Question to relgious ladies about marriage

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Do you believe that ‘rizq’ opens up/increases for the man after the nikaah?

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Not married and not even a lady but my mom says that rizq comes from the girl and the guy. It's not one-sided. But why do people think this is the real question!

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^are you a guy?? :konfused:

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I’m an immature girl who is not yet a lady

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Why does this specifically have to do with religious ladies/folks? Even atheists receive their rizq from Allah.

It's said that when you spend on others (family, the less fortunate, etc), it brings more barkat in your money/earnings. You will be spending on more people after marriage (wife, maybe in-laws, kids, etc)...so based on the above idea...increase in rizq.

I don't know if there's any religious significance (hadith etc) on the issue. I wouldn't depend too heavily on the saying because it's too simplified. There are several influencing factors.

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non religious people think its all BS, so i didn't address it to them....

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so there are no single rich people?, most retarded thing I've ever heard, does it say anywhere in the quran that god will give you monetary rewards if you get married?

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Silly People. Rizq comes from Allah, No matter how rich a guy or chicka is ..He / she could be millionaires but they still eat two roti each .. be it before or after nikah, its just a silly thought who ever came up with it lol

Yes a man may be more rich than his wife cos she is the key to his success but in terms of rizq per se. There is no limits ..

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are you one of those ppl that believe that rizq comes from a woman's luck (naseb) and children from a man's naseeb??

this is a line often thrown around in our desi circles..

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I remember it was explained to me this way--when a man's role is that of primary breadwinner, it's up to the wife to make sure he has a pleasant enough home environment that he can focus on work and be successful. Be supportive of his career, his cheerleader etc...it's a pretty simple view, but it makes sense to me.

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Yes there a hadees abt it. Go and search

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Only if he marries a rich man's daughter.

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I'm far from being religious but here's my answer.

"And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Sâlihûn (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allâh will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allâh is All-Sufficent for His creatures' needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)." [Surah Al-Nur, Verse 32]

there are other ways of increasing rizq as well...like praying regularly, doing astaghfaar and reciting Surah waqiah and giving charity etc.
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I wasn't saying from POV of like..what to do to get more rizq...with marriage being one of the options...i was talking about it as a sort of outcome of marriage...The reason i asked is..... if some woman believes that allah will provide the rizq.....why do almost all women focus on ''well settled person who can provide financial security'' as a precondition?...

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lol...you should've written this in the opening post. I didn't know you had this in your mind.

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I wanted to see if anyone even believed it in the first place....because if no one believes that the second question becomes redundant.

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Although it's preferred to marry someone for his/her good character...it's acceptable to marry someone based on their financial status as well.

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........define rizq and *financial security *

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Hmm, but if it's our iman...regardless of gender....that Allah will provide the rizq, then why do some guys set financial security as a precondition for marriage? The definition of that financial security will vary from one guy/woman to the next, but it doesn't have to be inflexible/rigid right? For example, is it necessary to own ur own home as a precondition to marriage ...when u can also start off with something smaller like an apartment, but with a stable job and hard work...expand to bigger and better over time. There expectations/preconditions are not only confined to the women. Men have em as well, no?

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you are just arguing for the sake of argument lol....i thought you knew, that what women look for when considering a guy is his ability to to provide financial security. The guys look for the prettiness and all that...... the guys set the condition because thats whats expected of them.... nobody gives rishtay to a person who is not ''settled''...... you would agree thats one of the first question when considering a rishta from girl's side...Guy wouldn't worry too much about getting settled if it wasn't a requirement .......that is one of the key reasons for delayed shaadi's i think......