He got different office timings and our routes are different. he goes on his bike. What do you think after passing a night at airport all night, he would be able to pick me in morning at 8. Definitely, he would have asked one of his brother to drop the car at my gate in morning and** leave the keys with chokidar,** but I’m not comfortable with leaving keys with chokidar.
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Bhaiya ji bhaiya ji thik hai maan liya but chokidar thingy settle ho sakti thi kisi tarha.. what I am thinking is that His evil behaviour concluded the end and maybe, ONLY MAYBE this forced you to say no.. your frustration is right.. calm down.. and the slang is unconsiderable so definitely he needed a back-kick so he got…
PS: plz need time find some shareef banda like you
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why can’t someone borrow a car?
My khalo was in severe condition 2 weeks ago.They didn’t have a car my cousin asked his friend to borrow his dad’s car and because they knew my cousin very well they lended him their car not only for a day but for two weeks.He was so tired of dropping his mother ans sis to hospital and then back home and couldn’t even sleep for nights again his friend helped him and offered pick and drop duties and guess what did he get in return?? countless blessings from my khala and from my mother.
my close friends are 6 in number but actually we are ONE, but IFF someone among them says no, I will simply ask the problem and then say ok yaar hota hai koi baat nahi ghabrana nahi, okay ?? but that is only applicable if they got a SERIOUS PROBLEM which rarely occurs in decades otherwise we know everything & every moment of one’s side
I understand, but people must learn to say NO too at some times.
The timing was an issue, I am sure you wouldnt have gotten the car by morning next day. Hence you'd have gone to the office again on a taxi or rickshaw. This thing your friend should have thought even before asking you.
This is the actual issue. People who expect to give them favour by going out of your way don't digest a 'No' in polite way. This is where the question of choosing between courtesy and seeing your own facility arise.
If God forbid hospital issue was involved with any of friend, I wouldn’t have though for a second to give my car. As I mentioned above, I gave him my car for a month for his brother’s wedding as well, but the situation was totally different today
You are contradicting yourself now. But nevermind. I said what I had to say.
zahir hai you said abt my conditions and terms of friendship to mujhe apna experience hi btana parega takay maybe kisi ke Dil me ye baat ghar ker jaye or otherwise "NO" kehne me bhi koi harj to nahi... is se apka Dil nahi ghabrayega 1 thing, and the other is apki simple routine life me koi disturbance nahi aayegi...
'NO' needs a base and clarification as well... talking about ur friend, he got what he deserved but on the other hand,
what would you do if someone else says NO to you without any reason even if you know his situation which is good enough to YES ???
what if there is your brother saying NO without a reason ???
Do you agree that if you feel nothing then there might be a weakness in friendship...
Can't get it. I never expect such favors from people which by any way make them uncomfortable. Doesn't matter how much deep relationship I share with the person.
recently, we are planning to resconstruct our home at home-town. Ammi was of the view to ask taaya for giving his house to us (as he shifted to his new house), but I rejected this on the context if he says 'No' for any reason, our relationship would be at stake.
Can’t get it. I never expect such favors from people which by any way make them uncomfortable. Doesn’t matter how much deep relationship I share with the person.
:k: agreed, not to expect favour from people is best as Ashfaq Ahmed said “tawaqaat kaa piyala hamesha thokroun ki zad mein rehta hai”.
Can't get it. I never expect such favors from people which by any way make them uncomfortable. Doesn't matter *how much deep relationship I share with the person. *
ohoo... bad-luck
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recently, we are planning to resconstruct our home at home-town. Ammi was of the view to ask taaya for giving his house to us (as he shifted to his new house), but I rejected this on the context if he says 'No' for any reason, our relationship would be at stake.
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hmmm thik kiya hoga aapne situation ke hisab se, but kabhi kabhi aisa bhi hota hai ke kisi aisi jagha se madad aa jati hai jahan se aap expect bhi naa ker rahe hoon
You have right to say no.... it can fuel anger but whole slang story is quite disgusting....His ghussa was justified...... yeah, friends do show anger but it does not mean to attack and disrespect.....
You can not say say no without reason.....You would need to let him know the reason of colony gate and watchmen problem(post 19)..... Borrowing car is itself a big deal.... Beside colony gate and watchmen.... you might convince him by giving different options of borrowing car from BIL or other relatives.....and emphasize on workplace situation that you are working on an important task or you will have a meeting next morning.....
I think, you are overly sensitive in this issue.... your friend is the one who should regret of losing friendship or respect from you.... From now on, you know who he is and how you will going to treat him in future..... Deer ayad, drust ayad....
Edit: If he cannot understand your situation, he is not your friend....
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