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…lollll… thats why he said he is not gonna remary ever after you (god forbid) because u are here … 
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We’ve had discussions on this at great length. Allah knows best! If that were to happen, so be it, whatever is best. When I’m dead it really doesn’t matter what happens anyway. I’ll be worried about other things then!
:biggthumb
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As for you, TLK, did anyone mention to you what a gentleman you are? May Allah bless you as you are a wonderful husband and father. May you be blessed with a healthy long life. I pray that all women are blessed with the security your wife has.
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To mera haji bagoem , mun tera haji bago.
Translation :You call me Haji , I will call you haji.
In Simple English. Husband and wife putting their best foot forward and praising each other . How cute. TLK and NikSik we all know you love each other. Allah Tala aap dono key khushian hamaisha qaim rakhay. Ameen
I would be interested to know do you two argue about something, sometimes ?
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:k: a step mother could never raise the kids as nicly as a real mother
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To mera haji bagoem , mun tera haji bago. Translation :You call me Haji , I will call you haji.
In Simple English. Husband and wife putting their best foot forward and praising each other . How cute. TLK and NikSik we all know you love each other. Allah Tala aap dono key khushian hamaisha qaim rakhay. Ameen I would be interested to know do you two argue about something, sometimes ?
Thanks Mirch. Ameen to that.
Yes we do argue...a lot...a lot. But we make up and try not to keep hard feelings for each other.
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WHy would he not be invited .. and why women were mad and men were ashamed ..
Its not that Maulvi shaab invented the islam
so is it right to assume that men were ashamed of Islam and women were mad at islam ..
Maulvi sahab just discussed a sunnat , a privilage given to men, something which is considered taboo to discuss for God knows what reasons ...
did he commit any sin in discussing that ?
khete hain ke bunde ko mooqa mahal dekh ker moonh kholna chaheyye...
...he didnt commit any sin but definitely brought up this topic where it wasn't appropriate at all.... he was there to tie the knot between two... not to tell him (the groom) 'hey u do have the option for another three ones' and so on.......
molvi sahab could have talk about the 'rights of husband and wife on each other' or 'how to ignore eachother shortcomings' or 'to keep happy eachother' etc. etc. instead of 4 wives...
ofcourse this molvi shouldn't be invited for another marriage khutba
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not true…some real mothers have no business being moms.
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We just pray that Allah keeps us healthy physically and mentally so we can raise our children ourselves in the best possible manner. Ameen.
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not true....some real mothers have no business being moms.
but even then these women can never be cruel towards their children , even when they are careless
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a man is responsible for his wife...and that also includes the responsibility to keep her happy. It is certainly required to have your wife's consent before you marry again.. for logical reasons (unfaithful character,lack of children, taking a widow as a wife)
after all..we all have to answer Allah on judgment day...and Allah nowhere suggests that it is ok to hurt your wife for the sake of your sexual desires.
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I don't think your wife will EVER marry anyone else. She is quite capable of managing herself. How do you think she could even imagine having another man in her life. NEVERRRRRRRRRR! No one could ever replace you, in anyway. Topic closed.
As for you, TLK, did anyone mention to you what a gentleman you are? May Allah bless you as you are a wonderful husband and father. May you be blessed with a healthy long life. I pray that all women are blessed with the security your wife has.
That's all he wanted to read.:)
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^^ I think its more about him not discussing it at an appropriate time. Why didn't the maulvi saab talk about what a good husband Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was? Why didnt he do the age old -- mian biwi eik doorai ka libaas hai speech? Why this particular topic?
And may i point out that Islam is a living religion meant to be applied to current days. In doing so --- back when the 4 wives rule was created there were a large amount of widows due to the wars in the name of Islam; basically for every one man - there were four women. And hence the four wives.. in current day there are no holy wars and the number of widows isn't above "norm" and even if it is there are only two women for each man.
true!! very true....Allah adds the point "if you can keep them equally happy" a very wise man once said...Islam is a religion for the intellectual...read the implications closely and you will find a deeper meaning behind the command...can you keep them equally happy?
hence the 'equally' part is the clarification to the rule....dont remarry by making your wife unhappy...and if you divorce her just so you can remarry....she will still be unhappy.....and then you can look down just as those men were at the khutba...but for different reasons.....i dont know what price these men end up paying for being na shukra....running after women is another form of greed...wealth,women,power etc....you cant just say well..we are allowed to be greedy in terms of women...just because we have greater desires...(which is not true)...
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true!! very true....Allah adds the point "if you can keep them equally happy" a very wise man once said...Islam is a religion for the intellectual...read the implications closely and you will find a deeper meaning behind the command...can you keep them equally happy?
SO if one'e wife is not happy cause the guy reads prayers 5 times ..would that be judged ...
Keeping happy and treating equally has a lot of difference .. Islam ask for equal and fair treatment ... not keeping them happy
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SO if one'e wife is not happy cause the guy reads prayers 5 times ..would that be judged ...
Keeping happy and treating equally has a lot of difference .. Islam ask for equal and fair treatment ... not keeping them happy
--yes....sabr on your part...judgment on her part
--not true..but you can keep on believing that...treating equally includes your responsibility as the husband to keep her happy...just as it is her responsibility to keep you happy...
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Yeh its about keeping them happy!
TLK yaar--- app tho baas doosri biwi kai chakkar mey silly silly point nikaal rahai ho
aab..
devil's advocate baan rahai ho..
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TLK...
...and u r comparing between the 'farz' and an 'option' ... that has a lots of difference too....
so your islam says keep getting married for watever reasons because their (ur wife/wives) emotions, desires, happiness means nothing to you because u r here to fulfill the so called 'sunnat'?
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TLK yaar--- app tho baas doosri biwi kai chakkar mey silly silly point nikaal rahai ho aab..
:D
YahAn eik nahee sambhal rahee .. aap doosree kee baat ker rahi haiN
I am dead now .. if begum reads this
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Dekho, this is the summary:
One. Islam allows a man to have 4 wives.
If a man has 4 wives he is not committing a sin.
Two. If a woman is unhappy with her husband, she and him need to figure out the reasons and similarly if a husband is unhappy with his wife, they need to figure out the reasons and work on them.
Three. When a man goes for a second marriage, no matter what the reason, a wife will not be happy. However, Islamically it is allowed.
Four. Each of our actions will be judged. So if anybody has wronged anybody, that too shall be accounted for and judged.
So let us all live in peace and make the best of what we have.
Ameen.
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Niksik ab ghar ja kay larna sheroo na kar dena. :)