How do you people convey ‘No’ to friends, relatives, when they ask for a favor (say borrow something you don’t want to give for any reasons) without offending them.
Some people take offense of ‘No’ in rudely manner and sometimes people have to go out of the way to give someone a favour.
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Make an excuse as to why I can't do that favor
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Tell the truth. Simple.
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Just ignore for one time .... he/she will not ask for the second time ....
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Just ignore for one time .... he/she will not ask for the second time ....
How to ignore. You have to say 'yes' or 'no', when someone asks for a favor say by calling or sending a text.
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Tell the truth. Simple.
Its not that simple sometimes as it looks. People do built expectations about you
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Make an excuse as to why I can't do that favor
Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
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How to ignore. You have to say 'yes' or 'no', when someone asks for a favor say by calling or sending a text.
Just say will let you know if I can do that or not or make some excuse .... samajdaar ko ishara kaafi hota he ....
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Its not that simple sometimes as it looks. People do built expectations about you
say
I'm sorry. I can't do it. I hope you don't mind.
They won't expect from you the next time :D Better for you.
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
I don't lend my car to anyone unless its an emergency.
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
Why not just give the car? Whats the harm? Friends borrow each others stuff all the time .... this is what friends are for :( .... what if some day you want a favor from him, then?
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
Say we you have a sick family member and you may need your car in case of emergency.
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
What relation do you have with that friend? Is he an old good friend or jumma jumaa aath din wala?
why do you want to make an excuse for not lending him the car? Maybe he need it for an emergency A friend in need is a friend indeed No?
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it all depends what the person wants to borrow and what kinda person the borrower is. if hehe/she is an honest person, i wouldn't mind. money is the most contentious of all the things borrowed.
i've seen people vorrowing money and promptly returning for a few times and then they would borrow a large sum and then use 101 reasons why he/she can not return the money and promises to pay it off ASAP. this causes friendships to break and relationships go sour.
"udhaar moHabbat kii qaiNchiui hai!" :D
i think there is no way to decline the request without causing some sort of dil-aazaarii...the best way is to make some excuses so he/she doesn't feel that bad! if the lender makes excuses a few times then he/she will not bother to ask again.
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
Brakein nahi hain
Or say your family member needs that car or something like that
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Muqawwee Paa Ji yahan 
well I dont says “No”… mostly it’s weird when someone asks/borrows… however If I dont want something to give, then I takes time to convince my mind… or else I’ll be thinking “Haye bechara kis haal me hoga”
and lending ur car is not a big problem, chori nahi karega kuch bhi, Dil wada hona chahida ay 
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Lets say a friend want to borrow your car for a night. What kind of excuse you will give, if the person knows that you don't use car after say 9-10 pm.
just say, "my insurance doesn't cover the third party. sorry!"
Why not just give the car? Whats the harm? Friends borrow each others stuff all the time .... this is what friends are for :( .... what if some day you want a favor from him, then?
what if the car is involved in an accident or worse someone is killed? it's NOT advisable to let anyone other, than the family member, to drive the car...there could be insurance and/or legal issues.
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this is Pakistan, yahan aise gaiRay nahi chalte, log bohot chalaak hein balke aik se barh ke aik gaiRa hai yahan heeheehee
Muqa Paa Ji.. jhoot na bolein.. kahein nahi de sakta (ya to wo dosti choR dega ya ainda nahi mangega, reply na kerne se wo definitely dosti break ho jayegi… 
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or maybe this can help…
“Bhai jaan actually mujhe bhi car chahiyeey mene nikalna hai zaruri kaam se to agar aap kuch dair me aajayein to thik ya phir baad me le jayein 12-1 baje ke qareeb…” this way maybe he could understand the “NO”
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Why not just give the car? Whats the harm? Friends borrow each others stuff all the time .... this is what friends are for :( .... what if some day you want a favor from him, then?
No harm in giving car, but the timing is odd.
Ok let me tell you complete scenario.
A friend said that I need your car to pick my brother from airport, who is coming with family and has luggage. This guy got a car at his home as well. I asked him that if the flight is early in night and you can return car by 12 night, I have no issue. (I restricted him for 12 as there was some complaint going by union in our building that people remain outside for longer time in night and all the night watch-man has to open main gate for cars. Further, I have to go to office in morning and I can't wait till early hours of morning for return of car).
When I text this to the guy, he replied 'Thanks for your conditional approval, but flight is in late hours. I'm going to arrange rent a car'. I replied 'Hope you understand and there are no harsh feelings'. In reply I got a message ' stop messaging me followed by a slang'. I knew the slang but reconfirmed 'slang?'. he said it again and then I've to given him shut-up call. See how inconsiderate people are and how it is difficult to say 'No'.
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Say we you have a sick family member and you may need your car in case of emergency.
This is also a true scenario with me, as my younger sister had vomiting last night, but she is fine today after taking medicines.