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Well why single out guys? Don't girls do it too?
Anyways, when I was single, my parents and I had the understanding that if I chose any guy he would be approved by my parents (well on the basic level--Pakistani, Muslim, educated, "good" family etc). I never even "considered" the type of guys I could never marry....made life alot simpler :p
Brilliant statement!
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I think you have not heard of the term "Mummy Ko Nahi Hai Pata" .... !
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I always wonder on these issues.... If boys can't convince their parents then why they commit with girls.
guys should clear these things to girls that he wouldn't marry her without his parents consent.
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^why are girls so stupid to believe that a guy would go against his parents???
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I always wonder on these issues.... If boys can't convince their parents then why they commit with girls.
guys should clear these things to girls that he wouldn't marry her without his parents consent.
in desi culture, parents are essential part of our life style. Why a girl takes it for granted that guy will be able to convince his parents without any problem? I mean to say that any thing is possible but girls dont want to think negative and thats how trouble comes if parents dont agree.
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in desi culture, parents are essential part of our life style. Why a girl takes it for granted that guy will be able to convince his parents without any problem? I mean to say that any thing is possible but girls dont want to think negative and thats how trouble comes if parents dont agree.
Guys know their parents well and their likes and dislikes in choosing bahus. The guys should know that the parents won't approve of a particular caste or they won't approve of their sons' choice. Sometimes parents don't approve of a girl without any apparent reason. Its because they think that such a girl might not have a good character because she is with their son.
Guys should make the girls clear in the beginning that the dating part is just a trial period and nothing should be considered final. Girls are emotional and they do tend to think that if a guy is dating them, he will necessarily be marrying them which may not be the case because of parents approval. On the other hand, guys should immediately talk to their parents once they decide on a particular girl rather than prolonging the dating period so that they can start their mission to convince their parents or to stop wasting their time with that girl and start looking for a new girl.
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Guys know their parents well and their likes and dislikes in choosing bahus. The guys should know that the parents won't approve of a particular caste or they won't approve of their sons' choice. Sometimes parents don't approve of a girl without any apparent reason. Its because they think that such a girl might not have a good character because she is with their son.
Guys should make the girls clear in the beginning that the dating part is just a trial period and nothing should be considered final. Girls are emotional and they do tend to think that if a guy is dating them, he will necessarily be marrying them which may not be the case because of parents approval. On the other hand, guys should immediately talk to their parents once they decide on a particular girl rather than prolonging the dating period so that they can start their mission to convince their parents or to stop wasting their time with that girl and start looking for a new girl.
i could be totally wrong but i think that dating stage is always a trial period and nothing should be considered final. Higher the expectations, bigger the disappointment.
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Sometimes parents don't approve of a girl without any apparent reason.** Its because they think that such a girl might not have a good character because she is with their son.**
Funny how their reasoning only seems to go in one direction lol..
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^why are girls so stupid to believe that a guy would go against his parents???
Hard as it might be to belive some guys don't just blindly follow parents esp if it comes to things such as marrying outside the family or caste..
A decent guy would try and convince his parents rather than seeings things in such a black + white way -** it's not about girl V parents..**
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Guys should make the girls clear in the beginning that the dating part is just a trial period and nothing should be considered final.
can't girls use their brains??? what would take it for girls to undrstand that a marriage happens when it actually happens.....untill then its just trial period..
Hard as it might be to belive some guys don't just blindly follow parents esp if it comes to things such as marrying outside the family or caste.. A decent guy would try and convince his parents rather than seeings things in such a black + white way - it's not about girl V parents..
yea..girls should not use their brains...and always hope that the guy they are with will go against parents....pin all her hopes on him..........and then whine afterwards....
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i could be totally wrong but i think that dating stage is always a trial period and nothing should be considered final. Higher the expectations, bigger the disappointment.
can't girls use their brains??? what would take it for girls to undrstand that a marriage happens when it actually happens.....untill then its just trial period..
