hang on a min so its OK for her to do batameezxi with me just because I DONT PAY HER.
isnt there a general consensus to be TAMEEZDAR.
MY MIL DOESNT PAY ME ,,YET i have never raised my voice at her.
my mum doesnt get paid, she does all the housework and some, in the uk no kaamwalis, so my mums flat out, yet shes never done BATAMEEZI because my brother or dad asked her to iron a shirt or make a sandwhich....shes never screamed her head off at them. and neither has anyone i know.
yet this kaamwlai thinks shes doing some ehsan. and the shopping i asked her to ge was food for the WHOLE HOUSE. MONEY ngiven by my mil to get food.
if she cant do something, fine, tameez say bolo. no need to yell and shout, shes not my mother. and i will take no **** from anyone, least of all some kaamwali who thinks shes doing us a favour. im not the only one who thinks this, so does my husband and my bil. only my mil is a her bumchum. well hope thye are very happy together.
but im ashamed of u guys, who think its ok for her to scream at me. thanks guys.
*What an absolutely insolent woman that kaamwali is!!! How dare she even look at you when she speaks, let alone raise her voice! Does she not know her place??! Has her mother not taught her any tameez?
And then for your MIL to take her side??!!! That has to be the epitome of injustice!!! Who does SHE think she is? Just because she is the lady of the house that doesn't give her the right to treat you with disrespect!
I think you should give both of them a piece of your mind. Maybe then they will have more than one brain cell to think with.....
These people don't know how blessed they are to have you in their home for all these years. Just wait until you are off to UK. Just wait and see how much they will miss your company. They will all be sorry.
Ja'o shabash.....achi tarah sunna kar aa'o dono ko.....phir batana dil ka haal.....*
Nadz do you realize you're comparing your own mom and your MIL (and their efforts to raise their own kids and nurture their own family) to your kaam wali?
Have you any idea how silly that sounds?
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And this is just very low nadz. Even if she's a kaam wali and even if she does batameezi, this mindset of yours isn't very positive and I'm sure she knows that how you think of her hence all the batameezi from her side.
Mil likes kaamwali, Nadz trying to do everything to get her fired, even kaan bearing her husband and pitting him against kaamwali.
Sooner or later she will manage to get the kaamwali fired or make her leave the job, sad, sad situation for her MIL.
No, I want to make sure that there is no insecurity which is in works here. Lets say that kaamwali is a beautfiul pashto girl of 22. Would that make nadz uncomfortable? It will, right?
No, I want to make sure that there is no insecurity which is in works here. Lets say that kaamwali is a beautfiul pashto girl of 22. Would that make nadz uncomfortable? It will, right?
