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[Xtron]

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@aahmed

I have said this over and over again, there should NOT be the concept of “Allow” in a marriage. A marriage is built on trust and love, if there is no trust and love, your marriage is a hollow facade of a sham. With that said, one spouse has absolute authority to veto ANY type or kind of meet up. I’ve had my wife ask me that she doesn’t like me hanging out with a female friend, she’s even said “I know I’m being unreasonable but I just don’t like it”, she didn’t tell me not to do it, she just told me she doesn’t like it with ONE particular female, so I respected her feelings and stopped hanging out with that girl. Case closed.

You young, newly married kids need to get over this whole allow business and just learn to read the cues from your spouses and learn to respect each others’ wishes.

What i have been wanting to say. It is all about trust. And trust is earned. I have female friends, some of them are committed while others are not. And if my wife had issue with any of them..i would respect her wishes. To me..she would be more important than my long time female friends. And vice verca of course.

[Decent_6Chora]

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In early days of the marriage I was being extra careful about what she might or might not like and now after few years I know with certainty what will she like and what will she have problem/concerns with so I do not even “ask”.

Just know and respect each other’s feelings.

[Pryvate_Pigeon]

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Have expectations, trust someone and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, lower your expectations and you can only be pleasantly surprised. No one’s trust is betrayed until it’s betrayed.

[Krypton]

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Marriage sounds boring