Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?

[LucyMay]

Re: Rude comments from husband’s khala - confront her or no?

@Sahar02

I think it is a Pakistani cultural trait to state facts about someone’s appearance, negative or positive, in matter of fact way. Maybe it is meant to hurt, but in many cases it just seems like they have to just state whatever they have observed. Maybe they even think it’s helpful, like you haven’t noticed these things yourself, otherwise you would’ve fixed the problem by now. It is silly, and I have cried a lot over careless comments, but it’s not worth it.

I think it’s a desi thing - I’ve seen a ton of Indian aunties do it too. I did not think about it too much when I was in India, but now that I’m in the US it strikes me every time I go back. When people see you after a long time, it’s like they HAVE to make a comment on your physical appearance, good or bad. It’s almost a way of greeting.