Rituals (rasumat)

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Its some sort of shagun, my SIL did that when i visited the first time.

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From my dad's side there's a rasam of "saath suhaagans" where 7 married women put oil in the brides hair..glitter..kajal..don't remember the rest!

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:bummer:

Oh! i remember that my mother in law to be did that when we first came to their house, just to meet them :smiley:

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I just hate this rasam, I think it is one of the worst rasam of all. Once I was at this wedding. The brides aunt was a widow. On the mehndi bride's mother was shouting for saat suhaganain to come forward and put mehndi on bride's hand while bride's aunt was standing close to them. Such rasams can do lot damage to relationships and can make the event very unpleasant for a woman who has gone through some sort of tragedy like divorce or death of the spouse and in certain cases the death of a child too.

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rasmein, rasmein...I'll be the first one to freak out and leave the wedding. Already warned everyone don't come up with the rasam stuff. I want a simple and decent wedding...Wedding in our culture is a big party, every BS has to be in, who has the hottest dress? who has the hottest hip swing? who has the hottest make up and these rasmein, dood ki rassam, duhle se paise mangne ki rassam...I think I will place a cow besides me and tell the girls I brought enough milk with me and for the paisa...I'll leave a check at the entrance...

Sorry if I sound offensive, but that's not my type! that's not me...that's not (my), wedding, If people want entertainment/fun I can hire a clown!

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Numb no offence but i think whymost people do these rasmein is for fun. I am sure no one is looking to get a cow out of their brother in law or is so poor they need your money or check at the entrance. Its all in good humour and fun (i am talking about the unharmful rasmain).

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^

ok...

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Without rasmein I think our weddings wud be rathar boring..with the bride n groom decked-up and placed on stage :S

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kya baat? you dont like this rasm :smack:

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rasms

share the ones you know of:

at engagement or promise ring time

at mehdhi

at the reception dinner day of the wedding dinner from the bride's

at the dinner from the groom's

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***I know of these:

  • Doodh Pillai:

  • Ungli Pakrai:

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I know one but I was wondering what the point of it is?
When the bride is brought back to the house after the Rukhsati, the MIL and/or SILs take a matkafilled with water and circulate it around the bride's head and drink's from it. Sometimes the bride and groom actually play pretend to stop them. What is that about?

Another rasm that I enjoy is the gharoli, where the groom's family and friends, before the baraat, go and fill a matka from a well or a neighbour's house so that the groom can "bathe" with it. My aunt currently wants to do this for my cousin even though it'll be really impractical as we live in England.

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surma-pawaii

goda bithaii

baag pharaii

arsi mashaf

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Joota chhupaii

Doodh pilaii

Moonh dikhaii

Umm… Ras milaii , chhupan chhupaii :hehe:

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but some rasams these days are not the actual part of a wedding it looks sometimes very ocha ...

some ppl really carry 2 exists the rasam so badly that after 5 mints u want 2 go off the wedding

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i hate paise mangna!!! i dont why girls do this?
its not a big problem 2 do rasams but collecting mony is sometimes 2 much!

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well i’m not sure but i heard somewhere it’s kinda like the mother takes all the “dukh dard” of her son and DIL and then drink them,as she doesn’t want them unhappy, and then the son stops her from doing so by throwing the matka away!
it’s something like dat…:halo:

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***Never heard of these but it sounds a bit similar to hindu/sikh weddings where they carry matkas on their head. Don't know the significance though but saw a few pics on some photographer's site.

Do you have any pics to share?***

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Have no idea what these three are! Can you elaborate, please?

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Surma pawaii: it is money/gold jewellery given by the groom to his Bhabi and signifies the Paisay given to Bhabi who helped the devar dress up and put surma in his eyes

Baag pharaii- given to sisters of the groom and signifies the money/gifts that the groom gives to his sisters who gold the reigns(baag) of the horse before the baraat leaves.
Arsi mashaf- the rasam in which they make the bride and groom see each other in a mirror or in the ring that has a big mirror fixed in it

Goda bithai-goda:knee..it is the rasam where the devar sits on/besides Bhabi's (bride's) knees and gets money.

All of these are punjabi terms.

Then there is sehra bandi, joota chhupaii, rasta rokna, making the bride read quran when she goes to susral, Oil wali, rice wali.. Etc etc.. There is no end to it