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Hehe, it's okay.
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Which is my point in all my posts in this thread i.e. there is so much more to cheating than looks or friendships.
Cheating womens lovers are almost always better looking than their husbands.
Disagree.
There are different types of attractions. Some are there upon first glance but others develop through an emotional connection. Then theres the idealistic type attraction.
Regardless, there will be some form of attraction.
Always.
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Disagree.
There are different types of attractions. Some are there upon first glance but others develop through an emotional connection. Then theres the idealistic type attraction.
Regardless, there will be some form of attraction. Always.
Not sure what exactly your disagreed with.
"I dont think you have an affair only with people you find attractive"
Its almost exclusively with people you are attracted to.
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technically we should be ok with letting our spouses go out to lunch/dinner with a friend...i mean why do we have to be so insecure and controlling all the time? relationships are about trust. if i cant trust my husband to maintain a normal friendship with a female without sexual attraction, or him running away with every other woman on the street...then i need to evaluate my own relationship.
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Besharmi ki b koi hadd hoti ha. I wil not allow her. Every senseble man wil nt allow. Sawal he paida nhe hota. I wil kick her out of my house, forever.
Besharmi ki hadd? excuse me? i am asking for opinions/views over two genuine good friends of opposite sex meeting with each other, not about them having some affair or cheating the husband or anything, so i dont get this why you have used the negative words like besharmi. etc.
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In my line of work, I have many associates/past clients/vendors who are men. It's not uncommon for me to meet up for coffee/lunch with them alone. Sometimes it's directly work related (like if I need to get a contract signed or something), other times it's just to catch up or network. My husband has never had a problem with that. But if I had a random lunch or dinner date with a man whom he did not know, or that I didn't have a business relationship with, or was not connected to us as a couple in any way, then yes, he would have issues with that and honestly, I wouldn't do that to begin with.
We have many couples friends, where I'm friends with the husband and wife, like I'll talk football/sports with the husband's on facebook or discuss/give advice on my line of work via text message or facebook when asked, but I'd never meet my friend's husband without her or my husband with us..that's just weird in my opinion.
i agree with the last part, that is not meeting with your friend's husband separately, that is understandable but i was talking about the girls first hand male friends. some husbands are ok with their wives meeting with males for work purposes, but have different standards when it comes to the wife's male friends.
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It was like a "Hahahahaha" when the poster wrote "BEAR IN MIND THAT THEY ARE ONLY GOOD FRIENDS". This mentality iz a cancer, due to ths mentality, people cheat on thier lif partner. Also our Religion does nt allow free mixing of men n women after merriag undr the black stupid covr of FRIENDSHIP.
i wrote that to made i clear that people do not assume that there must be something going on under the banner of friendship.
i was referring to the scenario where girl and the guy are only friends and girl is not unfaithful to her husband neither is the guy have any ill intentions towards his friend. a scenario where husband is aware of the male friend, and the couple does hangout in group gatherings etc but if occasionally the wife or the friend wants to meet up lets say on lunch/dinner in a public cafe/restaurant without the presence of other friends or the husband, then how would husbands usually take this.
*further for your information, people do exist who still have good values, are faithful to their partners, who respect & value the relationship of marriage, who put friends in friends category only, and who does not cheat their spouses under the banner of friendship.
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If you run into an acquintance by chance thats one thing, but why would you "meet up" a friend alone? One can always "meet up" a friend with husband.
definitely one can meet up along with husband but if on days lets say your friend has some work in your office area or your neighborhood and asks you for a lunch date then is it considered wrong or unacceptable? and why?
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It all boils down to trust, right? My husband travels a lot.. and I encourage him to meet friends, male or female, if he happens to be in the same town as them. I travel for work at times, and have met up with my guy friends then. Just last week I had lunch with a friend because he happened to be close to my office during lunch time.
If my husband has issues with me meeting any guy friend when he is not around - that just means he does not trust me at all and we have some serious stuff to work on. On the other hand, if it's to do with a particular friend.. I would genuinely reconsider my friendship with that person. I trust my husband's judgement enough to know he won't cut me off from friends without reason.
There are lots of opportunities for people today to cheat on their spouse if they want to. Forbidding your spouse from meeting anyone of the opposite sex really achieves nothing. What's stopping them from doing it anyway, and just not telling you? I'd rather know when my husband is meeting other women friends than force him to do it on the sly. It just becomes a bigger deal than it is./QU
couldn't agree more
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Yes, for me its unacceptable and wrong. Bcoz, i don’t believe that men and women can be just friends.
Why Men and Women Cant be friends - YouTube
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i wrote that to made i clear that people do not assume that there must be something going on under the banner of friendship. i was referring to the scenario where girl and the guy are only friends and girl is not unfaithful to her husband neither is the guy have any ill intentions towards his friend. a scenario where husband is aware of the male friend, and the couple does hangout in group gatherings etc but if occasionally the wife or the friend wants to meet up lets say on lunch/dinner in a public cafe/restaurant without the presence of other friends or the husband, then how would husbands usually take this.
*further for your information, people do exist who still have good values, are faithful to their partners, who respect & value the relationship of marriage, who put friends in friends category only, and who does not cheat their spouses under the banner of friendship. *
If you are comfortable with ur views, then why ask a question? And if you have asked people for their views, then be prepared to listen what those are.
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If you are comfortable with ur views, then why ask a question? And if you have asked people for their views, then be prepared to listen what those are.
so i am listening and replying!!
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I disagree to evryone here on a Principal.... It z nt posibl, that a gal or a guy aftr merriage remnz faitful to his/her lif partner, if he/she keeps on meting with male or femal friend acording to religion, medicl scienc n sycology... Cz Physicl attrctn z always thr.. Every sensibl man n woman knws it...
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And it was like "hahaha" again, when u used word "Male friend" instead ov "boy friend" in ur posts here . That shows u know that ur theory iz wrong. Evry Persn here, knows, all u guys r wrong, but women libration army here tryin to creat a space for themselvs. Remembr, u cant justify a wrong thing. U cant prov ur therory from evry angl. And u all guys already knw, in a dep cornr ov ur mind , but Pretending here that there iz nthng wrong
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O My God. Im nt insulting any one. All u guys are my brothrz n sisterz. Im givng my point ov view. I just want to say. That whenevr u try to do somethng Good, whol world try to stop u, what iz hapening with me here. Evrybody tryng to oppose me n givng me warnings. Well. That iz my last msg. Goad bless u..
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^ Your posts are so hard to read and understand. Why are you using language like "ov" instead of the real word "of?" Just curious. It's hard to convey a message when the grammar is so poor. Just saying.
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I believe none of them will be comfortable meeting their opposite gender friend after marriage but still it depends on person. If it's strictly for business then no problem but with a friend I'll say no and never.
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I disagree to evryone here on a Principal.... It z nt posibl, that a gal or a guy aftr merriage remnz faitful to his/her lif partner, if he/she keeps on meting with male or femal friend acording to religion, medicl scienc n sycology... Cz Physicl attrctn z always thr.. Every sensibl man n woman knws it...
What Medical Science or Sociology? Perhaps you are aware of some research which we are not?
As for religion, I said it earlier, not everyone is religious.