
It looks hawt :o

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singlet? woh kya?

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^ paindoo :halo:

lol just kidding babe, singlet manay baniyaan manay tanktop manay bayhayaa kapray