Girls are more emotional and take dating as something serious. They get emotionally attached and involved soon. Since guys know their parents well, they should tell the girl what kind of resistance they should expect. Sometimes, there is no resistance so girls think since the guy is proceeding with them, he is confident of his parents which is not always the case. Girls want to be sincere since the begining. Thats why they think that if they are to be involved with a guy, they WILL BE marrying him. Its the guy's duty to keep them informed about their parents and possible resistance they will be facing. Some guys plan to convince their parents while some plan to just agree on leaving their girl for their parents' choice. They should inform the girl in clear words of their level of involvement with the girl in the beginning.
Funny how their reasoning only seems to go in one direction lol..
Yes, because girls' character is more important in our elders' eyes and guys are allowed to do anything and everything. The guys' parents don't seem to acknowledge that in any love relationship, the guy is also to be 'blamed' equally as the girl. Its not always like Larki ne hi larkay ko phansaya hai. Guys are not babies who just blindly fell in love with a girl. Guys parents think that their bahu should be of good character since she will be the mother of their grand children. So they can't see a girl as their bahu who has 'trapped' their son.
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well…girls stay stupid, keep getting hurt…saanu ki 
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Khalil Khan is so right but The best answer to Reha's Question, I heard from an old friend was
Misery Loves Company!....:D
Needless to say the guy is Divorced...:(******
**hahaha...yeh to aise hii hai jaise:
chor chorii karne se pahle police se to nahiiN poochhtaa...jab pakRaa jaataa hai to bheegii billii ban jaataa hai :D**
When you lot date and court the opposite sex...do you ask your parents?
Then WHY all of a sudden is parental approval so necessary when you're tying the knot?
Jab dating karte hein tab to poochte nahin...shaadi ke vaqt ek dam se bheegi billi..."ammi ji, shaadi karloon?"
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Spreading stereotypes about women being more fragile, while being a woman yourself
Not good :no:
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Spreading stereotypes about women being more fragile, while being a woman yourself
these are not stereotypes.......thats truth..
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And have you conducted a survey?
Its not the ''truth'' unless you've been in relationship(s) many times yourself, otherwise you're basing your opinion on the usual ''haw aurat itni kamzor or unstable si majboor jaan hoti hai''
Hence a stereotype, nothing more.
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^why are girls so stupid to believe that a guy would go against his parents???
Because guys make them believe that they will fight for them...... Many mother have issues with their son's choice just because their son has chosen a girl without their consent. And i have seen many cases where guys have convince their parents.
in desi culture, parents are essential part of our life style. Why a girl takes it for granted that guy will be able to convince his parents without any problem? I mean to say that any thing is possible but girls dont want to think negative and thats how trouble comes if parents dont agree.
Actually as i have said before that guys make them believed that they will convince their parents. And those who are really sincere with the girl they marry her with their parents consent. When people start dating they start talk about all the possibilities and at that time guys were like "agar ghar waly razi na howy tu amin tum sey court marriage ker loon ga" and girls always say "court marriage nahin kerni.. apny ghar waloon ko mana ker mujhy izat sey ley ker jaoo" (not exactly like this but something like this :P). Its always a girl who says that parents consent should be there in marriage proposals.
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^why are girls so stupid to believe that a guy would go against his parents???
And i am not saying that guy should go against his parents.. off course he should convince his parents for his marriage.. what i am trying to say is that guy should make it clear to his parents that he will choose the girl after spending some time with her... and when he start dating he should make sure that girl is according to his mother's standard so that his mother doesn't have any issues with the girl.
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Being a girl and having known many girls, I know we start taking guys very seriously. If a guy has talked to us nicely and politely, we start thinking, oh he has started liking me and he wants to be with me. We have this in-built defect. Kia karain ab? But in the dating scene, the guys know their parents best. They should inform the girl of any possible conflicting situation so that the girl can be mentally prepared. Yes, the girls are more emotional as compared to guys but you guys should handle us well. Otherwise, you don’t deserve us 
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Agreed :k: