ok, i would like to know if your wife has male friends and she asks you if she can meet up her male friend on a lunch or dinner separately like not with the whole group but just her and one male friend, would you allow her and would you be comfortable with this or you would not like this.
bear in mind that both of them are only and only good friends and nothing more than that. so how do husbands take this in general.
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Answer will be very simple when the question is reversed and asked from wife
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It would depend on how attractive he is.
If I had a wife I would be uncomfortable if some of her male friends are significantly more attractive than me.
Its very easy for women to have affairs and sex with attractive men in their proximity.
Women also have bhai type male friends and if he's one of them there's nothing to worry about.
But normally they only have group activities/outings/dinners with them rather than one-one.
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Besharmi ki b koi hadd hoti ha. I wil not allow her. Every senseble man wil nt allow. Sawal he paida nhe hota. I wil kick her out of my house, forever.
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It was like a "Hahahahaha" when the poster wrote "BEAR IN MIND THAT THEY ARE ONLY GOOD FRIENDS". This mentality iz a cancer, due to ths mentality, people cheat on thier lif partner. Also our Religion does nt allow free mixing of men n women after merriag undr the black stupid covr of FRIENDSHIP.
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^ What if some non-Muslim people are using these discussion boards?
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^Man, in a senseible society, such stupid things are not allowed, even if non muslims r discussing such things. Its not about religion, its about comon sense. Why we always try to confuse such simple situations? Even a fool wil nt allow his wif n vice versa
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No.
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Well there are a lot of ‘fools’ around then 
My husband is ok with me meeting whoever I like, male or female..
Most people I know don’t have a problem with this sort of thing but there might be exceptions, depending on the situation..
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In my line of work, I have many associates/past clients/vendors who are men. It's not uncommon for me to meet up for coffee/lunch with them alone. Sometimes it's directly work related (like if I need to get a contract signed or something), other times it's just to catch up or network. My husband has never had a problem with that. But if I had a random lunch or dinner date with a man whom he did not know, or that I didn't have a business relationship with, or was not connected to us as a couple in any way, then yes, he would have issues with that and honestly, I wouldn't do that to begin with.
We have many couples friends, where I'm friends with the husband and wife, like I'll talk football/sports with the husband's on facebook or discuss/give advice on my line of work via text message or facebook when asked, but I'd never meet my friend's husband without her or my husband with us..that's just weird in my opinion.
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No and never.
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Nah! I wouldn't do such a thing myself being a women and wouldn't expect my husband/father to be ok with it even if I do.
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Princejall that's quite extreme but to each is own.
I would never do that anyway. There's a clear line between acceptable and unacceptable in this aspect and if these girls are crossing the line they usually know it. You know who your husband would approve of and wouldn't and the reasons vary. I meet up with coffee for people for work all the time and all my mentors are male but my husband doesn't have a problem with it because these are work related relationships and have no personal meaning. Friendships however are rare and you usually know which friendship is one your spouse won't like so its kind of strange for anyone to hide behind that excuse that he or she is just a friend, in my opinion. Some friendships really are genuinely just that but I'm sure that's not the one your asking about Op. I think most know the difference between a friend or "friend"
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It would depend on how attractive he is.
If I had a wife I would be uncomfortable if some of her male friends are significantly more attractive than me. Its very easy for women to have affairs and sex with attractive men in their proximity.
Women also have bhai type male friends and if he's one of them there's nothing to worry about. But normally they only have group activities/outings/dinners with them rather than one-one.
BUHAHAHAAAA Uzair bhai, there are women like me who prefer confidence over looks.Your analogy is true BUT limited to teens ONLY.Married women have other intense standards.
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OP, how can you say so confidently that the relationship is an innocent one?
it's against all the norms, religious, cultural and societal...
...i would allow her to go on an innocent date if somehow i can secretly video-tape his and her every move during the course of their innocent 'nmeet up'...
...i hope she will allow to go on an innocent date with my choice girl on the following weekend. ;)
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OP, how can you say so confidently that the relationship is an innocent one?
it's against all the norms, religious, cultural and societal...
...i would allow her to go on an innocent date if somehow i can secretly video-tape his and her every move during the course of their innocent 'nmeet up'...
...i hope she will allow to go on an innocent date with my choice girl on the following weekend. ;)
So many fetishes in a single post.
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Personally, I think it depends on the situation and the friend in question. If it is the close "bhai" type friend, it shouldn't be a problem. I should point out, though, that if it's this type of friend and he and the woman have been friends for a long time, the husband is usually aware of the friendship, has met the friend in question and knows him to some extent. If this is the case, the woman usually openly states that she is going to meet up with the friend, says where they are meeting and what they will be doing and makes no issue out of it. Also, the fact that they're choosing to meet for lunch/dinner, presumably in a public place where people can see them, and that the woman is explicitly telling her husband she is meeting a male friend (and most likely, which friend specifically) indicate that there isn't anything dodgy going on. I doubt that people who are intent on having any affair would be so open.
However, if a woman is suddenly wanting to meet with a gentleman friend that she had never mentioned before and the husband had no idea even existed, is quite secretive about their meeting, such as vaguely stating "I'm just going to lunch with a friend, rather than explicitly stating "I'm going to lunch with xyz person at xyz place" and is reluctant and hostile towards answering questions about the friend, such as where she knows the friend from and how long they've been friends, then there is definitely something suspect going on there. Another factor that would make me a bit leary, if I were a guy, is a male friend that my wife recently met and never mentioned to me. If you met someone who you get on well with and think is a good person (enough to want to be friends with them), why not introduce them to your husband or invite them over for dinner along with their significant other (if they have one) on some occasion?
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^ The history of the friendship is a good point, although there are many "friend zone'd" guys who lurk around women.
Like others have mentioned, meeting up with occasional acquaintances is usually not an issue. You meet once in a while, talk, and that's it. "Friends" on the other hand, the type where you're texting all the time, are not harmless. That's how an emotional affair begins.
If the husband is usually not jealous, but is wary of one guy in particular, then you should respect that. Chances are your husband is right and most guys could confirm that. Sometimes, women are shockingly oblivious to the intentions of their male friends.
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^ If the husband is usually not jealous, but is wary of one guy in particular, then you should respect that. Chances are your husband is right and most guys could confirm that. Sometimes, women are shockingly oblivious to the intentions of their male friends.
Quite right, especially the highlighted portion.
You also make a good point about some "friend zone'd" guys who remain friends a girl with other intentions in mind. I think you can gauge a male friend's intentions by how they get on with your significant other. If a male friend knows that his presence or friendship with you, makes your significant other uncomfortable, he'll respect that, back off a bit and try to limit interactions to meeting up every now and again if he is a genuine friend and only wants to be that. A genuine friend would never want to cause problems between you and your significant other, especially if it can be avoided. However, if a gentleman knows that his friendship with you makes your significant other yet carries on as if nothing is wrong in spite of causing tension between you and your significant other and even goes out of his way to antagonise him by not backing off a bit, then it's obvious that he's angling to be a bit more than friends.
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If you run into an acquintance by chance thats one thing, but why would you "meet up" a friend alone? One can always "meet up" a friend with husband.