Re: Rishta:confused about where i stand?
Sending positive thoughts your way, hope things work out for the best!
Re: Rishta:confused about where i stand?
Thankyou for the advice and duas everyone.
He still hasn't called my parents, and his contact with me is still there but its hardly anything at all.
Ive decided im going to send him a message today asking him whats going on? what do you think?
Re: Rishta:confused about where i stand?
^ You've only known him a month? I think he may understandably feel it is too soon to make everything official and talk to your parents. Pushing it will make his otherwise good relationship with you sour.
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i wasted my good 15 minutes explaining the same things:nahi:
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there barely is a relationship right now. no contact from him yday, and today i said hi, he replied was positive but busy.
my parents think hes not interested and are starting to think hes rude.
also he was talking to dad before talking to me.
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Nomi, why would a man need that much time to decide, if he's very interested then i would think he wouldn't wait so long to take action?
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its a matter of life…and you think he and his family should rush into it?? they might have other potentials too…or they might be carrying out background check or something… all you need is an excuse to bash the man 
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i’m just trying to understand a man’s thinking. 
he seemed so interested, then why did he give the wrong signals before. i dont get you men or men like this
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if he says yes to my parents.....it wont be to get married or even engaged it will be the permission to get to know eachother better with our parents blessing.
I dont even know if he is interested anymore!
also in the message he wrote me straight after saturday...he said his fam loved me, he thought i was lovely. I told him my parents gave him the green light he was like oh thats good news! i said look just for the sake of going by the book can you call my dad...he said yes no worries. He hasnt called...and although he is contacting me everyday he is either very very busy or not interested anymore because the contact has dwindled down.
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he seemed so interested, then why did he give the wrong signals before. i dont get you men or men like this
i just told u two possible explanations of 'why'....back ground checks, other potential rishtas........and seem interested doesn't mean he should jump to conclusions about an important matter such as marriage......and him being 'not interested' is just what the girl is thinking.........the only way to find out is wait for a formal reply......
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I dont even know if he is interested anymore!
if he isn't interested you can't do anything to change it........and if he is...you can look forward to 'getting to know'........so why freak out over this??
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if he isn't interested you can't do anything to change it........and if he is...you can look forward to 'getting to know'........so why freak out over this??
because he basically told me that he reallly likes me too. So i let my barriers down....hence the freaking out.
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because he basically told me that he reallly likes me too. So i let my barriers down....hence the freaking out.
now if he likes you...he will do the right thing.....can you really do anything now?? what do you expect to achieve??
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now if he likes you...he will do the right thing.....can you really do anything now?? what do you expect to achieve??
I cant do anything really. But i cant I gently remind him that my parents are involved too and they are walking around extremely anxious and thinking that him and his family don't like me?
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Nomi, why would a man need that much time to decide, if he's very interested then i would think he wouldn't wait so long to take action?
It's too fast.
People spend months, even years, planning every detail for their weddings, but only a few hours deciding with whom they will spend their entire lives. That is ridiculousness.
And I am speaking from experience, having two brothers and a husband and watching several friends and cousins go through this process.
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involved too and they are walking around extremely anxious and thinking that him and his family don't like me?
you said its not even a 'baat pakki' thing yet....only 'getting to know'......so your whole family needs to chill.....give the guy the time he needs...... its his decision......sooner or later he will let you guys know......
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It's too fast.
People spend months, even years, planning every detail for their weddings, but only a few hours deciding with whom they will spend their entire lives. That is ridiculousness.
And I am speaking from experience, having two brothers and a husband and watching several friends and cousins go through this process.
this makes sense but what im trying to say is: saying yes does not mean we are getting married or even engaged it means we are to get to know eachother.
If he can tell me straight after that basically its a yes why cant he tell my dad.
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if he isn't interested you can't do anything to change it........and if he is...you can look forward to 'getting to know'........so why freak out over this??
All she will do is guarrantee that he loses interest, even if there was some.
Don't make your interactions all about making it official. There has to be a reason to want to be together, and so make your interactions light and fun and friendly and loving, not full of pressure and stress.
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you said its not even a 'baat pakki' thing yet....only 'getting to know'......so your whole family needs to chill.....give the guy the time he needs...... its his decision......sooner or later he will let you guys know......
this makes sense, but what im worried about is....my dad said that on saturday he will contact him and i can imagine my dad being a bit pressurising so that scares me :S
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All she will do is guarrantee that he loses interest, even if there was some.
Don't make your interactions all about making it official. There has to be a reason to want to be together, and so make your interactions light and fun and friendly and loving, not full of pressure and stress.
This also makes sense and this is what i have done so far, im now freaking out about my dad contacting him on saturday!