How would you influence your shadi preperations i.e your lehnga suit when your future mum in law wants it her way and doesnt listen to anyone, not even her son.
so if ur mother in law gets a lehnga set made for your barat or walima that u just cannot wear, what wud u do then??
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I’d refuse to marry 
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Chameli,
I think its your wedding not your mohter-in-law's wedding, so rude answer would be refuse to wear it. But I wont suggest that because its her son you are gonna be spending the (possible) rest of your life, so you have to play your bit clever.
The best solution can be telling your own parents What do you want to wear & I am sure they can tell your mother-in-law to be how to settle the score. What part your father-in-law can play? I am sure it wont be a big deal, its kinda one most important day in your life & you have a full right to fulfil your own wish to keep the good memories of this day. Just try to convince your mother-in-law that you have some dreams about your wedding day & you want it to be the way you want it. I am sure with little bit of explanation she would be reasonable enough to understand your wish.
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she's making the both dresses?
Try to convince her to make one dress for valima of her choice. Its your wedding day, you have the right to make the wedding day dress by yourself. I agree with Najim, use a can of butter while talking to her :D
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I am getting my barat dress made myself. she is insisting to get the walima lehnga made herself and she refuses to listen to anyone, neither her husband or her children can convice her.
thanks God I m not gonna live with her. she is sooooo dominating!!!
hmmmmm, this is so impossible!!!maybe I shoud get my own walima lehnga made and not wear hers when it comes to the walima party..it will her own fault since she didnt listen...or will it be way too much????
and mind u, her taste is from 1800 century!
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Dude get ur own lengha..
What does ur honaywala say?
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He says dont worry mein sambhal loun ga....both me and him will be in pk at the same time, so maybe he is figuring out some shopping tour with me, but i just haven had the chance to speak with him the past few days...
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Mmm… well then leave it to him? But try getting ur own dress made just i n case 
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hmm he doesnt know much about female outfits...that even bigger risk:D
anyways, will figure it out....
just looking for good advices on how to aviod getting on wrong track with my saasu maa
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GET UR OWN MADE...ITS UR DAY...UR MOTHER IN LAW'S HAD HERS (PROBABLY IN THE 1800'S)
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No MIL prolly didnt have hers, her own MIL took control of everthing, so she might c it as her chance to get revenge
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usually the in-laws arranges everything for walima, from dress - jewelry. But they usually take the gal with um to get an idea of wht sort of lehga she would like. Well pick a lehga u like and tell ur mother-in-law to get that one for ur walima. Btw has she picked Jewlery and shoes for u too :D. Just go with ur mother-in-law to the bazaar and shop for ur walima with her :)
p.s: the lehnga she got u, put it on fire and tell her it accidently caught fire :D then she would have to go ur way :D
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it’s so sad 18th century things still happen today..from my exp i can tell u..most of my cousins followed this tradition..they didnt say nethin cuz they themsevles r from bak home..u noe the whole thing" respect elders..etc."
on my weddin, i clearly told mum i am NO WAY wearin wat others give me…i am a very picky person mind u:snooty: n told her i will agree to nethin but this
so she has decided to take things control and advice my mother-in-law that each side can select their own clothes [as in groom his, me mine]…so i was quite happy :)..thankfully my saas is not “dominatin”
as others said, its ur weddin…get a dres for urself..n talk to ur parents and his parents..maybe tell her..that u n her can go shoppin urself..n pick sumthin n she can pay for it?
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Chameli, if i were you, and my MIL wanted me to wear her choice on the walima, i would try my best to persuade her otherwise. If she didnt agree then i would not argue and go with her choice. I mean how bad could it be? it would be hard to buy 18th century stuff in pak unless its in fashion :D And chances are when she goes to get it sewn, and asks for a older, wierd design, the darzis can usually do a pretty good job of telling her that its not in fashion etc etc.
Good luck at your wedding and try to enjoy the event.
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I have worn stuff before that I would never but only to make people who got it for me feel good but I guess ur weddings a bit different. Its not that big of a deal lol atleast you are getting married! I mean with the right accesoreis and jewelry and hair i am sure u can pull it off hehe maybe I am so chilled about it cuz my MIL-to-be has good taste and shes not like that.
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Hmmm...my in-laws picked my valima lengha as well as the suit that I wore on my nikkah. I didn't have any qualms about it. But then again I guess everyone is different.
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I hated my walima dress but wore it because i just did not want to start off with all negativity but now that i look back i should have!!!
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How bad coul it be ???
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I dont know about you guys but I dont think a dress is worth breaking somenes heart over :o Its not like the MIL are getting these dresses cuz they want you guys to be miserable, they are doing it out of love, they want their bahus to look a certain way, and if you are getting ur way on the wedding day then why not let her hjave her way for one day?