Self Absorbed

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hi everyone. I need to vent

So ive been drowning in my books plus stress with major exams coming up.

But something happened with a ‘friend’ lets call her Tina of mine, my so called closest friend and ive got an underlying major anger bubbling away which is clouding my mind and preventing me from studying which just makes my anxiety worse and it goes round and round in a viscious cycle.

I am not in my main university city, I am on a placement in a different town for my final semester, however once a week we have to return to our university main campus for lectures.

My friend has a flat there which her dad pays for ( i chose not to take accomm there this year and instead pay rent for a place in the town im placed in atm) and my friend was like come and stay with me the night before these lectures once a week and so that was all sorted.

However last week she text me the night before i was supposed to travel down and was like yeahhh im too anxious sorry you will have to find somewhere else to stay sorry…

and then sent me 4-5 other texts about how bad she felt and if i was ok and she doesnt want me to be stessed and if i have a problem i should let her know ( if she really cared that much then she would not have cancelled at the last minute) anyway i arranged to stay with another friend who i am not as close to but who was totally fine with it and this friend also has final exams and she was fine … i told some of my other friends (again not as close) and they all offered me a place to stay even people with single bedrooms…

Ok so i went for the lecture and then after the lecture Tina starts talking to me and is like i think im going to head to the library tonight because I think I need some social interaction and this made me SO ANGRY.

I walked away and walked to my friends house who i was staying with that night. Tina then text me saying ‘hey hope you are ok, you were wondering around by yourself but xyz said you were with her so ive calmed down now’

What am I, some stray dog that I am ‘wondering around’ grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrr

ok then i discovered that Tina was at a revision session that evening with some guy who she likes at the library and our uni is small word gets around, i found out they went out for dinner. If she is SO anxious why go out on dates.

GAH

I dont care if I have to sleep in a box like a homeless person or pay for a hotel I am not going to speak to her again.

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whats the point??? :hmmm:

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im venting man.

Also how can so called best friends be so mean in a time of need.

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oh sorry......u just venting.............i thought there was ..like..a problem.....

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I guess the problem is I am extemely angry and I cant study as a result and that im shocked that a friend can be this way.

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You should have taken out on her by calling her names...not talking to her is not gonna make you feel better...just go up to her and swear at her.

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:smack:

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Imagining this in my head makes me feel better but I dont want to give her that attention.

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“I’m anxious so I can’t let you stay over.” wth?

did she just wanna bring the guy back to bed with her? :vivo:

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Probably. The amount of times i have been there for her and she cant let me sleep in her appartment one night a week and i leave first thing in the morn.

If she said no from the outset fine but she changed her mind last minute and left me stuck basically and her stupid 'i feel bad texts' really annoy me.

I am very dissappointed

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^ Haha, seems like it.
It's true what they say though, a friend in need is a friend indeed. I learned who truly cared about my well-being through different events like that as well. It helps weed out the 'fake' friends, I guess. And hey, at least you know early on rather then waaay down the line when you might have been in dire need or something.

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i think she is just lesbian…doesn’t want anyone to know :bummer:

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Don't allow yourself to take anymore edit from that edit...reply to her last text about wondering around...tell her she's pathetic.

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I feel like killing her and I want her to fail her exams.

Im so mean :(

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I didnt reply to it im too......weak?

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Invite her for coffee and don't show up.

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No you're too nice to say anything so you just decide not to face or talk to such people again....but it doesn't work like that, sometimes you have to let others know that you don't take edit from them.

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Yeah she thinks I am nothing without her even though genuinely she has no friends bar me ( and a string of guys)

I need to make sure she knows shes wrong.

I just think im in shock.

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If she's clever she'll get the hint by you not talking to her and she'll feel guilty but if you think she's dumb then she needs a harsh response from you.

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Ive continued to be nice to her like an idiot.

She has sent me a string of guilt strewn texts and because ive been ok with her i think she thinks im a bit stupid.

The reason i have been ok with her is that I really dont have the time for arguments.

But no contact at all might be a better idea.