hey all!
I want to share something with all you,and eventually hope to get some suggestions :).
I have a really close friend.He is a very sweet guy.Actually we both are more than friends,and we both have confessed it to each other.
The thing is that he is a very sensitive type.If he does anything which i wouldn’t like,i cannot even be angry with me.Because if i become angry,then what i get to see is that,he tends to become very sensitive,and he himself stops talking with me,though it would be me who is angry.And so finally i would only have to forget about my angerness,and go and talk with him.And many a times the situation gets so worse that,I have to try so hard to patch-up,or make him not to be angry.
I mean why does he behave so?He expects me to accept him however he is and i should never be angry with him,even if whatever he may do.Don’t i have the right to be angry with him if he does anything that i may not like.
You people only tell me that what should i do?
hey all! I want to share something with all you,and eventually hope to get some suggestions :). I have a really close friend.He is a very sweet guy.Actually we both are more than friends,and we both have confessed it to each other. The thing is that he is a very sensitive type.If he does anything which i wouldn't like,i cannot even be angry with me.Because if i become angry,then what i get to see is that,he tends to become very sensitive,and he himself stops talking with me,though it would be me who is angry.And so finally i would only have to forget about my angerness,and go and talk with him.And many a times the situation gets so worse that,I have to try so hard to patch-up,or make him not to be angry. I mean why does he behave so?He expects me to accept him however he is and i should never be angry with him,even if whatever he may do.Don't i have the right to be angry with him if he does anything that i may not like. You people only tell me that what should i do?
i m so sorry honey but he dusnt sound like the 'sensitive' type. sensitive types are ones which take things on heart and do something abt it so that its not repeated but hes gettin angry and not talkin as if its your fault. if hes really serious abt u, he gotta learn to forgive and forget and leave ego behind.
Re: Sensitive guy
If he's bad at dealing with anger.... be less angry.
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Thats what i try to do but i don't like his this attitude,but what should i do?Iam scared to talk with him regarding all this as iam scared he would get angry,etc..
Re: Sensitive guy
What exactly do you do/say that causes him to be 'angry'? You shoul dbe able to have a 2 way conversation where you each express your views/thoughts & the other one listens..without anger. Later he can tell you what he did/didn't like or agree with in a civilized manner, by talking...not by being angry and quiet....
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He isnt sensitive. A sensitive guy takes everything very seriously, even the things you are angry about and addresses them.
A relationship is a 2-way street and here your concerns are not being addressed nor given any priority...meaning their not important. Also, in a relationship you should be able to lay out whatever you feel without the fear of being judged.
You need to have a talk with this dude and lay it out.
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This dude doesn't understand girl/women.
Its going to take a while and few women before he gets mature.
So sit tight. No dude is end of the world. Don't need to put too much effort in to resolve "his" issues.
Keep it on the light side.
Good Luck.
This dude doesn't understand girl/women. Its going to take a while and few women before he gets mature. So sit tight. No dude is end of the world. Don't need to put too much effort in to resolve "his" issues. Keep it on the light side. Good Luck.
Is this the real "JimmyKimble" talking!? I am pleasantly surprised!
Is this the real "JimmyKimble" talking!? I am pleasantly surprised!
I know...I think Jimmy bhai had his Wheaties this morning...lol
Re: Sensitive guy
honey sorry to say but....he isn't sensitive at all...sensitive person never try to hurt other ppl specially his close ones...u both need to understand wot keeps u together widout hurting each other ...
I know...I think Jimmy bhai had his Wheaties this morning...lol
LOL.
I must admit, it's mighty hilarious to read you guys (you, him, Gina~ etc.) argue on gender issues.
honey sorry to say but....he isn't sensitive at all...sensitive person never try to hurt other ppl specially his close ones...u both need to understand wot keeps u together widout hurting each other ...
well that is deep. hmmmmmm
I know...I think Jimmy bhai had his Wheaties this morning...lol
break fast of champions!
not that it matters, but just letting you know I always win:snooty:
Re: Sensitive guy
ohhhh I see whats going . you 2 making fun of me. not GOOD PS and SU.
PS no more chiller for you.
Re: Sensitive guy
Excuse me, your credit card has already been billed enough chiller to provide me with some bare essentials like a my hair, jewelry, etc.
hey all! I want to share something with all you,and eventually hope to get some suggestions :). I have a really close friend.He is a very sweet guy.Actually we both are more than friends,and we both have confessed it to each other. The thing is that he is a very sensitive type.If he does anything which i wouldn't like,i cannot even be angry with me.Because if i become angry,then what i get to see is that,he tends to become very sensitive,and he himself stops talking with me,though it would be me who is angry.And so finally i would only have to forget about my angerness,and go and talk with him.And many a times the situation gets so worse that,I have to try so hard to patch-up,or make him not to be angry. I mean why does he behave so?He expects me to accept him however he is and i should never be angry with him,even if whatever he may do.Don't i have the right to be angry with him if he does anything that i may not like. You people only tell me that what should i do?
If he does something you don't like - which happens in relationships - you have all the right to be able to express it/address it. I think this guy knows you really well and understands that you're more compromising and less egoistic than him - and you've proven him right many times.
In a strong relationship, one doesn't feel that they can't give their partner honest feedback in fears that he'll stop talking to them.
Next time, if something bother you - say so and stick to your word. If he does something or says something - you don't like it, you don't like it. If he becomes angry and stops talking to you - too bad. Let him be his immature self. I don't understand why YOU have to "try so hard to patch up". Honestly, if you say what you mean and stick to it, he will take you more seriously. If you tell him you're upset about something and then go to HIM to make up, you're telling him you're not very big about the issue.
This is why your nose is so big. 
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^ hee hee
Is this the real "JimmyKimble" talking!? I am pleasantly surprised!
This is improved version of JK, after I spent my chiller to get myself a new shrink.