Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
Ladies, just marry a guy from a large family, has lots of self sufficient brothers and no sisters, that way the financial needs of the parents can be split between more sons and the individual share will be less.
Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!
^ But that means more SILs, BILs…so you avoid the MIL but then have to handle the other ILs…seems like there is not escaping the in-laws 
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
I have a female relative who went into depression because she had four daughters and the husband would keep lending money to his sisters whenever they asked (sometimes for a new business, marriage of a child etc etc.) Upon that her nands would show off in front of her by boasting about how all their sons were making so much money and blah blah but in front of her husband they would become all maskeen and poor. And if sometimes he would listen to his wife and make an excuse, the MIL would intervene and he could never say no to her. The poor lady was like can't they see I have four daughters to marry off (which we know in our culture needs a lot of money) and more importantly why doesn't her husband realize that his first responsibility was towards his own children, not his sisters or their children?
Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!
I thought this thread was about financial support, not how to avoid inlaws, therefore my suggestion is valid.
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
I thought this thread was about financial support, not how to avoid inlaws, therefore my suggestion is valid.
you are right.......but i just mentioned the issues concerning the bigger picture..
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
if he doesnt stop me from beign there for my parents then why should i stop him ? ..
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
if he doesnt stop me from beign there for my parents then why should i stop him ? ..
Umm because you are just generally retarded?
*being
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
funny rant..
usually the guy just means he isn't going to go out of his way to pamper the prissy princess wife at the cost of neglecting his parents' welfare. no need for the drama and theatricals.. calm down, no one is selling the wife's kidney to buy his dad a porshe..
Ace!
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
I dont understand your post Reha, our parents should be number one priority and without them we are nothing!! so y shouldnt we support them in their old age?? maybe the examples you have seen are very rare!! being unfair to your spouse and supporting your parents are two different things!
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
well if the girl is worried about this then she should just marry a rich guy .. so the bechare parents can suportt hemselves later on ..
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
If Wives are so insecure, i suggest they should not marry to a guy who have a mom!!! this is case they won't be having any MIL issue...
I am totally against of making Mom or Dad a ping-pong thing, Mom and Dad raised us in the house we live in.. they can't be thrown out in the street or tossed around across the country in order to share a BURDEN... yup that is what it is called, a burden by DIL...
If one of them fell ill, then being a man, it is responsibility of the MAN to take care of his parents and if wife the life partner has any problem then she is not the life partner but the gold-digger or a selfish lady and self-centered lady...
It is convenient for the ladies to ask for separate house but they totally forget that the Islam makes the in-laws her parent too, just because it does not suit them...
Supporting parent is not a option but an obligation just like they supported us and sided us when we were born and young and couldn't feed our selves nor can clean out own $hit, if anyone says that i am going out of the roof by trying to provide them with better life then that ANYONE is definitely not the one who understands me or with whom the good years of life can be spent...
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
i dont know of any desi sons who take care of their parents as in do their 'khidmat' .. ths usally done by daughters ..
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lol .. even white guys will do their parents 'khidmat; more than desi guyz .. n financially they just suck everythin out their parents .. theyr all spoiled .. so i dunno where the 'we're gona take care of them' comes in .. just sayin .. im not against them stayin wid theyr parnets .. but im just pointin somehtng out
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^^ Then you may not know the desis yet.. half of the this section is filled by the wives/DILs rantings..
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
um .. no married lady here ever said that her husband was massagin his parents feet and iv never seen any pkstni man do that etiher .. ! ..
Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!
no actually a desi son does not do any khidmat but he throwz all the responsibility of his parents on his wife’s shoulders huh 
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yeah .. exactly .. he never did his parents khidmat all his life .. he never gave them a dime from his kamai b4 marriage n even after marriage he doesnt alk two words with them but gona come on this dourm n complain about his wife ..
Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!
Think of your self, can you be cold shouldered enough to do such a thing? Again, its the mothers who have to be considerate and understanding as how to keep the ghar ka mahol peaceful and clean. If your or my mother is bent on creating problems with her DIL and always looking for so and so reasons to interfere in the personal and pvt affairs of her son and DIL, im sorry but she is NOT SINCERE with each of them. And sowing this, what else will we reap? What I believe is, the DILS can be immature, nonsense and stupid, it depends on the the buzurgs of the family to act like the buzurgs, and not the competitors. If they are graceful and respect worthy, they know how to earn it :k: unless a DIL is an evil of a person, an ordinary imperfect girl can bear a kind and understanding MIL for sure.
Dont be so apprehensive about the future of your mom ashy, my mom’s situation is same as yours, my bro is married and masha Allah things are much better in the house BECAUSE of mutual understanding and cooperation of the both. If one/any of them was evil and stubborn, things would have been veyr otherwise. Bhabi knows how to respect the elders and Mom knows how to retain it. Alhamdolillah.
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oh please…you lot think doing khidmat of your parents means bringing a wife who will do it all for you. you cant stand your own parents, dump them on your wife and then expect us to applaud that? 
Re: Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!
and you know what amuses me the most, is the near future, when the monster wives of these poor victims will turn into MILS and then, they will become angelic and be defended by their own sons :@: tsk tsk.