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Er. To the OP: Have you asked anyone from your family for advice?
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tell that to exxodus guy…u ruined his life 
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8 pages…
stupidity knows no bounds…
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First time I read this thread ... It didn't seem like I was reading the words of a bloke. And for a young Brit Pak father he has a remarkable command of the English language.
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if anything your wife is better off without you then, she has earned her jannah by being such a caring wife and a good mother. she just needs a good companion now... so instead of wasting her life by making her a second wife let her go.and yes islam allows 4 wifes if you can do JUSTICE to them all. JUSTICE in love , care , respect.you are already unjust to your first wife so there no point of bringing a second.may allah bless your wife and your son. you just need some hidayat brother.
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and the fact that were forced or married young makes no differebt - you were old enough to consumate the marriage !
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Yup and any bhoola bhaala Pakistani can slip 
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why is everybody bashing this guy that is simply trying to do the right thing ?
There is a void in your life which your wife could not provide and you've found someone that fills that. Whether or not you marry this woman that void is still there with your first wife . This fact alone is enough to hurt your wife, possibly even break her heart . You've found someone you connect with , you have no reason not to marry this new woman simply because you can. You're already living a life apart from your wife, a 6 month period is a HUGE time to be away from your partner , you have full right to get married to this russian girl and i pray it is easy for both you and the women involved because from your posts it seem you have pure intentions only.
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OP,
It will be a long time coming but you will realise your mistake. Remember that injustices in this world may not be corrected but you will have to answer in the hereafter. This girl has given you so much, I don't think you tried to make it work. You are too used to finding and having things your own way, and all you see is the 'injustice' you were inflicted when 'forced' into marriage. Sadly, you were mature enough to consummate it.
She has always been there for you, how about you? Did you ever try to hold her while she cried, without asking questions? Did you ever try to understand her, why she bottles everything up inside her? Maybe that is her way of showing that she cares ENOUGH for you to not burden you with her worries. Maybe she wants to spend the little 6 months she has WITH YOU, HAPPILY, instead of worrying over the past. Do you think the remaining 6 months you aren't there for her, she doesn't worry or has no sleepless nights? If you cannot love her, like you say, then LEAVE her. So she finds someone else, better and one who can treat her well in the way she deserves and I hope to God she finds that person!
What basis do you want to have a 2nd marriage (I'm assuming for halal physical interactions)- does your present wife not give you anything which a marriage asks for? She gave up her studies, her entire life she has devoted for you not giving ONE reason to complain. And what do you leave her for? Because she doesn't open up? Why should she do everything for you- what have YOU done for HER, aside from falling for another woman?
How would you feel if she wanted a divorce from you because she had found someone else who treats her right? What will you do if you lose this job and have to be placed in another country. How will you handle two wives + 1 kid then (if you ignore the hurt and the pain you will be causing your first wife).
p.s. To the rest: I do think he is trolling??
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OP: If you marry this Russian women --> do your 1st wife a favour and leave her.
Do not keep your 1st wife as your little 'Keep'. Because, mate, the Quran says you WILL NOT be able to do justice with them - that means every time you didnt divide your time fairly - gunah - everytime you didnt buy both your wives the same xpensive gift - gunah - every little injustice is going to be gunah...
Dude -- I cant believe men like u r real - I thought you were some drama story line - you might as well just rip her heart out of her chest
And prepare to be HATED by your son...
As he will see it - his dad wasnt there for him coz he found some other women who was more important to him
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thank you Mr lahoretolondonwhateveryourtoryis! We needed this in Life1 :@:
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So, have you made up your mind completely on this course of action, or still debating it?
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HEY OP... Are you attracted to your wife? Is your Russian girlfriend better looking than your wife? Is that the reason your in so-called temporary love?
Well I just got of work, so I'll be responding to messages now. No its not physical attraction its emotional, the ability to speak and share what we feel, and just sidenote I haven't had any physical relations with anyone else other then my wife.
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Er. To the OP: Have you asked anyone from your family for advice?
My wife and I both distanced ourselves from our families, she has always held a grudge against her parents for whatever reason and I've always been upset at my parents for the marriage.
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First time I read this thread ... It didn't seem like I was reading the words of a bloke. And for a young Brit Pak father he has a remarkable command of the English language.
I got my Bachelor's Degree in English with honors before completing my MBA :)
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mods, we should be allowed to swear in this thread
i mean WHAT THE FRIDGE .... ARE YOU FRIDGIN SERIOUS
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why is everybody bashing this guy that is simply trying to do the right thing ?
There is a void in your life which your wife could not provide and you've found someone that fills that. Whether or not you marry this woman that void is still there with your first wife . This fact alone is enough to hurt your wife, possibly even break her heart . You've found someone you connect with , you have no reason not to marry this new woman simply because you can. You're already living a life apart from your wife, a 6 month period is a HUGE time to be away from your partner , you have full right to get married to this russian girl and i pray it is easy for both you and the women involved because from your posts it seem you have pure intentions only.
Seems like this forum has its own aunty brigade, but I do appreciate constructive criticism, its just that the blatant bashing seems counter intuitive.
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aside from this mind blogging thread of yours OP, which i will read all of it, let me correct you
'aunty-in-the-making brigade' is the correct phase
Seems like this forum has its own aunty brigade, but I do appreciate constructive criticism, its just that the blatant bashing seems counter intuitive.
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So, have you made up your mind completely on this course of action, or still debating it?
I thought about it, could handle seeing her collapse emotionally? or if she remarried would I be able to handle myself? No I couldn't, I had some odd thoughts last night, I thought about my wife doing something rash to herself, I imagined she would kill herself when I broke the news, I imagined a jumble of scenarios and none ended well. I don't want to hurt her, but now I've made a commitment to this girl here in Moscow and the stress I've put on myself is incomprehensible.
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well how do you know your wifey in londonium isn't just as hornayy and doing your neighbour or something?