ok well the wedding of the sil is in 3 weeks, my dad is going, he wasnt going to go, lack of funds and hes not well, but he still going for the their wedding and now they saying that bring my 1yr old daughter with my dad. p’‘’''sn me off , i know her dads there, but i cant let her go, shes too young and to travel with my dad whose not well. just annoying me. and even if i get my own way, im thinking husband might hate me for it…i dnt understand the need for a 1yr old to be at a wedding…
im sure everyone here knows what am gonig on about.
ok well the wedding of the sil is in 3 weeks, my dad is going, he wasnt going to go, lack of funds and hes not well, but he still going for the their wedding and now they saying that bring my 1yr old daughter with my dad. p'''''sn me off , i know her dads there, but i cant let her go, shes too young and to travel with my dad whose not well. just annoying me. and even if i get my own way, im thinking husband might hate me for it.....i dnt understand the need for a 1yr old to be at a wedding......
im sure everyone here knows what am gonig on about.
calm down...take a deep breath...you're pregnant and don't need to get yourself worked up!
agreed, she's too young to travel so far with just your father who is not well himself. just be polite, but firm. stand your ground and just maintain the facts as they are. sounds to me like a bekaar ka power struggle. if hubby is going to get pissed at something like this, then to me it seems like he's going to get pissed at something regardless..even if you WERE to send her. it would just be something else. so chillax, and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and time left in UK.
Why don't you tell them the truth - that as a pregnant woman about to give birth you need as much peace and calm as possible. Having your daughter thousands of miles away would be too upsetting for you since you would worry about her constantly, and that's not healthy for you or your unborn baby.
Give her the explanation that Sehrysh suggested. Explain to your husband/in-laws that this request is causing you a lot of stress which is not healthy for your pregnancy....and your dad is making the long trip despit feeling unwell and you don't want to burden him either by sending your daugther with him. Plus..he won't be able to take care of her the way YOU could.
Give that explanation ONE more time....aur phir bas. Sometimes if you just choose to IGNORE a person's zid....as opposed to letting it get under your skin each time....it can bring some relief. They don't understand......they will NEVER understand......stop having expectations of courtesy and common sense from them. The next time your MIL and SIL go off on their immature rant to bring your daugther back............you just calmly tell them "Haan, dekha jaaye ga." In one ear and out the other.
Don't put ALL the blame on your unreasonable in-laws and husband for causing you the stress. YOU also bring it on yourself for letting them get to you.
***Also, consider sending a nice gift with your dad for your MIL/SIL....maybe even your husband.....and that could help alleviate the negative feelings they might have about your daughter not going on the trip.
Gosh some people are so foolish ...to a paindu extent.
***Also, consider sending a nice gift with your dad for your MIL/SIL....maybe even your husband.....and that could help alleviate the negative feelings they might have about your daughter not going on the trip.
Gosh some people are so foolish ...to a paindu extent.
i think RV was probably referring to the MIL/SIL/Husband
Yes, that was exactly whom I was referring to. I could just picture the THICK Punjabi accent in their Urdus..."Ab Faatma ko bhi bhejay naa. Bas bhejna hoga. Zaroor aana hoga...akhir us ki phuppo ki shaadi hai. Ab shaadi roz roz to nahin hoti. Oh kuch nahin hoga beti ko....chota sa to safar hai. Us ke nana sambaal lain ge. Woh hamaray saath reh le gi. Kya humain us ka khayal nahin rakhna aata? Yeh bhi koi baat hui. Zaroor bhejna hoga.........Bla bla bla bla bla bla bla."
Just give a thorough explanation to them. If they still don't get it....give a vague placating response.....and ignore/change the subject...send some gifts to soften their bruised egos. Quit letting it get under your skin when you know you can't expect sense from them.
And I may get tamaatar and anday thrown my way.....but am I the only one that finds their request a little *fishy along with being stupid?
A one year old cannot travel with a man who is not well himself...definitely not all the way to Pakistan at least. Its not a one hour flight.
If I were you, I'd politely stand my ground and let them say or do whatever they want. If they bother you..."abbu ki tabiyat aisi nahin hai..." and that's about all. Don't say anything more and don't offer anymore explanations.
husband not saying much, he just thinks its nit big deal but its not his idea, its his parentsd who keep going on about it. i told him dad not well, he said oh thats ok then, but still am not convinced dnt want them brainwashing him into thinking im a being a bxxxxx
u can simply tell them tht ur daughter cant live wthout u she needs u all the time n travelling alone wth ur father it will be difficult 4 him 2 manage her in plane ur huby must understand this n ask him 2 talk 2 ur parents in law
husband not saying much, he just thinks its nit big deal but its not his idea, its his parentsd who keep going on about it. i told him dad not well, he said oh thats ok then, but still am not convinced dnt want them brainwashing him into thinking im a being a bxxxxx
it is personal question and i feel little awkward.
in Islam, kid under 2 years old are supposed to be feed milk by any woman. in case she is away, who will going to take care of her ?