I was talking about the topic. Usually in or about 3 months you have Members of Gupshup come up with a topic like this containig smilyes
Then you have other members replying with :nono:
Member who started the topic doesn’t or rarely posts back and topic going from Islam, Desi, Men, Sex, Feelings to all the other one liner cliche’ Bullsh*t ends.
Until another topic comes up with similar thoughts about Sex and Desiness of it
I think MenhazQ should make a sticky FAQ thread about these topics that contains all the opinions of the guppies raging :maulvidis to and let the questionare get his/her point cause don’t you think this is a serious waste of my time?
It happens, but I harldy think it’s “rampent”. Maybe among the westernized elite who bend over backwards to behave anything other than Pakistani, it may be a new trend.
No doubt it happens among other segments of society, but it’s far less common than peole would like to think.
Piss on Islamic morals, then piss on yours as well…if there isn’t anything wrong with sex before marriage, there’s nothing wrong with making money from the act as well…
Look we all knwo what religion says...and we all know that in our day and age sex is a mere activity like playing tennis or watchin a movie..etc
The only thing that stops me from partaking in it is the fact that on the day I consummate my marriage will I be able to look my husband in the eye and tell him that he has every part of me...that he has something that no one else will evr have or ever did.
If I do sleep with another man before marriage I wouldn't be true to that vow of complete devotion..I wouldn't be true to to the fact that every bit of me belongs to him and him alone...I wouldn't be able to look him in the eye when he touched me knowing that someone else had done the same.
same here …why is that so hard to understand …wanting and needing are seperate issues . a prohibition is a prohibition.
just like we are obliged to go by the 5 pillars of islam …we might not WANT to get up early morning for rozay BUT we are required to …and majority of uswho may not even pray 5 times in a day naturally get up and albeit falling and trippping over things in the morning have something to eat and then fast.is that true to say?
point is Islam teaches what we can and can not do …and this is one thing that is forbidden. feelings aside.so no in answer to ur question, its wrong.and if u feel so strongly abt it you are still given a chance to fulfil your desire AFTER your marriage.
Its wrong. Its not allowed. Its sinful. It disturbs the social fabric and comes in the way of preaceful, trustworthy marital lives. All humans, good or bad condemns it in their heart, even if they went through it.
Despite that, we have alarming ratio of humans indulging into this activity. I salute to those who have kept them from succumbing to it and I do salute them out of my deep appreciations for their immense self control on their desires. BUT…
I want to remind you that this sinful urge is the most powerful of all sins humans commit. Its intensity can very well be judged from the religious fact that God chose to keep us uninformed of it and satan chose this to lead us astray. First couple succumbed to it. Did they do it after they got married?
Its not the actual sex that is a problem in itself. At least not for me. I find the trouble comes in when a little present comes along with it, presenting a female with the choice of either carrying it to term for 9 months, or aborting it.
Desis are shagging all the time before marriage. That, to me, is not offensive. But it is offensive when they decide to abort the baby because of their own irresponsibility.
Because I dont want to take that risk, I refuse to have premarital sex.
I had a conversation with two ladies earlier today (not muslim, but whatever). One said that she's getting a pregnancy test done, because she thinks she's pregnant, but she hopes she isn't, and if she is, she'll probably get an abortion done. The other said that she has a 6 year old son, and she wishes she had aborted him, because she had him too early and he made life tough for her.
Good grief. If you can't handle the consequences, then don't shag!
Thats news to me. I for myselff have always felt you should be deadly against the real act done without marriage. In the meanwhile, aap seerhee se gir to naheen gayeen hain na?
Not that I know of, but I am experiencing indigestion I think, at the moment.
I personally want intimacy with a man who I am married to, and that is the conclusion I have come to, and I hope to God I can stick to that.
I'm a utilitiarian, duh. Its the consequences of premarital sex that bother me more than the act itself. If there is no baby involved, sure the act MIGHT leave you damaged, but you can pick up and move on and maybe even make peace with God if you choose to.
But you throw a baby in there, and it complicates things beyond belief. And in our culture, its the girls that experience the brunt of the storm when that happens.
However, what I AM against is people who use each other for intimacy, just because they want to get laid, or experience pleasure, and to get that, they feed their partner lies to get them into bed. Goes for both males and females.
To brush off societal pressure is an art form…I have learned it the hard way…paid heavy prices…and am on my way on crushing societal pressures at all costs…hmmmmmmm
PS: I can sum up the whole universe in 2 letters…F Off…
and let the questionare get his/her point cause don’t you think this is a serious waste of my time?
