Conclusion My Islam is better than yours
Would I Have Sex before Marriage?
Well ordinarily NO...but I'm human too so I don't know if I'd be able to restrain myslef if the one I loved started ... you know...hope God gives me the strength to overcome such temptation.
Pro's and Con's
Pro's... I guess would be seeing my partner fulfilled, happy and at peace.
Con's...I know I wouldn't be happy and that might just make me lose trust in myself and in him.
Would I understand if my partner had had sex in the past?
Sure...thats not an issue with me...the past is The Past...whether he slept with 2 or 20 won't make a difference to me...it's how he "behaves" now is what matters...whether I trust him..and whether he'd be faithful to me.
There's no telling if a man decides to have an affair AFTER marriage...what good would that clean slate before marriage have been then?
I was born with a defective eye ;-)
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what good would that clean slate before marriage have been then?
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old (and bad) habits die hard
The bottom line is that it is best to wait.
When you find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with, it will make the whole experience a lot better, and more important. My personal belief is that the second reason there is sex to begin with, is to bring a husband a wife closer to each other.
When people have sex outside of marriage, it just cheapens the whole thing.
Brenda
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst!!!
[This message has been edited by Mem Sahib (edited April 17, 2002).]**
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and i think this is the main reason that the western marriages are so fragile. cheating is just becoming a normal thing.**
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That plus the fact that a lot of people are more selfish now, people are more concerned with their jobs than their family and kids, people let too many people outside of the family influence them.
Brenda
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst!!!
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Originally posted by PakistaniAbroad:
** old (and bad) habits die hard
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Well true...but still that does NOT mean that a guy who has been a virgin all his life isn't gonna betray his wife...
I agree Old and bad habbits die hard...but then I again I wouldn't be marrying someone if I didn't FULLY trust him.
Plus I'd like to think that once a guy has had his "fun" (well thats what i've heard some say) that they come to look at sex as "empty" if it is NOT accompanied by "commitment and love".
I was born with a defective eye ;-)
No to myself.
No to anyone considering it.
Forgivable to anyone who has done it provided they ask for forgiveness.
Keep it simple.
I am a human and at times we let our minds go to far but I should and always think like a MUSLIM first! Its all there in black and white so why should we do anything that is a sin.
"By Allah I long to escape the prison of my ego and lose myself in the mountains and deserts , these sad and lonely people tire me" ---Rumi
Bluetalli!! *Ding Dong *
I bet there are alot of things that MUSLIMS do that they shouldnt but they still go ahead and do them...?
Tomorrow when you find someone you love and your good muslim intentions dwindle a bit then think about what Mem Said!!
yes bluebell...think about what she said..and never do the same thing urself.
hmmmmmmm absolutley wrong and sick!....(sex before marraige)...
I would never have sex b4 marriage
my friend told me abt what happened to this guy she knew, long story but erally sad
this guy, lets call him nadeem, he met Saira at uni in london, she used to wear hijab and abayaa, seemed really islamic, but then they spent 4 yrs together had sex, the lot.
he wanted to marry her so he went to her parents and they said he was from a lower cast from them so it was outta question, the girl, who was a MEGA SLUT went of with some other guy, and told nadeem to get lost
nadeems gone mental now, he uses girls and well has no respect for girls esp. ones who practice islam, (supposedly anyway) hes gone completely off his rocker, used to love the girl alot and carred her pic around with him everywhere now he gambles/drinks/drugs uses and abuses
first of all they shouldnt have had sex even if they were in love, the girl was a b***** she used nadeem and treated him like a servant, believe or not he used to wash her dishes at uni anything 4 her
its quite sad, i think they shoulda waited to get married and parents, equally stupid they knew they were sleeping together shoulda let them get married
WOW long mail but its been on my mind lately
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Gizzy is a lucky man before marriage.
Serial Guppy - Dont be an A$$hole!
mm Xara.. The moral of the story is what???
- Dont trust girls in Hijabs?
coz its got nothing to do with sex before marriage..
Ok Amigo - Cut the holier than thou crap! I get your point!!
Xara thats a different story anyway this guy you know is known as MAJNUN now
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haha
“By Allah I long to escape the prison of my ego and lose myself in the mountains and deserts , these sad and lonely people tire me” —Rumi
hmm mem sahib, i just wanted to relate that story, u can think of your own morals abt it but if you ask me its probably not having sex b4 marriage, as for girls in hijab, its no use hiding the fact there are many women who do this kinda stuff and no deffinitly not the majority
Xara… It doesnt relate to sex before marriage at all?
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this girl sounds like a SLUT and Nadeem sounds like a psycho..
You say:
first of all they shouldnt have had sex even if they were in love,
Surely isnt the first thing - Nadeem should have opened his eyes and taken a better look at what type of girls he’s falling in love with? Didnt he realised she used him as a complete MUG!
**i think they shoulda waited to get married **
Yes then she should have left him for some other guy …why only after sleeping with him?