I was wondering what people’s opinions are abt sex before marriage. I notice that its a very taboo topic but very much rampant in Pakistan contrary to popular belief, or maybe contrary to the belief of sheltered individuals such as I was once. Recently I got into a relationship and was surprised at the pace and depth of physicality involved and even further surprised with my own liberal though maybe numb attitude towards it. I didnt hear warning bells, didnt have any inner voice saying no this is wrong or right. Even now I dont quite seem to see whats wrong in it. I was content with going with the flow. Maintaining this attitude one day it just happened. It being sex naturally. And it wasnt all that hyped up. No I didnt feel violated or anything. The guy is nice, sweet. Seems utterly betaken but even if he wasnt and even if we dont end up together I dont really seem to care all that much. Ive begun living for today and now. I used to obssess abt the future. About who it should be spent with. A lot of emotional investment. Now though yeah I like him and yeah maybe I love him ( I am not so liberal with the use of the word ‘love’ anymore ) I wont die if we dont end up together.
Anyhow, the question is what do you people seriously think abt sex and how much do you place on it. Dont get me wrong I am not loose with morals or anything. Just that my limits have been broadening this past year and now I dont know whats there.
I definitely know though that most people in Pakistan who’ve been raised like me are in for a major cultural shock right there in their own city soon as they hit university or something. And I find people who speak from their high horses the worst kindof hypocrites cos its hard to believe that if an ostrich such as me is finally enlightened as to the going ons around here, its hard to believe they arent.
Sex before marriage i think its ur own desicion if you want sex or not, In Pakistan its taboo to have sex before marriage but girl i think it's happen a lot ova there 2, but they act soo masoom and stuff. But they are not!! You said that boy is taken so he has a gf or somethin??
nope by taken i mean he's supposedly serious abt 'us'. i liked your response nilu. i mean..come out with it if its there its there. maniac im not saying that religion shouldnt factor in, just wondering how predominant this is.
When something is forbidden in our religion before marriage than no matter what you say to satisfy yourself, you will always be wrong in the eyes of Allah!
Above was a general statement and bears no personal harm against the owner of the thread.
Personally I think its wrong to have sex prior to marriage. And I think that if the girl can save herself til the day of marriage, then the guy should also make an effort. In general that is.
No doubt people are doing it and pretending its not a big issue. However, I think its much better to be able to present yourself as a pure person to the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
Yep i agree with you and like Humus said that he is serious with her so
i dont see the Big Point of it! And waise bhi aap log saath hi Religon ko saath laate ho. Yeah i know as a Muslim you can’t have sex with a man before marriage but c’mon how many pple have sex before marriage?? Especially the muslims who live’s abroad have sex before marriage have gf and stuff.
sex before marriage is just like enjoying a movie in the cinema without tickets and when u see the whole movie and come u,u bought the tickets...
i think sex must not be done before marriage...as marriage night has its own class;) and totally eastern and islamic sharam aur hiya
well i think still is the big issues , once again depend what is UR core values.
is fun to have a sex but honestly is not all about sex, even in sex only 20 % sex is involved 80 % love & passion is involved.
some people take it as relief medicine or fun time but on the other hand some people won’t do it coz they want some who really love then and make them feel secure by getting mirrage, i don’t want to start another topic.
personally i think coz we gys who grew up in back home country , we haven’t seen these thing so openly like in the west thats’ why it attracts us. like any new thing attracts u. thats whyome people when they get into relastion then they can’ control thier feelings and go for it .
but i think is just completely wrong before the mirrage, there is a lot of wisdom to have sex after the mirrage which i can’t explain right now.
Hmmm, sex before marriage is forbidden in Islam. And I am grateful to that. You know humans are not like a coke-can which you open, drink and throw away. Most of us do this: ** Throw it away**, because the guy just wanted to have some action, while the gal was thinking
"Yes, he is my future-hubby and sex after or before marriage, that doesn´t matter"
When the guy will say "Ok gal, goodbye, was nice with you"...Would the world not break down for her?
Another point is that our skin notices by whom they have been touched, kissed and loved. And the more new partners we have, the more we compare him/her with our old partner. We want him to be like our old partner.
I can tell you from experience that my ex-girlfriend loved to have a special creme on her body which´s smell I really love...I even kissed this smell (I really deserve the hell, even if I didn´t have sex) and the smell is - 6 months after our seperation - still in my head.
What when I would have had sex with my girlfriend? When I would have had the "sex of my life"? I am sure that it would´ve been very hard to live seperated. I think I would have suicided...
Interesting. We have had males here before admit they are having sex before marriage, and I didn’t see very many ethical/moral/religious lectures for them.
Whether you are a guy or a girl, it doesn’t make any difference to me. Its just better to wait. But in this time and age, waiting can be quite difficult too. Still, self-control is a positive thing. Just like we are composed when we are in school and at the office, and we are in control of ourselves during ramadan, and when we are in control of ourselves at family functions…
Why can’t we be in control of ourselves just for ourselves? Its a philosophical question. :halo:
i don’t care if someone is having sex or not but i suspect that humus is lying. s/he is not what s/he claims to be. in any case everyone is responsible for their own actions.
i don’t ride horses. i don’t care you’re having sex or not. there’s no cultural shock.
another topic…
