My mother-in-law told me the other day that she asked her sister (hubby’s khala) how I look to her now that I am pregnant. I guess my mother-in-law was hoping for “oh she looks great” which is what everyone has been telling me.
Instead her sister says “oh she has a double chin now.”
Ok, so just to be clear, I am not a fat person at all. I’m actually thin build but naturally being pregnant I’ve gained about 12lb so far. When I gain weight one of the first places it goes is my face. I may have a bit of a double chin but it is nothing that is SO noticeable that one should comment on it.
Im actually very upset that she said that about me. I want to let her know that I didnt appreciate it. I am thinking of doing it in a joking way like next time she sees me and asks how I am doing I would say “I’m fine, why dont you also ask my double chin how its doing?”
What does everyone think? Should I just let it go? Or can I point it out to her in a joking way. I want her to know that I know what she said about me.
Maybe its the hormones but Im feeling very emotional about this ever since my mother in law told me what my hubby’s khala said.
Re: Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?
My mother-in-law told me the other day that she asked her sister (hubby's khala) how I look to her now that I am pregnant. I guess my mother-in-law was hoping for "oh she looks great" which is what everyone has been telling me.
Instead her sister says "oh she has a double chin now."
Ok, so just to be clear, I am not a fat person at all. I'm actually thin build but naturally being pregnant I've gained about 12lb so far. When I gain weight one of the first places it goes is my face. I may have a bit of a double chin but it is nothing that is SO noticeable that one should comment on it.
Im actually very upset that she said that about me. I want to let her know that I didnt appreciate it. I am thinking of doing it in a joking way like next time she sees me and asks how I am doing I would say "I'm fine, why dont you also ask my double chin how its doing?"
What does everyone think? Should I just let it go? Or can I point it out to her in a joking way. I want her to know that I know what she said about me.
Maybe its the hormones but Im feeling very emotional about this ever since my mother in law told me what my hubby's khala said.
I can't believe your MIL told you that your khala said this
Re: Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?
Let it go. In the big scheme of things, I don't see this as a big deal.
The ONLY reason the khala commented on your look is b/c your MIL asked her about it! I would be super irritated if I found out that my MIL was asking other family members what they thought about my appearance.
I think it was inconsiderate of your MIL so share this info. with you. As a woman who has obviously been pregnant, she should realize that hormones will cause you to be more emotional and of course, EVERY pregnant women becames self-conscious about her looks sooner or later.
I would not make ANY comments to the khala at all regarding this. And you may also want to nicely tell your MIL that even IF someone makes a negative comments towards you, that it's better she keep it to herself....especially when you're pregnant. The stress caused by her sharing information like this is totally unnecessary (especially in a situation where the MIL herself brought up the topic!).
Re: Rude comments from husband’s khala - confront her or no?
let it go…
And as Paheli already said, it wasnt very nice of your MIL to come and tell you what her sister thought… thats more inconsiderate than what the khala said.
Its just your hormones… trust me. Try to get a grip on them. I know, easier said than done… but i have been practising this for a few months now, and it seems to be working :k:
Re: Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?
Let it go. It's not a big deal. People will say stuff like this about others all the time. Get thicker skin. She was asked for her opinion and she gave it.
Re: Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?
ever since i got my braces off.. everybodys telling me how awesome my smile looks..
just yesterday i ran into my desi dentist and she had only one thing to say .. "looks okay..oh I see a gap.."
sounds familiar? welcome to the desi world
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yeah you are being very sensitive! the comment she passed is just a normal thing! infact, when you ask for anything from anyone, you should be ready for any kind of reply then, not necessarily be everyone will reply the same you expect. and seriously… infact its something i would rather think about! chill prego… love for the “up-coming” baby
Re: Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?
ever since i got my braces off.. everybodys telling me how awesome my smile looks..
just yesterday i ran into my desi dentist and she had only one thing to say .. "looks okay..oh I see a gap.."
sounds familiar? welcome to the desi world
Re: Rude comments from husband’s khala - confront her or no?
I have a very hard time believing this. As a woman herself…in fact, as a woman who has experienced pregnancy herself…the MIL didn’t assess how her pregnant DIL would feel knowing that a family member thinks she has a double chin? Heck why is the MIL asking the khala what she thinks of OP’s looks since pregnancy in the 1st place?! Seriously…who does that?
I have no idea what type of relationship OP has with her MIL other than this so it’s hard to say what her intentions were behind sharing this info. with OP. But assuming that OP has an otherwise positive relationship with the MIL(as in the MIL wouldn’t intentionally do/say anything to hurt OP)…this doesn’t exactly make the MIL the brightest star in the sky.
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^ as hard as it is to believe... a lot of people really dont assess a situation before they make comments. They think they are just being conversational, but dont realise that what they are saying is actually offending or being perceived in a not say light way. I see this happening all the time... so i am confused about how you find this hard to believe..
If people only assessed things before they said them, we'd have a lot less miscommunication and a lot more understanding
they are elders… just let them play their parts… kahani me twist bhi to aana chaahiye 
Heck why is the MIL asking the khala what she thinks of OP’s looks since pregnancy in the 1st place?! Seriously…who does that?