Rude comments from husband's khala - confront her or no?

[Sehrysh]

Re: Rude comments from husband’s khala - confront her or no?

@Sahar02

I think it is a Pakistani cultural trait to state facts about someone’s appearance, negative or positive, in matter of fact way. Maybe it is meant to hurt, but in many cases it just seems like they have to just state whatever they have observed. Maybe they even think it’s helpful, like you haven’t noticed these things yourself, otherwise you would’ve fixed the problem by now. It is silly, and I have cried a lot over careless comments, but it’s not worth it.

Oh this is sooooooooooooooooo true!

I have this one bhabhi who without fail mentions my weight gain or weight loss everytime she sees me, even if I haven’t lost or gained a pound in months!!! Does it annoy me? Sure it does. But I also chalk it up to her not having anything of substance to contribute to a conversation so she falls back on critiquing others. I shrug my shoulders and realize the lack is in her and not me. You can’t change people whose world view is focussed on superficial things like physical appearance.