Self Absorbed

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I wouldn't have a friendship with her, just an acquaintance.

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That.

That’s exactly what I thought.

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Your ex-friend is wrong, and you have every reason to be upset. I would follow the "Dont let your enemy see you sweat" policy. The best "revenge" you can have is to kick edit in you exams and ace all of them - channel your anger into a determination to just excel in your exams - and the revenge will take care of itself.

Now go hit the books!@#$

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If that is the case which is likely, a girl who has been my friend for 6 years chosing a guy over a friend is disgusting.

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well you're gonna act like a wimp just to be "nice" and let her continue being an edit...then don't complain again about her behavior cz you're encouraging it. either tell her off or stop whining.

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DAMN RIGHT.

uhgifgew

I am going for a run.

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I get confused with the, stratergy southie mentioned and telling her off and just do nothing:/

I dont want her to see that she affects me.

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I feel like if she thinks im upset due to her she will get happy somehow.

Esp after that ' you were wondering around' comment

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I don't think you ought to be upset about her telling you the evening before that she can't host you,
Similarly if she can't hang out with you after class because she wanted to hang with some guy she likes.

You can be upset that she is not being upfront about it.

Regardless the level of your anger seems a bit overboard.

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Please note my sugestion was not to carry on with her as before. She is your ex-friend. You ignore her, do not respond to her texts, and go about your life.

Right now, you are angry and so vulnerable. If you are not a nasty person by nature, when you confront her, you may expose your weakness - such as maybe breaking down.

Recognize that you have a lot of friends, and that you are her only friend. So you are on the driver's seat. ou have all the chips. She needs you more than you need her. And withdrawing from her what she needs (your friendship) is the best revenge.

Dont respond to her texts, be cool and aloof when you run across her, and dont stay at her place anymore. She will get the hint, without you having to lose your cool and your dignity.

Now go for that run, and hit the books.

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why can't you confront her about it? i would and say that it really hurt you that she just decided to cancel plans of you staying with her at the last minute, then maybe she might give you the real reason for doing it.

You two are best friends, she might have some major problems that she might be dealing with, ask her if she is. it's really hard to find good female friends, if she's your good friend i would hold on to her and not stay angry with her, friendships are like any other relationship. communication is very important.

venting is good but you also need to talk to her straight up but have control over your emotions, the last thing you want to do is unnecessarily hurt her. we dont' know the background of your relationship with her here, how long have you two been friends, how really close you are.........

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EDIT

She was all happy laughing and joking when I saw her and then went out on a date.

I have lots of other female friends i dont need her.

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also she HURT ME.

Why should i worry about hurting her or not hurting her??

She said she was too anxious to have me stay with her and then was like ohhhh i need social interaction im going to the library and went out on a bloody date.

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anyways I have come back from a run and I have decided the best revenge is success.

So time to concentrate on passing my exams with flying colours and then moving on.

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Crash her date and ask her, in front of the guy, if she got those genital warts taken care of.

Also, send her a calm text telling her she let you down, that she acted selfishly, and that you don't want to speak to her. Keep it short and concise.

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High Five

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Girls as a friend are sometime (aka always) weird :D

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Oh noes. Just reading this has made me feel so anxious and angry. Grrrrrrrrrr indeed!

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Flakey, eh?

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I had a friend like that when i lived out for uni crap thing is we lived in the same flat but she was always holed up with her bf.. Anyway wen he dumped her fake arse she had no friends left she would always cancel plans with me and my best mate who was also our flat mate. And come up with crappy excuses. Just dnt rely on her. Focus on ur exams and just let her recover from her 'feeling anxious' wat a weird excuse though lol x