About 24 hours. One of my close friend's had a cousin who got married to her cousin. She was born/raised in U.S.....he came over on student visa and had justs graduated. She wasn't to keen on the marriage but gave up under family pressure thinking it would "work out".
They planned on doing nikkah here in the U.S.....and then a "proper shaadi" back home once all the legal papers were fixed. So I got a frantic phone call from my friend (and her cousin). They had done the nikkah. During the evening (same day)...when all the family was in the house...apparantly at one point the guy was in of the rooms talking on the phone.....bride was looking for him and overheard him say that he married her only for papers. From what I was told...she basically heard him say that once he gets his citizenship...he's out (she wasn't sure who he was talking to).
Bride freaked out....thus the phone call to me asking for what should be done next. I gave them contact info. for a lawyer I knew in her state. Next day she filed for divorce and sent a notarized letter to USCIS detailing the story. Of course from what I heard from my friend....there was MAJOR family drama over this but the bride was adamant and stood her ground.
Bride freaked out....thus the phone call to me asking for what should be done next. I gave them contact info. for a lawyer I knew in her state. Next day she filed for divorce and sent a notarized letter to USCIS detailing the story. Of course from what I heard from my friend....there was MAJOR family drama over this but the bride was adamant and stood her ground.
Many times in a night, according to her. Can't blame him though.
^ why was that a problem??? dumb girl...I swear..... the guy should just find another wife who enjoys sex....and lots of it. sheesh, I wouldn't divorce a guy for that, in fact I'd count my lucky stars if he is oversexed. works well for me ;)
hmmm to answer the op: knew of a girl in my previous community..... went through whole shaadi, didn't go thru with the wedding night & called it off the next day. App she never wanted to marry the guy in the first place, but parents' pressure pushed her into it. That is pretty stupid also.
Srlsy people....divorce is not a game. I think the Nikkahnama should have a box to check that says: I accept all the terms & agreements (which is really your signature, but I don't think some people know/understand how serious it is when you sign.
Personally mine was six months, I hate people that say shaadi kar ke teek ho jaye gai shaadi isn't some medicine that makes people better from moral corruption or mental illness
Good luck to ya!
and I agree with you..... our society has a twisted view on what marriage is about.
Let us all hope and pray that if we are single, we find a great and worthwhile life partner, and if we are married, then InshAllah we have a long and happy marriage. Ameen
This world is full of thankless women. They complain of getting less and… even complain when they get plenty. Banda Kia Karay.
Glad you are not one of those in second group.
^ why was that a problem??? dumb girl...I swear..... the guy should just find another wife who enjoys sex....and lots of it. sheesh, I wouldn't divorce a guy for that, in fact I'd count my lucky stars if he is oversexed. works well for me ;)
My sentiments lol. I would be lucky to find a guy like that too!
This thread is depressing. It's like gathering around a camp fire...and instead of telling ghost tales....stories of the shortest marriages are being shared. :(
One of my relos got divorced after three months (which is longer than the time frames mentioned here). She never saw it coming...vaguely remember that her husband had told her that she should visit her mother as it was her (the girl's) birthday...and then like a coward delivered the divorce papers to her home. Couldn't do it in person. Came out later that it was all premediated and the guy had wanted to marry his cousin. Well, he never got his wish. He then married a girl who was said to be very pretty but uneducated as she was poor. The family knew that she wasn't educated but would taunt her about it after marriage. This second wife of his got so tired of the abuse....that she got into contact with the former wife who told her that was treated no better. The second wife then gave HIM the divorce. Talk about karma and tables being turned. This guy...ages after divorcing my cousin (the first wife)....had messaged me asking how she was doing...and said that he was miserable and felt bad for what he did. I guess what goes around eventually comes around.
And another example that comes to mind is of another cousin....who got an annulment maybe the day after her "wedding." Her sister-in-law was complainging that my cousin should wear her dupatta a certain way. My cousin was adamant to wear in the way she had chosen. The nand went and told the groom. He got angry at my cousin (so the story goes) over a dupatta.......and after that they were in court putting an end to things. She's now married to a guy whose a few years younger than her...but him and his family (from what I heard) treat her like a princess. She moved to England where she's now enjoying a better standard of living is expecting her first child. Talk about getting really "lucky"...though I don't belive in the idea of luck.
and I agree with you..... our society has a twisted view on what marriage is about.
Let us all hope and pray that if we are single, we find a great and worthwhile life partner, and if we are married, then InshAllah we have a long and happy marriage. Ameen
Indeed, I don't actually think it's an uncommon mode of thought, I think it happens more often than we think, it's just we don't know.
I know of one person that's very dodgy indeed, wouldn't think twice about stealing, had a criminal record for drug dealing, went to Pakistan and got married, I doubt his wife knew about his past at that time, no doubt she knows about it now. I guess she just puts up with it, I don't think he's actually changed much either.
Girl and guy had nikkah during the wedding function and girl was rukhsatifyed afterwards. After the initial rasms, she and some SILs were in the bedroom when one of the guys nephews came with a phone call for him from his 1st wife, yikes! Girl threw a tantrum, but inlaws begged her to attend walima.. Sad story indeed. But girl is happily married now
This thread is depressing. It's like gathering around a camp fire...and instead of telling ghost tales....stories of the shortest marriages are being shared. :(
ok i know of someone who got divorced on her wedding night. Well the girl's family says she divorced him because he was impotent (didn't look it though :-0) and the guys family says he divorced her because she wasnt a virgin (i don't believe that!)!
Then another one i know of was when the guy was forced to marry a family friend's daughter due to major land issues...he was in love with someone in the states, where he was studying, and he just came to visit his parents here, and they emotionally blackmailed him, and he agreed to the marriage. He told her on the wedding night that he would never touch her because he was in love with someone else. And he never did. They stayed married for three years, and the day he got his divorce, he flew back to the states to find the girl he had left.
I know that doesnt count as a short marriage, but in spirit, the marriage was broken on the wedding night when he refused to touch her, IMHO
ok i know of someone who got divorced on her wedding night.** Well the girl's family says she divorced him because he was impotent (didn't look it though :-0) and the guys family says he divorced her because she wasnt a virgin (i don't believe that!)!**
Then another one i know of was when the guy was forced to marry a family friend's daughter due to major land issues...he was in love with someone in the states, where he was studying, and he just came to visit his parents here, and they emotionally blackmailed him, and he agreed to the marriage. He told her on the wedding night that he would never touch her because he was in love with someone else. And he never did. They stayed married for three years, and the day he got his divorce, he flew back to the states to find the girl he had left.
I know that doesnt count as a short marriage, but in spirit, the marriage was broken on the wedding night when he refused to touch her, IMHO
Like they could tell he was impotent in one night.. and being able to tell the girl wasn't a virgin that night as well.. They both sound as crazy as each other..
someone i know in the small pakistani community here got married to a pakistan banker who worked in london. had a huge shaadi in lahore, i was at the dholki as well. the girl was just 21-22 and very 'modern' and used to club, drink etc but from a wealthy and good family. i had her on facebook and had seen her pics kissing her girl friends and drinking etc (teenage fun i assume)
well, turns out around a few weeks later she gets divorced cuz the guy found out abt her habits and didnt appreciate at all that she was a regular clubber and drinker/smoker etc. however the girl claims the guy was impotent.
girl now back at her mom's place and has an indian boyfriend. life goes on for her.
