Question to relgious ladies about marriage

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LOL. So it MUST be a requirement from another party in order for the guy to want to be financially secure? Otherwise he would never take reasonable precautions for the future of his own accord/aqal....haina?

I already know women desire financial security. I never said they didn't, did I? I only added that it's important to men too...and I don't think it's only because it's among the top requirements of women....it's ALSO because men are the providers for their families...it's deeply ingrained in them, connected to their self-esteem/self-concept even.

But why put it mainly on the girls? The girls have fathers...who desire a financially secure husband for their daughters, even if let's say the girl is so in love and not overly concerned about it......reinforcing my point that again it's important to men too.

And you mentioned the concept if rizq increasing with marriage. I've heard the saying, though I don't know if it's backed by hadith. A Guppan said there was a religious reference supporting the idea, but she didn't list them and nor have I searched. But let's forget about this saying.....and look at something even more fundamental: That Islam has assigned the role of provider to the husbands. If Allah has made it a requirement, then why get so upset over the girls? Jo farz hai, so farz hai.

Now what is adjustable is the definition of financial security. And that will vary from one person to the next...for both guys and girls. For some it's being of a particular profession. For some it's about the possession of certain material things. For others it could be more basic.

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Yeah, the wife brings rizq. If she has a job.

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I don't know how true this is or what's the logic behind this either but my father's financial conditions changed drastically the moment she got engaged to my mother. He got this opportunity, he took it & taadaaa ...... :D

Well what you have mentioned goes the other way around too I mean it increases the rizq & decreases it too sometimes.... that's what I have observed from the people who got married around me, I might be wrong ...

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^There are married men who lose their jobs, whose businesses are struggling, etc.

I've heard in a lecture that Allah switches days amongst us....dinon ko phairna I think is what it was? As in alternating times of ease and hardship amongst His servants.

There is a danger in associating rizq with the woman. It's like the drama miraat-ul-aroos where the MIL kep saying how her first bahu is so lucky and how her entry brought forth a job promotion, a car, and what not. She would complain that her second bahu was unlucky as only problems took place after her arrival. But as the drama progresses she learns how wrong her views were because with the passage of time both bahus experienced gains and losses, happiness and trials, etc.

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^ dinon ka phairna never heard of that :konfused: