i want some advice from you guys… before discussing my issue i want to tell you the background.
I got married two years back
I have one year old baby girl
My husband is a software engineer
i m working women
lives in joint family system
i m hopeless romantic person
want to enjoy every second of my life with my husband
prb is that i want my husband to give me full time when he is in bedroom… i want to fully enjoy that time which i spend with him… but some times i really feel that i m making him irriate by saying my favt sentence… koi baat karein na, koi baat batein na…
i think he really needs some space but i m always like unkar saar per sawar rehti hoon… i don’t mind if he does late sittings in the office or sits with his family have gap shap… but it really bothers me when he starts using laptop , surf net , watch movies on weekends or at nites… but i want these things to be happen in his routine.. i want to give him some space… but i m not giving him space for himself due to my nature…
Or use that laptop to get yourself busy when he is doing the same that will also work as an eye opener for him when you will not be paying attention to him.
P.S . Do not ignore him when he is the initiator otherwise results might surprise you.
I think instead of saying "koi baat karain, kuch tu batain"...you should start talking... initiate a conversation and invite him. Schedule movie nights when the two of you can enjoy a movie together.
^but the need to talk and share remains the same…infact itz more when u are apart?..i have seen girls sharing each and everything with their fiances,texting them/calling them all the time..
^those girls are not sensible......the more you talk....the more is possibility of having fights/disagreements.....which will later on not let you start the 'married life' in a fresh/clean way..
both people will have some emotional baggage with them when they get together....and sometimes things get worse..its better to be careful..and not risk the marriage due to the pre-marital 'understanding' as some people call it..
that work well when you r in the same city/country , i gues ur fiancee is waiting for the marriage first then he wil share each n everything … u knw agar us nai abi sab kush bata diya thn u might change ur mind things lik that , i guess that was wise decision from his end …
I think instead of saying "koi baat karain, kuch tu batain"...you should start talking... initiate a conversation and invite him. Schedule movie nights when the two of you can enjoy a movie together.
Ab sari baatein bhi vo hi karein? Aap bhi kuch kaho.
Be the change you want to see in him. You want him to pay attention to you...then pay attention to him.
That doesn't always owrk! sometimes the guy is just not in a mood to talk and no matter WHAT you say, he will just give short, one word answers
